How does Poker effect your relationship?

I was reading the thread "relationships suck" and it struck a nerve, because I have been in a similar situation... But, I don't think relationships suck. It is what we make of them. I see plenty of couples that play cards together regularly (lucky them) but I am sure for most of us it is different, some positive & negative.

How does Poker effect your relationship?
Is it positive or negative?
What do you do to keep you significant other from being jealous of poker?
What do you do when you have gone too far, and need to make up?

From my experience not very good... poker can easily become very time consuming... especially when the cards agree with you... newayz that didn`t go over very well with my girlfriend... I went as far as using the "self-exclusion" option until i found more time for myself...
end of the day its a matter of priorities.

Poker has a very positive effect on my relationship with my wife, because it keeps us apart for hours on end.

poker? just poker? what about football season? maaaan, you have pro and college ball going on...that's 2 entire days a week...plus monday nights, plus thursday nights...and the way college is going...sometimes even tues weds and fri! what about bowl week? and then you have college basketball...i'm 28 yrs old...and i've found ever since i was about 20...summer always seemed like a decent time for a relationship...but i was always happily..and i mean HAPPILY single by the first or 2nd week of september.

but i'm the type of guy who thrives on alone time...i'll probably go crazy if i don't get a decent amount of time to myself every day. so i've always used poker or nerdy unix computer programming as an excuse to get away when in a relationship. and if they're being particularly clingy, i'll comment on every single thing i'm doing until they get angry. ever try to explain every hand you're playing and why you're calling because of pot odds...or explain every line of code in your leeto shell script that rips cd's and tags the mp3's ...all in one step after you write some little txt file with the track names on it? yeah...they get mad and leave you

maybe one day i'll wise up and get involved with someone who enjoys alone time more than together time too, haha

I actually had to tone poker down a bit because it was affecting my relationships with my children as well as signifigant other. I took a break from poker this year not playing almost 24/7 like in previous years. I know a lot of you who know me realize I haven't been around. My children were complainin all I did was play poker I would only get up cook dinner (while sitting out of a torney) then back to the tables. no real time for my bf. I also picked up unwanted weight from "sitting around" that affected other health problems. I now find time for family, boyfriend and exercise and other things other then Poker. But I still love the game. I just am trying to find a balance for poker in my life. I haven't figured it out yet but I hope to soon.

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this is a good question i think i will do a new thread about how poker has effected my relationship with my husband who wants to play poker full time. again this is a very good question and I think it affects people in alot of ways.

what relationship. i left her 500 miles away.poker was the best thing to happen to me.lol now im happy:joyman:

Laughing at Upperdawg's message you are funny... I needed a good laugh. thanks

dAArrick said:

How does Poker effect your relationship?

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My blow-up plastic sheep never complains about my poker play

I am the one who posted that thread relationships suck.
Me and my wife have reconsiled,but things are still a little ruff around the edges.
Our problems have nothing to do with poker though.
The only time poker affects my relationship with my wife is ..
A)When I am doing bad in a tournament and can't consintrate to my fullest on it because of my wife.
B)When I have A bad day,and my wife is having one as well,we tend to butt heads with each other.
Poker has definatly had nothing to do with my relationship with my wife.
She supports me in the fullest with that being my career.

It's kind of a double edged sword. If one day you are having a great session, you end up playing longer than planned = less time to spend with her. If you are having a bad session and decide to pack it up, then you are a bit grumpy from the loss while spending time with her

It definitely helps to have a spouse who understands the nature of the game, such as the odd hours, big upswings and downswings.

What's a relationship?

Lucky at cards, unlucky at love, and vice versa.

WEC said:

My blow-up plastic sheep never complains about my poker play

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Elliegurl said:

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Glad I saw this post before I went to bed...off to sleep with a smile

I think it has a lot to do with who you're with. I am lucky- I have a wife who wants me to go friday night and play with the guys and sit down and relax for a while after work and before bed. As long as I don't gamble away the rent money or neglect her and my 3 year old son she says I need something to do to relax. When she wants to go out shopping I take our son to the park or play trains or take him to the airport to watch the planes land. As long as it doesn't consume your time your better half(and she IS the better half) shouldnt have a problem with it.

I think before it had a negative effect, but that's back when it was new and I was first getting into it. I focused too much on poker and not enough on her. We've since worked things out and just celebrated our 4th anniversary! She knows I enjoy it and it will always be a big part of my life, and she's ok with that. She just refuses to play with me

someone change the noun effect to the verb affect please, I can't take it anymore, its affecting my sensibilities