Hello all, I'm coming to get advice or maybe to everyone to tell me what I already know hahaha, Im a succesful and winning poker player, Im a programmer to so in the morning I work in my software job and in the night I go to the casino and play 6pm-11pm but my wife hates it to the point she wants to divorce, the thing is, I only play Poker 4 days per week, the remaining 3 days I take her out for dinner or to travel somewhere, also one day I work from home so its 4 days in total we get to spend time together and do things. also when I get back from playing we watch movies with some chips and beers, so I do actually spend time with her, poker is my passion and im good at it, I could live from poker if I would want too, I have winnings that gives me a king life in Mexico, but she doesn't understand that, its time to breakup maybe?

Dont know why woman are like that, she probably doesnt understand that poker is different from rest of casino games, that you can lose everything in one night..

Dont know what to say if you should break up or not, probably there is other things beside poker

Originally Posted by dedkndy

Hello all, I'm coming to get advice or maybe to everyone to tell me what I already know hahaha, Im a succesful and winning poker player, Im a programmer to so in the morning I work in my software job and in the night I go to the casino and play 6pm-11pm but my wife hates it to the point she wants to divorce, the thing is, I only play Poker 4 days per week, the remaining 3 days I take her out for dinner or to travel somewhere, also one day I work from home so its 4 days in total we get to spend time together and do things. also when I get back from playing we watch movies with some chips and beers, so I do actually spend time with her, poker is my passion and im good at it, I could live from poker if I would want too, I have winnings that gives me a king life in Mexico, but she doesn't understand that, its time to breakup maybe?

To funny.. i was leaning one way then your last line pushed me all the way to the other. You dont love her or its time to break up wouldn't of been an idea. I once played a lot of poker. Traveled a bit and lost my first wife because of it. Poker is conflicting at best. My second wife who at first didnt bother but a few years she put her foot down. So i compromised and saturday poker was born. She go do the hair , nails lunch thing and we meet up for late dinner. Srarted the internet play. She hates online butt its something we all can live with.

Talk to her if you might of miss spoke and love her. Relationships are build on compromise. Maybe get her into poker? As far as living like a king in mexico.... the grass isnt any greener on the other side of the fence. Unless your accustomed to the life of lower states its not all what its cut out to be.


talk to her

Maybe it's not poker the raison .If you are years married,you might have been tired of each other.On a couple we have some personal goals and as mates.Talk we your wife and maybe you won't need a lawyer...good luck

Hmmmmmm seems you have a hard choice ahead of you to say the least. Looks like you are having to choose between a life with your wife of your poker. Tough one for sure.

Not sure if there are some underlining things going on that she wants a divorce? With that said try maybe including her in your poker world as at least taking her with you. Not to play poker (if she is not a player) but I would assume there are slots at the casino you play at?

Well good luck to you as having been divorced is a tough road to travel even if it turns out to be whats best for the both of you.

Good Luck!

You should bring her with you to poker or play online, because that many hours out of the house in her mind is going to mean you are seeing someone else no matter what you are really doing.

you can reconcile two things, poker and wife, I also play poker but I try to reconcile my marriage and poker obligations as you love your wife you have to reconcile a shorter poker game

I'm also programmer and designer.
You do understand that you create something useful when you're coding?
And here comes a logical question:

What kind of useful product you create for the society and for yourself when you're playing poker?

My wife doesn’t understand poker at all and thinks I’m there to meet and talk to girls. No matter how much I explain to her what I do,she still doesn’t understand and we are cursing with her .

How many sacrifices has your wife made for you over the years? Are you going to be happier with the casino regulars or with a family? Put yourself in her shoes; she doesn't get to see you all day and then you choose to spend your weeknights with degenerates instead of her. You are absolutely right that this is headed to divorce ... make the right choice!!!

With mine I taught her to play so she can follow me =)

Originally Posted by dedkndy

its time to breakup maybe?

