Dealing with extremely rude aggressive people at the table.

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Was playing live tonight ran up 300 too 3k at the 2/3 300nl. Some guy says I slow rolled someone because I didn't snap call with a full house and I had 2.5k stack to his 400$ stack. The black guy to my left, who's not even in the hand, swipes my shoulder and starts saying "wtf is wrong with me?" Why I did that etc etc. Starts saying that people get beaten up in the parking lot etc etc. Calls me a kid. Just starts talking mass shit... I try too keep it cool given I'm already about to cash out. Finally I just start ignoring it. What is it with these people? Why are they seriously just so disgusting. I ended up just cashing out and leaving. This is honestly one of the reasons why I stopped playing 300nl live because there is just way too many low life's in Los Angeles at these stakes I've noticed. Usually I'll play the 5/5 300-1k buy in.
 
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I'm sorry to hear that you had an experience like that. :( There are quite a few jerks in the world and unfortunately for us some of them play poker. You did the right thing to be cool, especially with the one who "swiped" your shoulder. There is no excuse for that and I hope that, especially with the comment he made, you had a plan if he got more aggressive. Leaving was the best thing to do. :)

A few weeks back I was playing a cash game and sitting in seat five. Earlier in the game he had gotten extremely verbally aggressive with the nice guy who was sitting in seat nine next to the dealer. Well I made a raise and apparently I'd miscounted my chips when making a raise and hadn't placed double the bet I was raising. This man on my right, in sneering way, said some phrase that I didn't understand.

He began getting little antagonistic with another few comments. Based upon his previous behavior I was worried that he might possibly do something physical. If he'd made a move towards me, I was prepared to counter that with a move that I learned years ago from a former Green Beret and still practice periodically. Nothing came of it, but the important thing is that I was prepared with a plan should something have occurred. ;)
 
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What is it with these people? Why are they seriously just so disgusting.
Says the guy who felt the need to slowroll people and later point out the skin colour of one of the players (as if that matters) in a forum post.

Work on urself first IMO.
 
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Was playing live tonight ran up 300 too 3k at the 2/3 300nl. Some guy says I slow rolled someone because I didn't snap call with a full house and I had 2.5k stack to his 400$ stack. The black guy to my left, who's not even in the hand, swipes my shoulder and starts saying "wtf is wrong with me?" Why I did that etc etc. Starts saying that people get beaten up in the parking lot etc etc. Calls me a kid. Just starts talking mass shit... I try too keep it cool given I'm already about to cash out. Finally I just start ignoring it. What is it with these people? Why are they seriously just so disgusting. I ended up just cashing out and leaving. This is honestly one of the reasons why I stopped playing 300nl live because there is just way too many low life's in Los Angeles at these stakes I've noticed. Usually I'll play the 5/5 300-1k buy in.
I didn't want things too escalate so yeah which is why i just chose too leave and not saying anything. Well i did but obviously this person wasn't in a rational state of mind too even begin too argue or make points with. Yeah sadly that's what is happening with poker. Lotta low lifes out there.
 
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Says the guy who felt the need to slowroll people and later point out the skin colour of one of the players (as if that matters) in a forum post.

Work on urself first IMO.
First off you clearly didn't read it correctly. I didn't slow roll anyone. Asking for a count when someone moves all-in is not a slow roll. And even if i did who ****ing cares??? Are you really going too take things that serious over a few dollars? I definitely point out the skin color when 98% of the time it is the same ethnic group causing issues especially saying things like "you need too get ****ed up in the parking lot". These are clearly subhuman trash that you must agree with. Sadly.
 
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First off you clearly didn't read it correctly. I didn't slow roll anyone.
Looks like most of the table had another opinion.

I definitely point out the skin color when 98% of the time it is the same ethnic group causing issues

Ok so what u are saying is that basically u not only suck at self awareness but also at math? Probably a good decision on ur part to cash out those winnings and leave.

People like u and the people u described remind me why i dont play live poker in casinos.
 
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Asking for a count when someone moves all-in is not a slow roll.
Well apparently it was percieved that way. And depending on the exact situation was a count really nessesary? I mean... his chips are supposed to be visible, so from the beginning of the hand you presumably had at least some idea, what he had? And would you actually have considered folding, if he had say 480$ rather than 400$? Of course a slowroll is defined as delaying action with the nuts, and a full house is not always the nuts. So maybe it was more of a nitroll.
And even if i did who ****ing cares???
A lot of live players consider slowrolling poor etiquette and are very sensitive to it. Sometimes maybe to sensitive.
Are you really going too take things that serious over a few dollars?
For a lot of people playing 2/3 400$ is not "a few dollars".
I definitely point out the skin color when 98% of the time it is the same ethnic group causing issues especially saying things like "you need too get ****ed up in the parking lot". These are clearly subhuman trash that you must agree with. Sadly.
Thats an outright racist comment, which makes me wonder, who was actually most out of line here?
 
