I've always tried to read the players actions but I seem to play to defensive and then once I get confident I lose it all
I don't believe you when you are saying that once you get confident you lose everything; probably happened to you few times(perhaps you lost a hand playing like this with a big pot on the table) and that's why remained you in the mind that when you play like this you lose. Actually you may win nice pots playing defensive but you have to know when to do it and against who.I've always tried to read the players actions but I seem to play to defensive and then once I get confident I lose it all