Call preflop is standard - I would look to check/call flop and pot control. The board is very wet and connected so there are ALOT of turn cards that will freeze us up or make it hard for us to continue so I tend to just play this flop pretty passively and just get to a turn card.
We do, and the turn is relatively insignificant. With a bet here and we get raised, I would likely just call because there is still a possibility out opponent has the straight or some weirdly slow played set they now want value from so I dont think we need to re raise turn, we just call.
The river is bad, not too worried about the backdoor flush but now KJ gets there, J9 was already there, the Ace comes in bringing on board possible two pair combos like AQ and AT even though we block those heavily. It's just not the best card to see after we get raised on the turn. We check, villan bets and I think we can certainly call here BUT, we do NOT want to be raising this spot! Why? Because we are generally only getting called by better hands. Sure sometimes we get a call from KQ or from AK or AJ that rivered a pair, but I think we run into better 2 prs and straights alot on this board. The fact that he turned the set is unfortunate but I would almost imagine had he flopped bottom or middle set he would've gotten trappy with that as well - just seems to be the norm in a multi way pot in these player pools.
In conclusion I think you played the hand fine until the river - no need for us to raise in a spot where we are highly likely to only get called by better hands. Good luck in your games!
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