Woman at the Table: Are They Treated Differently?

Susan0514

Susan0514

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The other day on Bet online 5 talky, bratty and foul-mouthed players decided to verbally gang up on me and were so obscene, insulting and demeaning I felt like I'd been gang raped. While that was an unusually awful experience, I have found that players do treat you differently if they know you are a woman.

I play under a couple of names, one is obviously a woman and the other is more generic. Same bet, same situation, they call my raise more often with the women's name.

What's your experience ladies?
 
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BAGELBEAR

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I agree with you they treat women awful, and definitely play harder against women than men. That's why I use screen names that don't give it away, and put "male" in my profile in case it's accessible. I've been bashed even when they think I'm male so I guess it's the lesser of 2 evils.

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The other day on Bet online 5 talky, bratty and foul-mouthed players decided to verbally gang up on me and were so obscene, insulting and demeaning I felt like I'd been gang raped. While that was an unusually awful experience, I have found that players do treat you differently if they know you are a woman.

I play under a couple of names, one is obviously a woman and the other is more generic. Same bet, same situation, they call my raise more often with the women's name.

What's your experience ladies?

Wow, that's horrible. I sure hope you reported them to the site, then turned off the chat, and took 'em to the cleaners....
leaving them banned and broke would be a fitting result for such crapola.

"Same bet, same situation, they call my raise more often with the women's name." - No doubt. I also wouldn't doubt that some guys might
actually pretend to be a woman to also take advantage of this sexism.
...and I'm sure many of our fine, top notch female players here take full advantage of that nonsense.
In CC League, playing differently against the gals than you do the guys is a sure recipe for disaster
 
Rincewind

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The other day on Bet online 5 talky, bratty and foul-mouthed players decided to verbally gang up on me and were so obscene, insulting and demeaning I felt like I'd been gang raped.

You can not be serious. Gang raped? That is a little extreme, dont you think?

Nothing anyone or any group of peeople could say to you in online poker could possibly compare to being gang raped.

Seriously, choose your words a little more carefully.
 
rrickir

rrickir

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I'm a woman also but I have to admit in the last year or so I haven't witnessed any bad chat in my poker games online. Maybe I've just been lucky lately or maybe I don't even look at the chat in the games too much to be honest LOL. Only if I know the people I am playing well I look at the chat in a game if I'm playing in an open tournament I rarely look anymore. No need to even be bothered with that stuff I usually just focus and play my game and notice I do better:)
 
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ritehere

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I haven't been at a table where this has happen (as of yet anyways). But brow-beating any other player (no matter the gender) is simply wrong.
 
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ph_il

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You can not be serious. Gang raped? That is a little extreme, dont you think?

Nothing anyone or any group of people could say to you in online poker could possibly compare to being gang raped.

Seriously, choose your words a little more carefully.
Completely agree with this.

It doesn't excuse their actions, but in no way is it comparable to being 'gang raped'.
 
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ph_il

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You can not be serious. Gang raped? That is a little extreme, dont you think?

Nothing anyone or any group of people could say to you in online poker could possibly compare to being gang raped.

Seriously, choose your words a little more carefully.
Completely agree with this.

It doesn't excuse their actions, but in no way is it comparable to being 'gang raped'.
 
ayahuasca

ayahuasca

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Honestly I don't give a damn what another male players at the table think about female players and particularly about me. It's definetely not my problem if they play aggressively against woman - playing this way they will never be called professional poker players. It's just a proof that such players are ridiculous fools, that's all :)
 
cr0thund3r

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As a male, I dont know why you even bother with such stuff? :) There are always donks on the tables, and you just mute the chat and play, or report it as I do, because I like reading what donks have to say, then you report them, specially on poker stars, the support comes to the table in no time, they get a warnning and thats it :) Just play your game..
 
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matenq

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I didn't know this and I noticed it yet. But i will watch out for it in the future. ..
 
antonis32123

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As a male, I dont know why you even bother with such stuff? :) There are always donks on the tables, and you just mute the chat and play, or report it as I do, because I like reading what donks have to say, then you report them, specially on poker stars, the support comes to the table in no time, they get a warnning and thats it :) Just play your game..

