Poker and wife
Hello all, I'm coming to get advice or maybe to everyone to tell me what I already know hahaha, Im a succesful and winning poker player, Im a programmer to so in the morning I work in my software job and in the night I go to the casino and play 6pm-11pm but my wife hates it to the point she wants to divorce, the thing is, I only play Poker 4 days per week, the remaining 3 days I take her out for dinner or to travel somewhere, also one day I work from home so its 4 days in total we get to spend time together and do things. also when I get back from playing we watch movies with some chips and beers, so I do actually spend time with her, poker is my passion and im good at it, I could live from poker if I would want too, I have winnings that gives me a king life in Mexico, but she doesn't understand that, its time to breakup maybe?
Hello there dedkndy how are you? Thanks for sharing your questions with the Cardschat community. You question is very personal but very important for a poker player. I also play poker, most of times online and my girlfriend is always trying to dispute her attention with me. However, my girlfriend understands that Poker is not a game of luck, instead, a game of skill versus our opponents luck, as some kind player here in the forum uses as its personal motto.
You have to know what is the best for you and the best for her. Maybe your life dynamics as a poker player is not good for her and she's trying to make you decide whether you want to hang up with her or with the dealer and the cards. Complicated, brother and I don't know if I have any authority to help you in this matter.
My personal experience is trying to play when my girlfriend is not around, and when she's around I tried to do something with her such as go to the movies, to the park to take a walk, talk about life and everything. I wouldn't like to be in your shoes in a situation like that, and I also don't want to risk anybody's marriage because I have no ideia how much you care and love one another.
I hope you can talk to her and explain that it is a profession, a very hard one and, in the future, that only you know when and how, you might begin to play poker only, leave your job at the office and then you will have plenty of time for her.
It is hard man when it comes to choose between love and duty because is so strong. I don't know if you watched the TV Show "Game of Thrones" but there is an episode where Meister Aemon Targaryen explain to Jon Snow that.
"Did you ever wonder why the men of the Night's Watch take no wives and father no children?" Maester Aemon asks Jon Snow. "
So they will not love. Love is the death of duty." Jon
tells him that his father, Ned Stark, would do "
whatever is right, no matter what," if faced with the choice between his family and his honor, and Aemon replies that most men are not Ned Stark:
"What is honor compared to a woman's love? What is duty against the feel of a newborn son in your arms, or a brother's smile?
Love is the strongest force of the universe. Nothing matches a person in love. Maybe all you have to do is look into her eyes and tell her how much you care for her, how much you love and that everything you do, including
gambling is for the sake of her and the family that you have or will have. I hope you can find a way to happiness with your wife, a win win situation where you can keep playing and studying poker and also maintain your relationship in a healthy and loveable way.
Regards;
Love is all! Good game and good luck at the tables always!
Carlos 'Aballinamion' Barbosa