One time I played in a game for stakes higher than I was used to playing for. Most of the guys playing were twice my age. I couldn't help being nervous. At one point, I found myself in a big pot. I had made just made a bet because I felt that I had the best hand. Even though I felt like I was ahead, I couldn't help being nervous. My opponent looked across the table at me and pointed out how nervous I looked before asking me why I was so nervous.
I realized there was no playing it off, so I decided to own it. "Because this is a big pot," I replied. "And you're all good players. You cats are all seasoned," I said, "Of course I'm nervous. I've been nervous since I sat down".
At first his expression was that of triumph. He was pleased with himself for recognizing how nervous I looked. Then is expression changed as he seemed to grow more thoughtful. Now, I figured, he had to figure out what my nervousness meant. Was I nervous because I had it and didn't want him to fold? Or was I nervous because I was
bluffing him? I had just credited them with all being such good players. If I thought they were such strong players, would I really try to
bluff them? Or was that what I wanted him to think? Now he looked confused.
I decided that if I was nervous, I was just going to be nervous and not bother trying to hide it. After all I had a reason to be nervous. The thing was to always be nervous, or at least seem nervous. Once I owned my nervousness, I actually calmed down some. The thing was to be the same way from one hand to the next. Not to be calm when I thought I had it, then be nervous when I wasn't sure or was bluffing. It was easier to look nervous when I was calm, than to look calm when I was nervous. So I went with all nervous all the time. As seasoned as they were, they seemed to have a hard time figuring out where I was in
hands all night. And eventually I did calm down, as my winnings increased, to the point where I could remain calm even when I was in big pots.