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dedkndy

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Hello all, I'm coming to get advice or maybe to everyone to tell me what I already know hahaha, Im a succesful and winning poker player, Im a programmer to so in the morning I work in my software job and in the night I go to the casino and play 6pm-11pm but my wife hates it to the point she wants to divorce, the thing is, I only play Poker 4 days per week, the remaining 3 days I take her out for dinner or to travel somewhere, also one day I work from home so its 4 days in total we get to spend time together and do things. also when I get back from playing we watch movies with some chips and beers, so I do actually spend time with her, poker is my passion and im good at it, I could live from poker if I would want too, I have winnings that gives me a king life in mexico, but she doesn't understand that, its time to breakup maybe?
 
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Dont know why woman are like that, she probably doesnt understand that poker is different from rest of casino games, that you can lose everything in one night..

Dont know what to say if you should break up or not, probably there is other things beside poker
 
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Hello all, I'm coming to get advice or maybe to everyone to tell me what I already know hahaha, Im a succesful and winning poker player, Im a programmer to so in the morning I work in my software job and in the night I go to the casino and play 6pm-11pm but my wife hates it to the point she wants to divorce, the thing is, I only play Poker 4 days per week, the remaining 3 days I take her out for dinner or to travel somewhere, also one day I work from home so its 4 days in total we get to spend time together and do things. also when I get back from playing we watch movies with some chips and beers, so I do actually spend time with her, poker is my passion and im good at it, I could live from poker if I would want too, I have winnings that gives me a king life in Mexico, but she doesn't understand that, its time to breakup maybe?
To funny.. i was leaning one way then your last line pushed me all the way to the other. You dont love her or its time to break up wouldn't of been an idea. I once played a lot of poker. Traveled a bit and lost my first wife because of it. Poker is conflicting at best. My second wife who at first didnt bother but a few years she put her foot down. So i compromised and saturday poker was born. She go do the hair , nails lunch thing and we meet up for late dinner. Srarted the internet play. She hates online butt its something we all can live with.

Talk to her if you might of miss spoke and love her. Relationships are build on compromise. Maybe get her into poker? As far as living like a king in mexico.... the grass isnt any greener on the other side of the fence. Unless your accustomed to the life of lower states its not all what its cut out to be.


talk to her
 
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Maybe it's not poker the raison .If you are years married,you might have been tired of each other.On a couple we have some personal goals and as mates.Talk we your wife and maybe you won't need a lawyer...good luck
 
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Wife or poker

Hmmmmmm seems you have a hard choice ahead of you to say the least. Looks like you are having to choose between a life with your wife of your poker. Tough one for sure.

Not sure if there are some underlining things going on that she wants a divorce? With that said try maybe including her in your poker world as at least taking her with you. Not to play poker (if she is not a player) but I would assume there are slots at the casino you play at?

Well good luck to you as having been divorced is a tough road to travel even if it turns out to be whats best for the both of you.

Good Luck!
 
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You should bring her with you to poker or play online, because that many hours out of the house in her mind is going to mean you are seeing someone else no matter what you are really doing.
 
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you can reconcile two things, poker and wife, I also play poker but I try to reconcile my marriage and poker obligations as you love your wife you have to reconcile a shorter poker game
 
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I'm also programmer and designer.
You do understand that you create something useful when you're coding?
And here comes a logical question:

What kind of useful product you create for the society and for yourself when you're playing poker?
 
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My wife doesn’t understand poker at all and thinks I’m there to meet and talk to girls. No matter how much I explain to her what I do,she still doesn’t understand and we are cursing with her .
 
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How many sacrifices has your wife made for you over the years? Are you going to be happier with the casino regulars or with a family? Put yourself in her shoes; she doesn't get to see you all day and then you choose to spend your weeknights with degenerates instead of her. You are absolutely right that this is headed to divorce ... make the right choice!!!
 
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With mine I taught her to play so she can follow me =)
 
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its time to breakup maybe?

