This is a little deeper than "should I fold my 44 UTG to a 3bet preflop?" But, misery does like company, and it is good to know that you are not alone. Of course that doesn't mean that any of us have an answer for your particular situation.
I just celebrated my 35th wedding anniversary with my lovely wife a couple of weeks ago. In order to get to this point, you just have to decide what is more important to you. I have told my wife that if I have to choose between poker or you, I choose you. This is a personal decision that starts the dialog. After all, will poker love you back the rest of your life? 100% of arguments, fights, wars are the result of selfishness - each side wanting something the other side isn't willing to give. Love breaks this down to find the spot where both can be content.
Once the dialog is open, now you can work to resolve the real problem, whatever it is. Is it the time, is it the addiction, is it the money, is it jeolousy or something neither of you have really perceived just yet? For my wife, she just does not understand poker and she is scared of the problem of addiction. Our family has direct experience with the very destructive force of addiction, be it drugs or gambling. So, her fears are very real. I have tried to get her interested in poker, thinking that understanding the game would help, but she just isn't interested. So we have to come to an agreement about how often I can play or how much I can spend (lose per month?) and keep her within her comfort zone while giving me enough poker time for my fix. This is working, but there will likely always be a little tension here.
I am no therapist, just sharing a story so you know that you are not alone. In life, we always have to decide what our priorities are and which "thing" is at the top of the list. I have decided, have you?
Good luck to you.
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