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I avoid that situation play it on line. People can be very rude if they lost money.
 
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Wow. I feel so inclined to chime in on this. First off, sorry to hear about the live situation in L.A., it must suck to be threatened... Repeatedly, from what I gather. That is the one drawback* about poker, ANYONE can play. (* sarcasm)
Second of all phuk Cali. Money grubbing azzholes.
Thirdly come to Texas. The water is fine, the Karen's are tolerable, and there's no rake. Nothing but the pot; I mean the whole damned enchilada! And it is true what they say about folx being friendlier in Texas. Hell we have to be, ever seen any of these prisons? The site of some of these hellholes will scare the sh!t outta ya's. In other words: "Yo ASS is gonna MIND, boy!" Hey, it's not my quote. :LOL: I'm just phuking w/ya. It's all good here and I really don't mind Cali, at least the northern sector. 🌳🌞
 
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I don't know what in the world compels you to think calling people "disgusting" or "subhuman trash" isn't rude or aggressive behavior at the very least.... if you have a problem with 98% of any group the common denominator is you
 
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What a lack of posture, in fact what a thug attitude, I'm sad to hear about your experience, for now or to date, I'm being lucky not to have encountered any bad character live, just once online
 
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Why did you slow roll, no excuses for that, and it is bad poker etiquette and in my opinion just as rude. That just gives others the excuse, rightfully or wrongfully, the opportunity to be triggered. It is not worth the ego boost, when there is the potential to trigger someone to the point they want to get physical about it.
 
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I'm sorry you had such an unpleasant experience! There are shitty people everywhere, even among poker players...

Once it happened to me that they made "little" fun of that woman sitting at the cash table with them - I took nice cash and gave them a smile on the way out... :)
 
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Rudeness and aggression are part of the poker industry. Players are usually punished for violations by banning the use of chat, and in particularly severe cases they can even be banned from the room.In addition, to reduce aggression and turn poker into a more fun game, rooms use various tricks. For example, GGPoker, 888poker, BestPoker and RedStar use emojis that allow players to express their feelings non-verbally and colorfully, and pokerstars has given everyone the ability to throw various objects at their opponents.
 
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Rudeness and aggression are part of the poker industry. Players are usually punished for violations by banning the use of chat, and in particularly severe cases they can even be banned from the room.In addition, to reduce aggression and turn poker into a more fun game, rooms use various tricks. For example, GGPoker, 888poker, BestPoker and RedStar use emojis that allow players to express their feelings non-verbally and colorfully, and PokerStars has given everyone the ability to throw various objects at their opponents.

This happened in a 'LIVE' setting... in a casino. I'm pretty sure they don't give you objects & if they did, I doubt they encourage you to throw them at others.
 
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I would laugh so hard at his face LOL
Keep playing the good game,with you are winning,dont really matter what other people say,no one likes losing,worst even losing money,so let the poor man express his feelings,he will probably wont do nothing,and remember that its a sport where one day you win and the other you lose.
Go for the gold
God bless
 
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Was playing live tonight ran up 300 too 3k at the 2/3 300nl. Some guy says I slow rolled someone because I didn't snap call with a full house and I had 2.5k stack to his 400$ stack. The black guy to my left, who's not even in the hand, swipes my shoulder and starts saying "wtf is wrong with me?" Why I did that etc etc. Starts saying that people get beaten up in the parking lot etc etc. Calls me a kid. Just starts talking mass shit... I try too keep it cool given I'm already about to cash out. Finally I just start ignoring it. What is it with these people? Why are they seriously just so disgusting. I ended up just cashing out and leaving. This is honestly one of the reasons why I stopped playing 300nl live because there is just way too many low life's in Los Angeles at these stakes I've noticed. Usually I'll play the 5/5 300-1k buy in.
First of all - CardsChat members should know that playing live poker in Los Angeles is "special". There are a lot of different personalities and playing styles - but truly it seems like everybody is constantly trying to tilt everybody else. And there are times when the floor sides with the criminals. I am extra on-guard at L.A. tables - from guns to cheating - arguments - foreign languages - etc. etc. Ugh!

Please start a thread to list all the weird things that you've seen or have happened to you at the table.

Secondly, I will confess that I am a chronic "slow roller". I have to accept this as I am told this over and over. Hello, my name is PokerMike and I slow-roll. LOL

I don't slow roll to disrespect or tilt my opponent but for other reasons like I want to see his hand after he called my river bet. But clearly if I bet and he calls then I must show my hand.

I'm not snap calling with a full house because I personally don't act unless I can put my opponent on a range or even a specific hand. People always ask me what I was waiting for or thinking about with my obvious choice. This practice doesn't serve me well online because I time-out often.

