Have you tried to quit poker but came back? Or quit for good? I'm currently trying to quit due to constant bad beats

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I think I'm at the end my rope right now. I already quit playing online all together a few months ago because I just feel like the algorithms are always screwed up on every site and flopping the world doesn't matter you'll always get drawn out on (not literally always, but at the worst times)

But lately I started feeling that way about playing live poker. There's no casinos where I live but someone runs a cash game on the weekends $1/$2 and several bars have $15 tournaments during the week. A few weeks ago I get ace queen raise preflop the flop is queen 6, 7. I bet $1500 (you start out with 3,500 chips) this woman calls turn is an 8. I go all in for like 12 thousand just thinking she's probably not going to have two pair with what's out there and i should be good. But she had the one hand that gives her a straight 9 10, she hits her gutshot. All my chips disappear, anything other than the 8 hits she folds and I win the hand.

Then the other day I'm playing with this donk who is very lucky and that's what I don't get is how people get lucky against me all the time but I'm rarely ever the one getting lucky when I'm behind. Anyway I have King Queen the flop is Queen Jack 3. I check for action the guy bets again 1500 I re-raise all in. He calls me with King 3, so the King is dead to him the only thing he can hit is a 3. Turn doesn't change anything, river is a 3. It's like is this guy psychic or something? And these things are happening to me so much it's like people are picking up on it because they can just hit whatever magical card they need to beat me by the river.

Another ridiculous hand we're down to 4 of us 3 get paid I got pocket Kings I'm all in preflop. I get called with Queen 9. Flop is a King giving me a set Jack and something else, turn some card that changes nothing and river is a 10 giving him a straight. I make the money if not for that river.

Another hand I get Ace King raise get called flop is King 9 something, I bet opponent goes all in with 10 9, river is a 10. That was another time I would have made the money if not for that river card.

Also at the $1/$2 cash game last Friday (a week ago) I have Ace Jack of diamonds. This was not a bad beat but I bet $18 someone goes all in for $138 over that. There was a third person with less than that I sat there for a long time and decided to fold. It seemed to be the right decision at the time the one who bet $138 turned over Ace Queen and the one who had less had pocket 6s. So I would have been calling a lot of money with the third best hand but of course 3 diamonds come out I would have hit the flush. It's like the bad luck just won't stop.

I have more I could mention even. It gets to the point that I just decided to give up. What is the point of playing? I'm ahead and opponent just hits their two outer or whatever, just dumb luck but it happens repeatedly. I'm sitting at home instead of playing cash right now just fed up. Usually I get it in good and I'm ahead when my chips are in the middle, but if I happen to be behind I just lose while my opponents can have like a 4% chance of winning the hand after the flop yet get their magic card on the river. I like poker but just constantly dealing with the bad beats gets old especially when it's not evening out for me at all.

What's weird is this happens almost on repeat I play for a couple of months when I first go back I'm usually almost unstoppable win practically every night but after about 3 weeks to a month the bad beats start I quit I go back after a couple of months and I'm winning again until the bad beats start. I thought the cards were random how do these patterns keep happening to me? I need a poker therapist.

I know obvious you could say "that's just poker" but it's not. I play with a lot of the same people and they're not dealing with these bad beats like I am. I see favorites mostly winning when it's other peoples hands but not mine.
 
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I did quit playing for "serious" money online in 2013.

Now I just play nano stakes when I feel for it, and the occasional freeroll.

If you don't think you can earn substantial money (hint: that is VERY hard today) don't torture yourself - just play when you feel for it.

Since LIVE poker is so slow the variance can be brutal.

Also, make sure that the home game is run without cheating. Casinos are safer.
 
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"I haven't specifically experienced quitting poker and coming back, but I understand that kicking a habit, whether related to gambling or tobacco, can be a challenging process. In similar situations, I have faced personal challenges that required determination and continued effort. The Key to overcoming these obstacles has been focusing on my long-term goals, maintaining a positive mindset, and seeking support from friends, family, or outside resources. Finding healthy alternatives and setting realistic goals have also been helpful tools on my path to "A positive change. Each person is unique, but finding what works for you and surrounding yourself with support can be instrumental in the process of overcoming any challenge."
 