I totally agree with this . If sb insults you don't lose any time , either mute the chat or call at once the admin/support for disparaging remarks for your sex and they will get a warning , on serious sites like pokerstars I have the impression they don't tolerate sexist/ racist remarks or words and they might get banned if they do it or so I think.
 
Roman Romanov

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I think that stupid people, especially on the Internet, no matter who offend a woman or a man
 
lulu pk

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I had one ugly experience when I played the FPS in france.It was a 1100 euro BI tournament.I bust one player with AAvsKK nothing ugly so no need to be upset it was a standard hand.But the young French/Arabic player after busting him start to insult me calling me whit the worst name that you can call a women):
And the worst is that no one on my table even not the dealer did not say anything to stop that...They start to make comment about his attitude only when he was gone!
 
fletchdad

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Chat in poker will always happen. I get called nazi, jew killer and such, and not all that seldomly. (And...lol.. I am not German....)

If you cannot let that crap roll off your back, then mute chat. Easy. I use the chat as a tell. The things a person says are more often than not telling.

Report any bad chat. Obviously some things will be so obscene that it will be hard to ignore, but that is what chat block is for.

@Lulu. In this case, I would put the men at the table - as well as the dealer, and the asshole with the big mouth - on the spot by immediately confronting the table. Something like "So, as a woman, I must not only take this type of abuse but also witness the passive acceptance of everyone here who will simply look the other way when this type of verbal abuse is carried out?. So, as a woman, if I want to defend myself against this, I will have to do it myself as all of you sit here, including the staff (dealer), and simply keep quiet while you all allow sever verbal abuse to take place?". Maybe say something like this real loud.

Or simply stand up and scream "What did you just call me? Did you really just call me a ****? Is this tolerated here?"
 
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max chong

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There are many inadequate people who are trying to blame others for their failures, a lot of people especially in the free tournaments, of course dont like to hear the insults but do ignore them!
 
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I would treat them differently.
the play style = tendency of female player is different from male players.

but sometimes would be wrong:D in general, would treat them differently:D, will adjust my play. but not the one showing the post:D
 
Aces2w1n

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well i wont be admiring a low cut top on a guy while im card dead.

because poker is so male dominant i feel if a female is there they are there to either make apoint and very good and need to becarrful or there just flirt and pickup and have a good time. Also women like distracting guys

and to answer the question directly.
yes but often guys dont know how to treat them and get lost due to the % ... ofc i use this to my advantage and make it work
 
Railbird

Railbird

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I think it depends on if you play live or online. Online people are going to be jerks because it is easier to verbally abuse someone while hiding behind a screen miles away.

At a live table men are respectful and generally will believe your bluffs unless you are playing reckless or have a reputation of playing weak hands. If someone were to start harassing you the others would be gentlemen and stand up for you. But this is the case regardless of if you are male or female. Then there are some men live that simply will not fold no matter how strong you play your hand. But I think in general they do this to other men as well because they just can fold that AK.

I think it just boils down to: some people are just nasty, evil, insecure individuals and they have to put others down because it makes them feel better about themselves. They have nothing else going for them except to try to bring others down to their level of self hatred.

Some sites allow you to block a specific players chat while still being able to see everyone else's. ACR doesn't have this feature but Replay Poker (play money site) does. I for one, will stand up to bullies whether their attacks are aimed at me or someone else. It's just the right thing to do and usually they stop if everyone else start dishing it right back to them.:damnmate:

I'm sorry you were treated this way. No one deserves to be verbally abused by sociopaths. You can't take anything they say personally because that is how they feel toward everyone. Just feel sorry for them and be thankful that you have the ability to love others.
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kidrock1211

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I just played a game where there was a bounty on the first man that could take out the first two women i wom the $5 bounty and it was not easy i have alot of respect for women players
 
fletchdad

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I have to mute chat so males dont tilt me, like calling me the C word!


I call girls "cute" all the time......

Ohhhhh, maybe I got it wrong.....;)

If they use any other C words, screen shot it and report.
 
RogerG2k

RogerG2k

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I think so because the guys will always be attracted by the beauty of a woman because men are much more practicing sport than women.
 
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