Seriously you have no idea how badly I have been screwed financially by ex and what I have been put through mentally. I resisted divorce until the bitter end I am a God fearing man and never signed anything that wasn't under duress since I do not believe in divorce. This is best for all parties right now but mostly me.
Believe me, I understand sometimes divorce is better for everyone involved. It does make me a little angry though when people put their kids on the back burner. "They'll be fine." And you know what, he probably will. But you grossly under estimate just how important it is to a young man to have a productive, supportive,
present father figure in their life. But by all means, go ahead and "club their hearts".
Everyone has their choices to make in this life. You've clearly made yours, and I suppose you are at least steadfast and dedication to them. I just hope you understand that your choices also affect someone other than yourself. I suspect you do understand that, but just don't care.