This last sentence goes to show either you don't love her anymore or you are too selfish to think only of yourself.
The ultimate solution for a relationship to work is fix it, not change it.
There is always time for everything, make time for everything. You need to manage your time between family, work and passion.

I seriously don't like to see people giving up on a relationship for poker. It's just not right.
How about you cut your weekly session to 2 instead of 4? And spend more time with her doing what she enjoy(her passion).
Make the initiative, show her that you are willing to sacrifice.

The fact you're asking random strangers for advice tells me you don't take her or your relationship seriously,,,i feel for your wife,she sounds unhappy. If you really love her,you'll fix it,,, if u don't,u won't. GL.

Try to get to the bottom of what she is really thinking. It may not be about poker.

There are some women if you give them an inch they take you a mile. A compromise will only lead to less and then even less poker if she has no concern about your happiness but only about getting her way all the way.

Some times you have to turn the tables on them and not be intimidated but always reinforce that you love them.

I once told my then girlfriend now wife of many years, dont threaten to leave me, just do it, because if you would be happier with someone else, I want you to be happy. The threats ended right then and there.

Since then I have called her on her BS a few more times, but she later complimented me for doing so tactfully. I rarely put my foot down about anything and try to involve her best I can but when I do put it down she knows better than to press.

If you dont have respect from your woman, you dont have her love either.

in any case, family comes first, only they will forgive you a difficult time.


anyone can get in trouble at any time


I for example went through such difficulties and thanks to my wife only she supported me


she's a great mother to your child

why doesnt she wanna go with you, if she loves you. I learned to play poker for my man, and cant imagine not playing. He passed now. If she wants to spend time with the bread winner, maybe she should consider going with ya You might not always be there.

Originally Posted by guwanch7777777

in any case, family comes first, only they will forgive you a difficult time.


anyone can get in trouble at any time


I for example went through such difficulties and thanks to my wife only she supported me


she's a great mother to your child

why cant SHE be the one to compromise? and Go with him.

Women are always dfficult, lol
If you are so good as you say, then why not play Poker where there are bigger pay-outs
These will have a higher buy-in I guess

But that way you can win the same cash if not more, and play poker less of the time
Also you will have more time with your wife.
Up to you

I had to choose, my Wife or my Poker. I now sleep with my Laptop.

On a serious note, maybe go to some Couple's Therapy, that way each of you can express what you want and what you each are willing to give. This is hard to do without a Therapist (referee) present.

It kind of sounded like you love poker more than her. But, before doing something you both may regret, get some Therapy. Just my two cents worth.

Some great advise given and what a slippery slope you could be in for. Doesn't sound unreasonable to want to play a few times a week. Has to be compromises with any marital disagreement or the foundation deteriorates.

this can go either way depending on how long you 2 been Married. if its short time then your spending WAY too much time away. If its long time then dont understand her being upset unless you been caught cheating before

If you say, that you live like a king and you're winning all the time, why wouldn't you decrease you visits to the casino?
As I am a female who has a real passion over poker, but I probably wouldn't choose it over my other half.
On the other hand, if you are winning all the time and she is not happy, try taking her to the the casino and give her some money to play on slot machines

if you dedicate enough time you should not complain so much you have to support yourself in what you like and if it is being profitable it is also a benefit for her if you do not want to understand it good tell her goodbye lol

Originally Posted by YKCaiTLH1314

I seriously don't like to see people giving up on a relationship for poker. It's just not right.
How about you cut your weekly session to 2 instead of 4? And spend more time with her doing what she enjoy(her passion).
Make the initiative, show her that you are willing to sacrifice.

I have nothing to add. The only correct solution! When she is happy, you will be happy too!

Teach her to play poker, create her an account and throw money. When she wins something, then I think she will change her mind.Maybe then she will have an understanding!And if not, then you need to quit poker or divorce, or in case of emergency go to a family psychologist.And don't forget to have more sex, it helps)

if the game couse you probleme with your wife ask your self what emporte thinks to you and Attempt to balance that.