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Yes I sometimes quit due to bad beats. It is very difficult. For example the other day I played an Omaha satellite for a $4.40 ticket, I played well, lasted 90 minutes in the tournament, was in the running and had my AA cracked by 55? That’s hard to take. I always come back to play however. That’s the game really, you are one bad beat away from being knocked out of a tournament.
 
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I know obvious you could say "that's just poker" but it's not.
Well yes it is. Luck is part of poker.
I play with a lot of the same people and they're not dealing with these bad beats like I am.
Yes they are. In the short term they can be luckier than you. But in the long run it evens out. However the really long run is 100.000´s of hands, and in live poker many people dont even play that in an entire life time. Online its much easier, but you still need to play regularly and preferably more than one table at a time to overcome variance in a reasonable amount of time.
I see favorites mostly winning when it's other peoples hands but not mine.
The game has no memory. Regardless, what happened during the last session or last 10 sessions, you are equally likely to have a lucky or unlucky session next time, and so are they. Only you have memory. And if you can not let go of prior losses and start each session with a mental clean sheet, then its definitely time to quit poker or at least take a long break.
 
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I know obvious you could say "that's just poker" but it's not.
Howdy! If that is your belief & nothing could be said to change your mind then its time to quit poker because as sure as the world is round there will always be bad beats, that's just poker.

Poker is not for everyone since the mental & financial repercussion could outweigh the fun. Its not worth it.
 
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Poker is only fair in the long run. That is, over millions of hands and many thousands of tournaments, you may get a good idea if you are a profitable player or not. And even then, if you weren't that lucky, your results may not have been worth the time that you spent on playing. In the short term, poker is very much luck driven. Low volume poker is a terrible world to live in. If that's all that you can manage to do, then you should feel very confident with not wanting to live in that kind of world and spend your time doing something more enjoyable instead.
 
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Low volume poker is a terrible world to live in. If that's all that you can manage to do, then you should feel very confident with not wanting to live in that kind of world and spend your time doing something more enjoyable instead.
Or just accept, that you are gambling and dont expect to win. If you buy a lottery ticket every weekend, you would hopefully also not feel devastated, if this ended up costing you money. Instead you would hopefully be happy, if you won. And this is also the way, we should view poker, if we play it recreationally or "low volume", as you call it.
 
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The really interesting thing in this post is that not only did you start feeling online is rigged against you, but now you also feel that even playing live you are not get the luck you feel you deserve or that other players are getting.

This just kind of proves how brutal luck can be, but also how biased towards bad luck we can be as humans.
I guarantee there will be other players in those games feeling like they don’t get any luck either whereas you don’t see their side so much.

If you feel the need to quit then you should, but if you want to continue then you need to try and learn to let the bad beats go…..just move on. I don’t remember mine, apart from the seriously crazy ones that maybe leave an impact occasionally!
 
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i have never tried to quit, i enjoy the game too much, bad beats and all.
 
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If you feel the need to quit then you should, but if you want to continue then you need to try and learn to let the bad beats go…..just move on. I don’t remember mine, apart from the seriously crazy ones that maybe leave an impact occasionally!
Exactly. Of course there will always be some particular bad beats, that we remember. Like if we got it in with the nut flush on the flop against bottom pair, and then the opponent hit a runner-runner to win the pot with a full house. But in general we definitely dont want to dweel on hands, where we got unlucky. Unless of course we did not play them well and lost more, than we should. Running bad often lead to playing bad as well, and then things can get very ugly very fast.

Like maybe we flopped a set, but the turn brought in both flush- and straightdraws. And in spite of this we chose to overbet jam, even though we should know, that this will usually get most worse hands to fold and only better hands to call. But rather than awknowledging our mistake, after the opponent snap called us with his flush and held on the river, we focus on the fact, we got sucked out on by a flush - yet again. And so the negative cycle continue and reinforce.
 