This last sentence goes to show either you don't love her anymore or you are too selfish to think only of yourself.
The ultimate solution for a relationship to work is fix it, not change it.
There is always time for everything, make time for everything. You need to manage your time between family, work and passion.

I seriously don't like to see people giving up on a relationship for poker. It's just not right.
How about you cut your weekly session to 2 instead of 4? And spend more time with her doing what she enjoy(her passion).
Make the initiative, show her that you are willing to sacrifice.
 
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The fact you're asking random strangers for advice tells me you don't take her or your relationship seriously,,,i feel for your wife,she sounds unhappy. If you really love her,you'll fix it,,, if u don't,u won't. GL.
 
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Try to get to the bottom of what she is really thinking. It may not be about poker.

There are some women if you give them an inch they take you a mile. A compromise will only lead to less and then even less poker if she has no concern about your happiness but only about getting her way all the way.

Some times you have to turn the tables on them and not be intimidated but always reinforce that you love them.

I once told my then girlfriend now wife of many years, dont threaten to leave me, just do it, because if you would be happier with someone else, I want you to be happy. The threats ended right then and there.

Since then I have called her on her BS a few more times, but she later complimented me for doing so tactfully. I rarely put my foot down about anything and try to involve her best I can but when I do put it down she knows better than to press.

If you dont have respect from your woman, you dont have her love either.
 
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in any case, family comes first, only they will forgive you a difficult time.


anyone can get in trouble at any time


I for example went through such difficulties and thanks to my wife only she supported me


she's a great mother to your child
 
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why doesnt she wanna go with you, if she loves you. I learned to play poker for my man, and cant imagine not playing. He passed now. If she wants to spend time with the bread winner, maybe she should consider going with ya :) You might not always be there.

in any case, family comes first, only they will forgive you a difficult time.


anyone can get in trouble at any time


I for example went through such difficulties and thanks to my wife only she supported me


she's a great mother to your child


why cant SHE be the one to compromise? and Go with him.
 
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Women are always dfficult, lol
If you are so good as you say, then why not play Poker where there are bigger pay-outs
These will have a higher buy-in I guess

But that way you can win the same cash if not more, and play poker less of the time
Also you will have more time with your wife.
Up to you
 
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I had to choose, my Wife or my Poker. I now sleep with my Laptop.

On a serious note, maybe go to some Couple's Therapy, that way each of you can express what you want and what you each are willing to give. This is hard to do without a Therapist (referee) present.

It kind of sounded like you love poker more than her. But, before doing something you both may regret, get some Therapy. Just my two cents worth.
 
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Some great advise given and what a slippery slope you could be in for. Doesn't sound unreasonable to want to play a few times a week. Has to be compromises with any marital disagreement or the foundation deteriorates.
 
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this can go either way depending on how long you 2 been Married. if its short time then your spending WAY too much time away. If its long time then dont understand her being upset unless you been caught cheating before
 
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If you say, that you live like a king and you're winning all the time, why wouldn't you decrease you visits to the casino?
As I am a female who has a real passion over poker, but I probably wouldn't choose it over my other half.
On the other hand, if you are winning all the time and she is not happy, try taking her to the the casino and give her some money to play on slot machines :)
 
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if you dedicate enough time you should not complain so much you have to support yourself in what you like and if it is being profitable it is also a benefit for her if you do not want to understand it good tell her goodbye lol
 
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I seriously don't like to see people giving up on a relationship for poker. It's just not right.
How about you cut your weekly session to 2 instead of 4? And spend more time with her doing what she enjoy(her passion).
Make the initiative, show her that you are willing to sacrifice.
I have nothing to add. The only correct solution! When she is happy, you will be happy too!
 
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Teach her to play poker, create her an account and throw money. When she wins something, then I think she will change her mind.Maybe then she will have an understanding!And if not, then you need to quit poker or divorce, or in case of emergency go to a family psychologist.And don't forget to have more sex, it helps)
 
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wife and poker

if the game couse you probleme with your wife ask your self what emporte thinks to you and Attempt to balance that.
 
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