You did the right thing to be cool, especially with the one who "swiped" your shoulder. There is no excuse for that and I hope that, especially with the comment he made, you had a plan if he got more aggressive. Leaving was the best thing to do. :)
I agree. Keep your cool.

And...touching players at a live table is a big "No no!"

If he'd made a move towards me, I was prepared to counter that with a move that I learned years ago from a former Green Beret and still practice periodically.
Note to self....never mess with Emily!!!

I didn't want things to escalate
This is the key to staying alive at live poker tables!

I often try to help de-escalate situations at my table. Not because I am a peacemaker or reacting to childhood trauma but because I want to get to the next hand. If the players start swinging fists then security will come and it will be a half hour or longer before I see another hand.

Thirdly come to Texas. The water is fine, the Karen's are tolerable, and there's no rake

No rake? Is it membership fee in Texas? Pay once and play for 12 hours?
 
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I have seen rudeness at the live tables and was on the receiving end of their barrage a few times. I would just smile as I stacked there chips and turned up my music. I really just don't care or let it bother me.
 
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First of all - CardsChat members should know that playing live poker in Los Angeles is "special". There are a lot of different personalities and playing styles - but truly it seems like everybody is constantly trying to tilt everybody else. And there are times when the floor sides with the criminals. I am extra on-guard at L.A. tables - from guns to cheating - arguments - foreign languages - etc. etc. Ugh!
Wow...It sounds like they either can't or don't want to keep a lid on things. Either way it is a bad situation. I'd probably be a nervous wreck with all of that going on. I still go on alert when I see someone talking to themselves, until I can verify that they are wearing ear buds.
I agree. Keep your cool.

And...touching players at a live table is a big "No no!"
That no-no goes for anywhere. ;)
Note to self....never mess with Emily!!!
LOL!! Not really. :) But don't let that get around, I've got enough trouble finding dates as it is. ;)

Another time at a poker table I was once again in the middle seat of a ten player table when the man to my right and the man to my left got into a heated and nasty argument. I pushed my chair back away from the table so if they did go at each other I wouldn't become one of those innocent victims you hear about. LOL!!
I often try to help de-escalate situations at my table. Not because I am a peacemaker or reacting to childhood trauma but because I want to get to the next hand. If the players start swinging fists then security will come and it will be a half hour or longer before I see another hand.
That is a noble thing to do, no matter what the reason. Don't sell yourself short. :)
 
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I'm sorry to hear that you had an experience like that. :( There are quite a few jerks in the world and unfortunately for us some of them play poker. You did the right thing to be cool, especially with the one who "swiped" your shoulder. There is no excuse for that and I hope that, especially with the comment he made, you had a plan if he got more aggressive. Leaving was the best thing to do. :)

A few weeks back I was playing a cash game and sitting in seat five. Earlier in the game he had gotten extremely verbally aggressive with the nice guy who was sitting in seat nine next to the dealer. Well I made a raise and apparently I'd miscounted my chips when making a raise and hadn't placed double the bet I was raising. This man on my right, in sneering way, said some phrase that I didn't understand.

He began getting little antagonistic with another few comments. Based upon his previous behavior I was worried that he might possibly do something physical. If he'd made a move towards me, I was prepared to counter that with a move that I learned years ago from a former Green Beret and still practice periodically. Nothing came of it, but the important thing is that I was prepared with a plan should something have occurred. ;)

Was playing live tonight ran up 300 too 3k at the 2/3 300nl. Some guy says I slow rolled someone because I didn't snap call with a full house and I had 2.5k stack to his 400$ stack. The black guy to my left, who's not even in the hand, swipes my shoulder and starts saying "wtf is wrong with me?" Why I did that etc etc. Starts saying that people get beaten up in the parking lot etc etc. Calls me a kid. Just starts talking mass shit... I try too keep it cool given I'm already about to cash out. Finally I just start ignoring it. What is it with these people? Why are they seriously just so disgusting. I ended up just cashing out and leaving. This is honestly one of the reasons why I stopped playing 300nl live because there is just way too many low life's in Los Angeles at these stakes I've noticed. Usually I'll play the 5/5 300-1k buy in.
If that was me, I would have gave him the peoples elbow right after Rick flaring him then I would have high tailed it out of there.
 
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its a tough situation, but you handled it, credit to you. i dont stand for abuse at the table and would of called the ring leader
 
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in the future, just put on your headphones and turn on the music and they won't stop you just play poker. And if people like that flattery you just ignore them and tell them to play poker and don't stop you from playing, I think they won't make a noise and you'll quietly continue playing
 
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Slow roll very bad,
Nit Roll got to be in context.

But it comes down to pot odds. If you are tanking 5 min in to call $400 call to win $2000 with the boat, bad.

But if he did a polarizing jam, then you can tank.
 
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