My poker dreams are slowly fading away…

Gorak

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My poker dreams are slowly fading away…

From my point of view; I think the field is getting harder to beat every day.

The sites promotions are not as good as what they used to be.

I lost most of my motivation for grinding. Right now I'm taking a break from the grind.

I don't know what to do to regain my motivation.

Maybe there are books or videos that could address that subject.

Any suggestions?
 
TimovieMan

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Taking a break is the correct thing to do in this case, imo.

Re-adjust your goals (i.e. stop grinding for max $ but play for fun and to improve as a player), and/or go do something non-poker related.
 
TeUnit

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maybe take a break, or like 50 used to say " switch ur style up and watch the money pile up" ie try new games and or sites
 
Gorak

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Re-adjust your goals (i.e. stop grinding for max $ but play for fun and to improve as a player), and/or go do something non-poker related.
I liked the extra money poker has brought me over the years. But I don't have as much fun playing anymore.

I already started many non-poker related activities; but they are not as profitable in terms of money. :(
 
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alexis8888

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Just play. I have no any poker dreams but have enough fun playing poker. Money cant buy happiness.
 
wilpinsi

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the myth of losing interest in poker.

1- you is losing every day, it wears

2 when realizes will not get anywhere, think that all is lost, and so plays no interest, it will take you to a single place to defeat

3 where you will find motivation to go back and this time stronger than at the beginning?
within yourself, then that this player, the champion, just knowing wake him,
not discouraged by little, the big players also went through these obstacles, and still won!

4 follows fighting, you will realize that we can often change, just for this want.

*** good luck.
 
Dorugremon

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This is not very helpful. Let's take 'em one-by-one.

"My poker dreams are slowly fading away…"

What dreams? I can "dream" all I want about a 1st place finish at the wsop, but what's important is what I might do to make it happen. You don't start with unrealistic "dreams": you set realistic goals. You also need to get acquainted with Vera Variance: Lady Luck's uglier, meaner sister.

There are times when you will lose your ASSSSSSSS, not because you did anything wrong, but because your fishy opponent hit that one outer, and did it more than once when you got it in good against him. Don't think of it as a loss. Think of it as a temporary loan that will be paid back with interest, because it will (unless they blow it at the Craps tables). There's no limit to the fish that'll replace him.

Last night SUCKED: I'd hit it with hands like AK, AQ, AJ, TT, JJ and miss every last one. I ran 0-for-5 with pocket kings. It happens, and there's not Thing One you can do about it, other than lose less than any rec-fish would do with the same hands in the same situations. The best you can do is stay off tilt, and wait for Vera to go pick on someone else.

If you stay on top of it and do your best to always play your A-game, you'll come back. You could spend more time rubbing your luck box. :D

"From my point of view; I think the field is getting harder to beat every day".

No it isn't. I don't know of any venue, live or on-line, where I can see more fish than I could visiting Sea World. Quite frankly, I am baffled trying to figure out how they could make the silly mistakes they make.

"The sites promotions are not as good as what they used to be".

Less competition since Black Friday. Thanks Congress! Thanks Barack! NOT! "Land of the free and home of the brave?", not any more it isn't.

"I lost most of my motivation for grinding. Right now I'm taking a break from the grind".

Nothing wrong with taking a break, if that's what you think you need to do.

"I don't know what to do to regain my motivation".

See above.
 
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Gump877

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Maybe try some different poker variants that you don't normally play. I do best at NL tournaments but still play 0/8, Omaha and mixed games to keep it interesting. Not sure what games you play but the NL grind Definitely gets boring. Setting goals also helps keep you motivated or adjust your routine around. If bankroll or busting isn't a issue, taking shots at higher stakes would always make me focus more and would usually reduce any stress at stakes I would normally play. Could try advancing your game, take on new angles that your not that familiar with like mastering the LAG strategy will give you a lot more action and becomes more satisfying IMO when you win. Sometimes playing to much you just start to leak with out realizing it and you just need to take some time off the game.
 
lorres1991

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What sites do you play on? I feel the same way playing on poker stars, then I head over to party poker and the games are so much easier it makes my head explode. They have some nice bonuses and stuff too, and the Missions have given me like $30 in free stuff from a $20 deposit, not even counting the deposit bonus I'm working on.
 
