How to deal with anger after a bad beat?😡😡

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FlushKings311

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Anger

I have gone through a couple laptops. I am definitely a sore loser. Sometimes things just don't seem fair or right, get mad, get over it, try again tomorrow
 
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I just start kicking and punching on my punching bag,let the grudge out
 
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I see it as a thankless task in trying to avoid anger. It is a feeling that is part of being human. But maybe when we try not to repress or explode, but try to understand the function of this feeling in that moment when it arose, understand why the reaction is that way, maybe we can get better internal material with it.
 
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I do not get tilted over coin flips so that is why I don’t find Omaha as tilting. But really bad beats like that less than 10% predicted get to me. Pair over another pair. 30% preflop I seen that often enough it hasn’t gotten to me. Casino have a bad beat prize pool too so there’s something to look forward to take the pain away.
Ace high flush got beaten by straight flush after she call all at the turn I think she needed the only card in the deck for the win and she hit it. I think I calculated as 5% chance. So that would be worse bad beat I got. I have to take month off poker
So it happens.
If I’m playing online I throw things and swear and yell out loud and that tends to calm me down.
If I’m playing live I swear quietly or go play some golf afterwards to release the anger. If it’s really anger from really bad beat less than 10% I have to leave the table and just not play for a while.
 
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Bad Beat.

I get peeved off at many stupid plays but I have learned to calm down by keeping the chat on the poker site so I can't see it. Nothing more annoying when someone that makes the most stupid play and gets rewarded then starts talking like they are a genius in chat.
 
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Sometimes I can just let out a quick swear and maybe a grrr, and I'm over it. If the anger seems like it's lingering, I remind myself of all the times I make lots of chips off of some guy paying me off by calling big bets chasing a gutshot or thinking their middle pair is good.
 
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I don't get angry, it solves nothing, changes nothing and takes focus away from the next hand. Poker is a math game ad the more you play the more things even out. No one will win every flip or avoid the long odds sickout so you can get mad and rant and rave all you want but nothing changes..
 
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Tell yourself "I are in control of what I choose to get angry about."

Do this over and over again until you catch and diffuse yourself.

When you see progress know that you will fail again in the future.

The key is to never stop trying.
 
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hi

I just scream so loud to vote the stress
 
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hi

hey i tilt too when i get 3bet every hand cuz im like **** ppl are at least halfway decent at these limits i wish i could go back in time and play poker a lot

u will get stronger poker is a beautiful game have some patience with yourself

and u gotta realize even when u get a bluff through , u ran good( sometimes u just bluff into the nuts)

u gotta think in terms of percentages and long term poker , getting in ur money 60% is all u can ask for even AK vs AQ is only like 75%

also a tip for poker are timing tells call fast = never thought about raising , take too long to bet, likely bluff

and then bet sizing in general ppl give away their hand strengh
 
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I think you have to focus on how you played the hand, sure sometime it can be a little frustrating but nobody counts how much times hero had JJ and beat AA or KK. We can always win a hand playing it poorly as lose playing it perfectly
 
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Poker is a matter of strategy and luck with combinations of cards falling from cards that is sequence.
 
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Yes excellent advice, the truth is that I also have problems with anger, I have to let off steam but in silence hahaha, I know it's bad but even so it is very necessary to control anger.
 
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i think players get the impression that bad beats don't happen very often. in fact, i think you should expect a bad beat every session. if you were the statistical favourite and played the hand perfectly, then you did nothing wrong if you lost. stop playing for a few minutes and review the hand.

you just have to chuckle and tag that player.

i'll admit that a few bad beats in a row can get frustating and if i see it affect my game i'll quit. my tilt isn't anger, it shows as:
- vpip increase. i start playing a little looser
- i start getting more aggressive
- or i'm more passive/timid and have an expectation to lose, missing out on value bets
- i mkae bad calls when spider sense is blaring to fold
- fast clicking instead of thinkng, etc
 
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bad beats happens so often i can not remember how many i had.

Also i give a lot bad beats to players.

In the past years i had to buy more then 10 new mouses because they broke after i throw it away :)
 
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Guys, can you give me some advice how to deal with anger and frustration after loosing a hand that you were 100% sure that you would've won?



Maybe the best place to start is even before poker is played. Change your thoughts about poker from the get-go. Remembering that each hand is not over until its actually over and many things can happen that are out of our control. There are many places in poker during each hand where things can change drastically; preflop, flop, turn and river and now add other people into the mix of it all.

I do not let my mind tell me stories that COULD or MIGHT be true (this works very well in other aspects of my life as well). I only let my mind rely on facts when it comes to poker then there is nothing for me to get so worked up that I can’t get a handle on my anger and move on by the time the next hand rolls out.

Yes, of course I get upset but usually by the time the next hand rolls around to play, I am calm and ready to go again. If I allowed myself to think that I 100% am gonna win this hand before its over, then yes I could see myself becoming raging mad as well. Let alone I don’t think this is very healthy for the body, mind or spirit to place ourselves in situations of stress and anger more often then required. If we love and choose to play poker we must remember how unpredictable it can be and except the outcome. Get up, dust our pants off and try again :).

In the end, the best hand is the winning hand. Let the poker story unfold the truth. Do not let your mind spin a story and believe it because it will most likely always lead to disappointment.
 
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What makes it easier for me to process a bad beat I thought I was going to win is to simply blame myself... let me explain. When I get bat beat (Normally on the flop) I tend to tell myself that I could have played differently. It goes further than that but I'll spare you (and my typing fingers) the details. I take ALL losses as a learning opportunity, even after 27 years of experience, I still learn from myself every time that I play.
 
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So, I want to start with the '100% sure to win' - I have a problem with this statement as it's tough to have a hand where your opponent has no equity on the flop and turn(even when you have your opponent 'dead' with something like a set vs a backdoor flush draw and/or backdoor straight draw, your opponent still has like 5% equity* for example if you have 77 on a 7d 8d 2s flop and your opponent goes 'crazy' with Ad3s he still has little over 5% equity and if he hits the perfect turn 4d or 5d his chances of winning increases to around 25%...); it's tough luck when this happens but if you play a lot it will happen and you'll just have to accept it as it's part of the game, you can't control it and you can just make the best decisions on each street to maximize your chances of winning...

Jerard Tendler has two great books called The mental game of poker and for sure it will help you improve your mental game level, also there are lots of free videos on YouTube or similar sites about this topic that can help too...
 
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Bad beat anger

I scream out a bad word, mumble for about 5 seconds and then it's over.(playing online) I'm downstairs, my wife will hollar down "did you say something?" I'll say "playing poker". She'll say "oh". And then I go on with life.
 
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Poker is a game played over a lengthy period of time. No one plays and consistently wins in the short term.
Keep your focus on the long term game.
If you believe your selections will pay off in the long term, all you have to do now is focus on getting volume in. You can move on once you recognize that having a seemingly nutted hand is not necessarily free money.
If you can't accept this, you'll quickly tilt, and the game will be far more stressful than it's worth. :joyman:
 
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Hunt down his family and ..I'm just kidding.......you just simply got to move on..:D
 
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Sit-out for 10 mins if you are playing cash games. A small break can help to let go off tilt.
 
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if the buy-in is big, then the move is painful!!! especially if you went far in the tournament
 
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The most important thing is to use logic in what you gonna do.
Therefore, the ideal antidote against tilt is to be on tilt)
More precisely, the more you train and expose your body to stress, the more it becomes resistant to it.
 
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