I am convinced that family is always more important than any hobby. But this is an individual question. Alternatively, you may want to try to find a hobby for your wife.

The wife doesn't want to be shared with poker. She wants to be the only and favorite! You have to make a difficult choice not to lose her

Originally Posted by dedkndy

Hello all, I'm coming to get advice or maybe to everyone to tell me what I already know hahaha, Im a succesful and winning poker player, Im a programmer to so in the morning I work in my software job and in the night I go to the casino and play 6pm-11pm but my wife hates it to the point she wants to divorce, the thing is, I only play Poker 4 days per week, the remaining 3 days I take her out for dinner or to travel somewhere, also one day I work from home so its 4 days in total we get to spend time together and do things. also when I get back from playing we watch movies with some chips and beers, so I do actually spend time with her, poker is my passion and im good at it, I could live from poker if I would want too, I have winnings that gives me a king life in Mexico, but she doesn't understand that, its time to breakup maybe?

It’s strange for me that you are asking for advice in your personal life at the poker forum. Do you really do as strangers tell you?

Originally Posted by dedkndy

Hello all, I'm coming to get advice or maybe to everyone to tell me what I already know hahaha, Im a succesful and winning poker player, Im a programmer to so in the morning I work in my software job and in the night I go to the casino and play 6pm-11pm but my wife hates it to the point she wants to divorce, the thing is, I only play Poker 4 days per week, the remaining 3 days I take her out for dinner or to travel somewhere, also one day I work from home so its 4 days in total we get to spend time together and do things. also when I get back from playing we watch movies with some chips and beers, so I do actually spend time with her, poker is my passion and im good at it, I could live from poker if I would want too, I have winnings that gives me a king life in Mexico, but she doesn't understand that, its time to breakup maybe?

It all depends on whether you really love each other. If your girl really loves you and she does not like that you play, then she should tolerate it. My wife is also not satisfied that I play at night, and not with her in bed. We even had funny scandals. She tried turning off my Internet so I could go to bed with her. Also threatened with divorce, but apparently over time ill and forgotten, now we live and prosper and with a smile remember our stupid and funny scandals.

Hi There
You know what´s the funniest thing?
Is that this situation happen all over the planet
Maybe when the aliens come and we go to a different planet there will be no
women to bother us and maybe some alien female more understanding
hahahahaha
Rgds

It is true that leaving a relationship for poker sounds ridiculous. But someone who doesn't accept you for doing what you do happy, too.

Originally Posted by elJenio8

Dont know why woman are like that, she probably doesnt understand that poker is different from rest of casino games, that you can lose everything in one night..

Dont know what to say if you should break up or not, probably there is other things beside poker

Hello there elJenio how you doing? Man, I would like to give you some piece of advice that it goes for your personal life as well: when you state that "Don't know why women are like that" you are proposing, indirectly, that you maybe are a little bit sexist and this is not good.
I don't believe "women" are like this or that, everyone has its personality, but, we know that our modern western society was built up upon sexism, of a society dominated and ruled by men. We are not in the 19th or 20th century anymore and we try to understand women as subjects of society not objects as you described.
Sorry, I know this is isn't about poker but somehow it comes to the point. Let's reason together and try to respect and understand the female world before blaming women based on generic thoughts of ancient decades.