S3mper

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I think the best suggestion would be to take some time off of poker. People can get burnt out on anything that they do often no matter how much they love it. Doing the same thing day in and day out can wear you down.

I've had phases where I've stopped playing poker for a week or two and usually don't even think about it until something triggers me that reminds me of poker that will make me want to play again.


It can be anything from obvious like seeing Phil Hellmuth eating food on my TV or something like hearing the word "bankroll" or something strange like seeing a desirable luxurious lifestyle/location
Often I come back playing better than I left.
 
xpvictor1

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I understand .. but luckily .. only dreams ??

I hope only your dreams have been shattered and not your bank account or relationships. Life provides us with ample opportunity to switch up our dreams or perhaps just have more realistic expectations. I was divorced .. then I realized there was "life after wife" (new wife is wonderful). Believe me , there is life after poker too.
 
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Gorak from me been playing for about 7 years but only as entertainment, I will say try some other games as Badugi, 2/7 Lowball or Razz they are easier and fun the only problem is that there are very few games but if you find them it will be fulfilling. :)
 
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Others are right, take a break, evaluate what you want to get out of poker.

For me switching sites and having people who play regularly and who are better players than me in my life have helped me immensely. Now I play with a goal of profit but also find myself getting more excited and getting pumped to sit down and play, to maneuver around tricky spots, to know i folded correctly, or that I value betted and went to value town. To see spectacular bad beats and just take it all in. To just embrace it all and accept it all. if I still totally sucked at poker it wouldn't be fun as fun but I've come to terms with the fact that people play for different reasons and for some poker is different meanings to them. And I'm honest with myself , if i really don't want to play today i won't. If I sit down and find myself bored or tilted, nowadays I'm taking a break.
 
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Hero4real

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It aint about how hard you hit, its about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep moving forward, thats how winning is done!
 
Gorak

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Others are right, take a break, evaluate what you want to get out of poker.
I mostly play poker for the extra money it gets me. I paid for my car (used) with my poker earnings. Now I'd like to play to replenish my bank account.

But if you take the money factor out of poker or you make it harder to win then I'm not going to play for long in that context.

Also all the constant VIP program changes and the mergers from sites all over the place is giving me extra work that I really don't need at this moment.
 
S3mper

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I think I'm burnt out because I played too much and the results were not like they used to be.

This could be correlated with playing too much without a break. Yes, the fields are also getting tougher which probably plays a big part too but when you add constant 7 days a week playing on top of that it's going to show up in your results.

I remember a story from Doyle Brunson talking about playing online and someone was sweating him and he told Doyle he was playing bad. Doyle mentioned thinking he was actually playing decent and he didn't realize till later that it was a result of playing too much without taking any breaks.

I've looked for this story so I could tell it accurately but can't find it. It may have been in one of his books. Can't remember now.
 
Gorak

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This could be correlated with playing too much without a break.
I admit that I've been playing too much for too long.

Maybe that is one of the problems with MTT's. Once you are in, you have to play until you bust or win. That may mean eating in front of the computer or staying up late.

I wished I could win a big amount before taking a real break. Right now I limit myself to freerolls.
 
S3mper

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A break doesn't have to be months. Even a week off or a CC freeroll a day for a couple of weeks could go a long way if you do decide to take some time off.
 
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ELDONKOII

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you have to constantly adapt your game altho unless u are playing mid stakes tourneys and cash you arent ever gonna beat the field with just strategy because ,theres 20 million poker wannabes playing the low stakes and a few pros mopping up the fish lol... take a look at where you lost and why you should have folded ...winning a hand wont always win the tourney but folding one might :)
 
Gorak

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Following the advice of some ITT; I reduced my poker activities to almost freerolls only.

I think I paid less than 1$ of rake this month. I still managed to make about $100 from the freerolls. :)

But my passion for the game has not returned yet. I guess I'll have to wait some more.
 
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andreii955

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dreams remain dreams, reality is different, we all want to win the jackpot you win the jackpot but only one. There will always dream and I dream to win the tournament but it's hard WOSP.
 
S3mper

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Following the advice of some ITT; I reduced my poker activities to almost freerolls only.

I think I paid less than 1$ of rake this month. I still managed to make about $100 from the freerolls. :)

But my passion for the game has not returned yet. I guess I'll have to wait some more.

Are you able to play some live poker? I find live poker to be a little more enjoyable. Get to have some human interaction with people who share a passion.
 
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