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Jared Tendler
DTB Coach
Silver Level
Great to have you here, Jared.
Here's my question: I think the length of my poker sessions is somewhat results oriented. I can play long sessions when I start by getting stuck, and play a pretty long time until I get unstuck. On the other hand, when I start my session by running good, I tend to quit relatively early, which is obviously a leak as I'm probably playing against a softer competition. What can I do to overcome this tendency of mine?
I'm a semi regular at 100nl, which means I play about 50 hours/month on average, but it's still mostly a hobby as I do have a very nice and fullfilling job that I certainly don't intend to quit for poker.
I've been playing for 3 years now and I think I've always had the problem of playing longer sessions when i'm down and shorter ones when I'm up. When I'm up, I think I want to score a win and I'm afraid I won't if I keep playing. When I'm down, sometimes I'll realize I'm really playing terrible and just leave, but sometimes I realize I got really unlucky and only played a couple of hands badly and then I'll focus a lot more and try to play my best to get unstuck.
I realize I can't win every session, but obviously I think I should. I love the mental challenge of playing poker but I kind of hate anything related to gambling and I'd much rather have the randomness of results taken away in order to score a constant profit.
One of the major causes of your results oriented approach to session length comes from the last paragraph. The reason I asked if you believe it, is because why logically many players know they can, deep down the want to or think they should. It's this flaw which keeps you from making real strides in becoming less results oriented and more focused on the quality of your play to dictate how long you play.
The reality is in poker that you can't take the risk completely out - there is too much beyond your control for that to ever happen. Working your way out of this results oriented mindset happens by continuing to focus more on what you can control - the quality of your play, the quality of your mindset, the quality of how you work/improve - rather than trying to win every session. The motivation to win every session is what's throwing you off - instead be motivated towards something that's actually possible and that you can have an impact on.
The improvement here may not happen right away, so you'll have to stick with it and continue to reduce the urge to want to make results oriented decisions. One way to do that, is to do exactly what you did - ask yourself how you're playing. Something you can also when winning. I'd also suggest that after every session you take some notes detailing how you played. This will help you become better at knowing it - it's like your learning how to recognize how well your playing and doing so makes results in the short-term less important.
Does this all make sense? If so, keep us posted on your progress.