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I think I'm at the end my rope right now. I already quit playing online all together a few months ago because I just feel like the algorithms are always screwed up on every site and flopping the world doesn't matter you'll always get drawn out on (not literally always, but at the worst times)

But lately I started feeling that way about playing live poker. There's no casinos where I live but someone runs a cash game on the weekends $1/$2 and several bars have $15 tournaments during the week. A few weeks ago I get ace queen raise preflop the flop is queen 6, 7. I bet $1500 (you start out with 3,500 chips) this woman calls turn is an 8. I go all in for like 12 thousand just thinking she's probably not going to have two pair with what's out there and i should be good. But she had the one hand that gives her a straight 9 10, she hits her gutshot. All my chips disappear, anything other than the 8 hits she folds and I win the hand.

Then the other day I'm playing with this donk who is very lucky and that's what I don't get is how people get lucky against me all the time but I'm rarely ever the one getting lucky when I'm behind. Anyway I have King Queen the flop is Queen Jack 3. I check for action the guy bets again 1500 I re-raise all in. He calls me with King 3, so the King is dead to him the only thing he can hit is a 3. Turn doesn't change anything, river is a 3. It's like is this guy psychic or something? And these things are happening to me so much it's like people are picking up on it because they can just hit whatever magical card they need to beat me by the river.

Another ridiculous hand we're down to 4 of us 3 get paid I got pocket Kings I'm all in preflop. I get called with Queen 9. Flop is a King giving me a set Jack and something else, turn some card that changes nothing and river is a 10 giving him a straight. I make the money if not for that river.

Another hand I get Ace King raise get called flop is King 9 something, I bet opponent goes all in with 10 9, river is a 10. That was another time I would have made the money if not for that river card.

Also at the $1/$2 cash game last Friday (a week ago) I have Ace Jack of diamonds. This was not a bad beat but I bet $18 someone goes all in for $138 over that. There was a third person with less than that I sat there for a long time and decided to fold. It seemed to be the right decision at the time the one who bet $138 turned over Ace Queen and the one who had less had pocket 6s. So I would have been calling a lot of money with the third best hand but of course 3 diamonds come out I would have hit the flush. It's like the bad luck just won't stop.

У меня есть еще кое-что, о чем я мог бы упомянуть. Дошло до того, что я просто решил сдаться. Какой смысл играть? Я впереди, а соперник просто попадает в свои два аутсайдера или что-то в этом роде, просто тупая удача, но такое случается неоднократно. Я сейчас сижу дома вместо того, чтобы играть в наличные, просто мне надоело. Обычно у меня получается хорошо, и я впереди, когда мои фишки находятся посередине, но если я отстаю, я просто проигрываю, в то время как мои оппоненты могут иметь около 4% шансов выиграть раздачу после флопа, но при этом получить свою магию. карта на ривере. Я люблю покер, но постоянно иметь дело с бэдбитами надоедает, особенно когда у меня совсем не вечер.

Что странно, это происходит почти с повтором. Я играю пару месяцев, когда впервые возвращаюсь. Обычно я почти неудержимо выигрываю практически каждую ночь, но примерно через 3 недели-месяц начинаются бэдбиты, я ухожу, возвращаюсь через пару месяцев, и я снова выигрываю, пока не начнутся бэдбиты. Я думал, что карты случайные, почему эти закономерности продолжают происходить со мной? Мне нужен покерный терапевт.