Regards;

Carlos 'Aballinamion' Barbosa

I think that asking for advice on a social network is wrong, at least in my opinion. The best thing you could do is to seek help from a professional, someone who is responsible for arranging marriages to help you both to do what you can to rescue your relationship. In my case, my wife is worth more than any poker game and any amount of money, and I wouldn't let her go for anything in the world. I hope the best for you both

Originally Posted by dedkndy

Hello all, I'm coming to get advice or maybe to everyone to tell me what I already know hahaha, Im a succesful and winning poker player, Im a programmer to so in the morning I work in my software job and in the night I go to the casino and play 6pm-11pm but my wife hates it to the point she wants to divorce, the thing is, I only play Poker 4 days per week, the remaining 3 days I take her out for dinner or to travel somewhere, also one day I work from home so its 4 days in total we get to spend time together and do things. also when I get back from playing we watch movies with some chips and beers, so I do actually spend time with her, poker is my passion and im good at it, I could live from poker if I would want too, I have winnings that gives me a king life in Mexico, but she doesn't understand that, its time to breakup maybe?

Hello there dedkndy how are you? Thanks for sharing your questions with the Cardschat community. You question is very personal but very important for a poker player. I also play poker, most of times online and my girlfriend is always trying to dispute her attention with me. However, my girlfriend understands that Poker is not a game of luck, instead, a game of skill versus our opponents luck, as some kind player here in the forum uses as its personal motto.
You have to know what is the best for you and the best for her. Maybe your life dynamics as a poker player is not good for her and she's trying to make you decide whether you want to hang up with her or with the dealer and the cards. Complicated, brother and I don't know if I have any authority to help you in this matter.
My personal experience is trying to play when my girlfriend is not around, and when she's around I tried to do something with her such as go to the movies, to the park to take a walk, talk about life and everything. I wouldn't like to be in your shoes in a situation like that, and I also don't want to risk anybody's marriage because I have no ideia how much you care and love one another.
I hope you can talk to her and explain that it is a profession, a very hard one and, in the future, that only you know when and how, you might begin to play poker only, leave your job at the office and then you will have plenty of time for her.
It is hard man when it comes to choose between love and duty because is so strong. I don't know if you watched the TV Show "Game of Thrones" but there is an episode where Meister Aemon Targaryen explain to Jon Snow that.
"Did you ever wonder why the men of the Night's Watch take no wives and father no children?" Maester Aemon asks Jon Snow. "So they will not love. Love is the death of duty." Jon tells him that his father, Ned Stark, would do "whatever is right, no matter what," if faced with the choice between his family and his honor, and Aemon replies that most men are not Ned Stark: "What is honor compared to a woman's love? What is duty against the feel of a newborn son in your arms, or a brother's smile?

Love is the strongest force of the universe. Nothing matches a person in love. Maybe all you have to do is look into her eyes and tell her how much you care for her, how much you love and that everything you do, including gambling is for the sake of her and the family that you have or will have. I hope you can find a way to happiness with your wife, a win win situation where you can keep playing and studying poker and also maintain your relationship in a healthy and loveable way.

Regards;

Love is all! Good game and good luck at the tables always!

Carlos 'Aballinamion' Barbosa

Hi.
My girlfriend also sometimes quarrels with me because of my passion for poker. But I learned how to solve this problem through compromises. There are many options for such compromises and I am convinced that everything depends on you and your desire to solve this problem.
Good luck.

It was something like this in our family, my husband was so much into poker and I was very angry. But then he explained me everything why he is so crazy about poker and here I am now wife gone crazy to

It is a difficult situation. The solution will not be easy. Maybe talking more about this would be perfect. The more dialogue the better.

I think you have already made up your mind. Nothing anyone says here is going to change it. Remember the vows that you took. Good luck!

Poker or your wife? Doesn't seem like a hard choice but it is. Got to try compromising. Sit down and try to explain to her your passion for poker and try to get her to understand that it's not a competition or a replacement for her and that you have time for both. If that doesn't work, sorry, there's more fish in the sea..lol

You need to talk with your wife and prove to her that your game is nothing more than your second job. Unless of course you are telling the truth that your good life depends on winning poker.

you have to keep in mind that always the family is first or it is my way of thinking the best thing is to balance your life with the jeugo, the family and the work because you must have in ceutna you say that you work on the day then you go to the canyon, keep in mind That is about effort that the body will sooner or later take your toll on those excesses that you give yourself without resting properly

Poker is my second wife, whey don't like each other)

This is a little deeper than "should I fold my 44 UTG to a 3bet preflop?" But, misery does like company, and it is good to know that you are not alone. Of course that doesn't mean that any of us have an answer for your particular situation.

