On Replay its VERY easy to use all of your time when you need to think because they really don’t give you much time and there is no time bank. For how seriously people play in the CC Leagues, I consider the game time reasonable -about 2-3 hours total. If you’re playing league games, it most certainly is not about the money, its more about the love of the game. I love the game so it does not bother me because Im the one choosing to be there playing, knowing full well that the only “time” I have any control over is my own. I must really love poker and Cards Chat because I still choose to play at Replay (least favourite place to play
). What others choose to do with their time is out of my control, so I don’t allow it to bother me unless Im having a really bad day and in that case its definitely better for me to not play at all on those days.
Not worrying/annoyed about things I cant control is a philosophy I use not only in poker but life in general. The only thing we each have control over, is ourselves. If I got myself all worried/annoyed over what other people are doing all the time I‘d probably have high blood pressure or be dead already from a massive heart attack, and thats just not worth it, so its not worth it for me to worry about things I have no control over.
Honestly, I hope my post helps you because with your chat towards me on Friday………well ……you just might be taking yourself down a very unhealthy path of unnecessary stress.
On Friday when we were both playing I felt attacked by your presumptuous assumptions as to how I used my time and in case you didn’t know, you really peeved me off and I don’t tend to anger very quickly. Not that its any of your business how I play or use my time to begin with but I am probably one of the quickest players in the Team League as I usually always have my mind made up and the button pressed long before it’s my turn but then there are those
hands, that I just need more time to think and in Replay, during those hands I could use a slight bit more time. When I have a hand I need to think about while playing in Replay…..my time always almost runs out or does run out. I have been playing poker for a while now but still consider myself a newb and still have lots of learning to do especially in the CC League games. There are so many amazing players to play and learn with/from, including yourself
. I truly admire ALL players in the League and always look forward to my game day. One of the other reasons I usually try to have my button pressed before its my turn is because so many times on Replay I have had troubles with not being able to play a really good hand at all because of lag or whatever glitches occur.
Shortly after playing on Friday I went on CC to post in our team thread and then went to see what new threads of discussion there was and lo and behold……I found this/your thread and I must say it gave me a chuckle, thats for sure. I was then prepared to come here and give you a piece of my mind because during the game you were giving me grief for no good reason. The thought even crossed my mind, that you were picking on me because Im female and that I would most likely just sit there and take it. Anyhow I usually like to think things over before I do or say something I may regret later. So I did just that, and I decided that I felt more sorry for you than angry and that maybe I could say something that would be helpful instead of a blast of anger.
There are many other reasons that people use their ”time” playing poker and yes Im aware that you have considered them all. When playing online “time” is one of the only ways we can try to toy with our opponent’s mind as to what cards we really have. So yes occasionally I do use my time to try to muddle things up a bit but certainly not in Replay…..they don’t give enough time to even bother.
I agree that time is precious and highly valued and as I get older (57) it feels even more precious But so is our health and getting ourselves all worked up in a lather over what others choose to do with their time is pointless because it will get you no where but 6 feet under. Maybe try to look at it in a different light….while others are taking time, you now have time to take a sip of tea…..take a deep relaxing breath…..pause and reflect that maybe someone is having internet issues that you don’t have at the moment and count your blessings. I also use this type of thinking for things such as red lights while driving. Instead of being annoyed with the red light I use it to my advantage and relax. We can change the way we feel about something by changing the way we look at something.
I know what Im about to give as an example is going to make this post even longer but….hey….oh well it’s my time to choose and I really want to help you feel less stressed about this, especially when you would consider quitting the league games over it.
A while ago when my kids were young, we lived in a very small house where my bedroom was just off the living room. I am a very light sleeper and have troubles falling asleep because I am so excited about life, I don’t want to sleep
and have always been like that. Anyhow, when my kids were old enough to stay up later they would want to watch movies or play video games at a reasonable volume, also laughing and talking (trying to whisper knowing how their mom was) but man……was I sleep deprived and frustrated for a while. Yes I could tell them to turn it down, but it would have be too low for them to enjoy. So I thought about this for a good long time and came up with an idea that maybe it was the way I was thinking about it that was causing ME problems. So I changed my thinking pattern. I helped myself realize that the sounds of my family enjoying themselves was a beautiful thing and should actually help me sleep better instead. It took time but after a while it was like I could use their sounds like relaxing meditation and fall asleep peacefully knowing I was safe, they were safe and right there where I could hear them. This was a revelation to me and was the start of me making other changes as well. Like red traffic lights, those used to really annoy me too
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Change your stars (from the movie “A knights Tale”) ObbleXY make the time that other players take…..work for you and not against you and perhaps your League
poker games will be more relaxing and a joy once more
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