Я знаю, что вы могли бы сказать: «Это просто покер», но это не так. Я играю со многими одними и теми же людьми, и они не сталкиваются с такими бэдбитами, как я. Я вижу, что фавориты в основном побеждают, когда это в руках других людей, но не в моих руках.
Да у меня был самый большой перерыв в покере около 4 лет ) Сейчас вернулся с большим настроем на победы только до перерыва я играл в турниры в холдем покер а сейчас я начал играть в кэш покер холдем ну иногда конечно пару турниров тоже играю и обязательно играю фрироллы потому что это очень круто попробовать бесплатно стоило выиграть ))) плюс опыт ) так что да уходил и вернулся .готов только к победам )
 
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I never thought about quitting poker because it's my favorite game
 
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I think if you are losing on every site online and losing live too the common denominator is you.

I think your instinct to quit poker is probably the right one for you with your current mindset.

The world is not against you, poker is not against you, luck is not against you, you decide to make these plays, to make these calls, or to play or not play poker. If you have no control over that you really should not be playing.👍
 
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thats the poker life.. it’s all in the cards some days you’re lucky other days you’re not . win or lose. I enjoy playing it.
 
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For a person to continue playing, the game must be, at least, something enjoyable for them. And from what you're saying, it seems like it's not being pleasant for you.
You said you didn't play for a while and when you come back you continue to suffer from bad hits, and this is something that happens to all other players.
And if you can't handle it, maybe in that case it's best to stop, because bad beats are inevitable.
 
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Poker for me is something very special, we know that every player goes through difficult times, but perseverance makes you feel that you can achieve it, poker is my passion and I highly doubt that I will be able to leave it.
 
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Yes, I tried to quit, but I came back.However, I do not deposit in any poker room, but I try to earn starting money in freerolls to play in tournaments with buy-in.
 
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No. I didn’t try to quit poker, but there were forced breaks.
 
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I quit poker, for 5 years for sure, I didn't play... I even remember why, the down strike went away, the cards were not worth it, the last straw was that five times my pocket AA lost to all sorts of garbage... That's when I freaked out... at first it was hard without playing... but then it was harder to learn everything again, after a break I discovered poker in a new way)))
 
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I quit caring and just play freerolls and microstakes . the rake is almost unbeatable in live casinos and the quality of play too high in online ring games .
 
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Just one question - do you play purely for fun, or does money matter to you and you want to win not just because it's nice?
 
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A couple of times, while playing cash zoom, I stopped playing for a year or more - I couldn’t get a stable game. When I switched to tournament poker, everything more or less stabilized, and good winnings began to appear in good tournaments. Now my goal is not to spend a lot on satellites to expensive weekend tournaments. In a large field, it is more difficult to win a ticket to the next round and over the course of the weekend there is a significant waste of money. Therefore, only really accessible and inexpensive tournaments and satellites.
 
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Playing serious poker I walked away from it about 3 years ago, not because I was losing money, But I didn't have the urge to play, Before the lockdowns started I was playing a weekly tournament every week at my Local Pub, In fact I ran the game at the Pub, I did it as a Favour for the Landlord and I got Free beer for my trouble.
Unfortunately the Landlord moved on, My free beer stopped with the new Manager, and I felt I was being used so quit running the games, I still played almost every week but felt I had no incentive to run the games any more.
When Covid struck it closed all the Pubs etc , so I came back to On-line Poker as a substitute, but challenging myself to double my bankroll, I was playing for hours everyday, and I managed to treble it. To be honest at my age, being retired and not needing the money, I had nothing better to do.
I just suddenly decided I didn't enjoy it anymore, Playing for hours trying to achieve something that I actually surpassed, I just lost the magic I had for the game, Playing On-line gave me the confidence to play Live games and that I enjoyed but going back to on-line Poker, it just lost it's appeal. I gave up going out because of the lockdowns, found I could buy cheaper beer from the supermarkets so there was nothing drawing myself back to my old ways.
I miss my weekly Pub games, but certainly not enough to make the effort of getting showered and dressed, then Taxis to and from the Pub, when I can drink, What I want, When I want, and pay a fraction for it, sitting at home.
Sad but that is the way I feel now, Going out to the Pub has lost it's appeal, along with playing Poker, Will I ever get that appeal back? I seriously doubt it.

When the Fun Stops, STOP! I have!
 
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