I honestly think you are half way there - if you take time to chill a little and assess what you are already stating, yourself.
You can recognize the play was stupid and statistically the villain should not have won the hand. But, these plays get through with some frequency and we all suffer the consequences.
The question I'm asking is, is it fine to come away from these and just shrug them off?
You say you cannot, but take solace in the fact you are already being pro-active, seeking advice (even if just to vent) and that is healthy. I have also noted elsewhere its healthy to be annoyed and peeved about a hand- as long as it doesn't lead to tilt, or put you into a shell.
By chance, I just listened to Dominik Nitsche breakdown a hand from a 100K high roller event, several months ago, where he got embarrassed by a lesser player, Tilston. He folded his pockets queens on the river to someone who simply bet a ten he had paired (the board was interesting but Tilstons line made no sense).To paraphrase what Nitsche stated- logically he knew he should have played the hand through but did not believe Tilston could play that stupidly/recklessly.
Nitsche is one of the best players in the world and if he gets caught in such spots, we all will!
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