I just celebrated my 35th wedding anniversary with my lovely wife a couple of weeks ago. In order to get to this point, you just have to decide what is more important to you. I have told my wife that if I have to choose between poker or you, I choose you. This is a personal decision that starts the dialog. After all, will poker love you back the rest of your life? 100% of arguments, fights, wars are the result of selfishness - each side wanting something the other side isn't willing to give. Love breaks this down to find the spot where both can be content.

Once the dialog is open, now you can work to resolve the real problem, whatever it is. Is it the time, is it the addiction, is it the money, is it jeolousy or something neither of you have really perceived just yet? For my wife, she just does not understand poker and she is scared of the problem of addiction. Our family has direct experience with the very destructive force of addiction, be it drugs or gambling. So, her fears are very real. I have tried to get her interested in poker, thinking that understanding the game would help, but she just isn't interested. So we have to come to an agreement about how often I can play or how much I can spend (lose per month?) and keep her within her comfort zone while giving me enough poker time for my fix. This is working, but there will likely always be a little tension here.

I am no therapist, just sharing a story so you know that you are not alone. In life, we always have to decide what our priorities are and which "thing" is at the top of the list. I have decided, have you?

Good luck to you.

It seems to me that you do not need to make a radical decision. Maybe you should explain to your wife about the benefits of poker for you personally. And explain that poker is part of your life.

Ask yourself one question, can you live without her? If the answer is no, then you know what you need to do. If the answer is yes, then stop stringing her along.

Originally Posted by dedkndy

Hello all, I'm coming to get advice or maybe to everyone to tell me what I already know hahaha, Im a succesful and winning poker player, Im a programmer to so in the morning I work in my software job and in the night I go to the casino and play 6pm-11pm but my wife hates it to the point she wants to divorce, the thing is, I only play Poker 4 days per week, the remaining 3 days I take her out for dinner or to travel somewhere, also one day I work from home so its 4 days in total we get to spend time together and do things. also when I get back from playing we watch movies with some chips and beers, so I do actually spend time with her, poker is my passion and im good at it, I could live from poker if I would want too, I have winnings that gives me a king life in Mexico, but she doesn't understand that, its time to breakup maybe?

You deserve someone that understands you and and supports you in your goals.

Originally Posted by dedkndy

Hello all, I'm coming to get advice or maybe to everyone to tell me what I already know hahaha, Im a succesful and winning poker player, Im a programmer to so in the morning I work in my software job and in the night I go to the casino and play 6pm-11pm but my wife hates it to the point she wants to divorce, the thing is, I only play Poker 4 days per week, the remaining 3 days I take her out for dinner or to travel somewhere, also one day I work from home so its 4 days in total we get to spend time together and do things. also when I get back from playing we watch movies with some chips and beers, so I do actually spend time with her, poker is my passion and im good at it, I could live from poker if I would want too, I have winnings that gives me a king life in Mexico, but she doesn't understand that, its time to breakup maybe?

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IMO if you’re choosing to play poker over your wife, you have a gambling problem.

Originally Posted by terryk

The fact you're asking random strangers for advice tells me you don't take her or your relationship seriously,,,i feel for your wife,she sounds unhappy. If you really love her,you'll fix it,,, if u don't,u won't. GL.

I think everyone is jumping the gun, we need more info, stuff like multiple pics of the said wife, her likes and dislikes, before we can give an informed opinion or phone No

"It Depends"

Originally Posted by fenoz

Poker is my second wife, whey don't like each other)

haha i agree with this guy, cant live with them and cant live without them