a friend of mine wife's hate poker and don't let him play ,he plays without telling her, its like cheating with another girl . do you think its the right decision ?
what will you do if you were him ?

Get rid of her! Lol!

He should ban something that wife likes and he doesnt. For example dont let her shopping Just 'hating something' isnt good reason to forbid your spouse doing it. My husband played poker and I started too. Actually its fun, because when we play together real game with friends, I can perfectly read him. Maybe try to teach wife playing? Or strip poker, just for two?

He ought to win enough money from poker, then his wife will like poker.

I don't know. Does your friend lose a shit load of money and that's why she has a problem with it? If not then she needs to pipe down and eat that steak dinner that poker just paid for.

Originally Posted by Chief talking bull

I don't know. Does your friend lose a shit load of money and that's why she has a problem with it? If not then she needs to pipe down and eat that steak dinner that poker just paid for.

HAHAHAHAHA

This may be the best response to anything EVER.

Chief is right, though. If he isn't burning living money or family time then wife shouldn't have too much of a problem w/it.

Need to change my wife))). Of course I'm joking. I think that if the wife’s choice was conscious, then she should understand your hobbies. And everyone should explain their position, listen to everyone’s arguments and come to a single conclusion. Or be condescending hobbies of each other.

Leave her lol Im jocking of course. it is normal to have different hobbies or different tastes. It is also healthy that everyone has their own space where you can be distracted and at ease

Teach her a lesson or two.

Originally Posted by danydidi

a friend of mine wife's hate poker and don't let him play ,he plays without telling her, its like cheating with another girl . do you think its the right decision ?
what will you do if you were him ?

my wife also hates me when I start playing poker because I spend a lot of time for playing and less time for her, but she is very happy when I win somewhere in a tournament or cash games and give gifts to her or give she needs the amount of money so that she herself buys something, maybe your friend can tell everything to his wife and maybe she will understand him and will support him in the game and it will be nice for him!

Originally Posted by vov4ik

my wife also hates me when I start playing poker because I spend a lot of time for playing and less time for her, but she is very happy when I win somewhere in a tournament or cash games and give gifts to her or give she needs the amount of money so that she herself buys something, maybe your friend can tell everything to his wife and maybe she will understand him and will support him in the game and it will be nice for him!

The problem is, he never wins

I would confess my poker playing way to her, ask what facet of poker irritates her.
Ask, don't demand, if you can play a limited amount of poker, that gives her some input, control; she is as important as ;poker.
You are asking her for input, looking for a solution, a third way.
Try not to make it binary: in or out, 0 or 1, etc.
Be open to suggestions, in poker terms, give her a lot of outs,possibilities

I would have divorced my wife and found one that likes poker.)))

I am not ever going to have a wife, but if someone told me I can't play poker, I will point to the door and say "you know where the door is!" and "don't let it hit your arse on the way out!"

Honestly though, if someone did tell me I can't play poker, they wouldn't mean they are not allowing me to play, they would mean, I can't play because I suck at it

It is necessary to properly present everything to her in this case. If she has such a reaction, then he doesn’t pay attention to her correctly, because the girl must be understood, but this applies more to psychology and logic))))

I play with my wife if she hate poker I will stop !! It's mother of my children's and I will listen her !!!

Take care of the wife first. Make her a priority and give her all the loving she deserves. Once you have her satisfied ask her if she minds you playing poker. If she still doesn't go for it, consider teaching her the game. Start of by playing strip poker and let her win. It's a win win. Good luck!

Originally Posted by ios

He should ban something that wife likes and he doesnt. For example dont let her shopping Just 'hating something' isnt good reason to forbid your spouse doing it. My husband played poker and I started too. Actually its fun, because when we play together real game with friends, I can perfectly read him. Maybe try to teach wife playing? Or strip poker, just for two?

cool ,i wish my wife do the same

Originally Posted by 63burner

I would confess my poker playing way to her, ask what facet of poker irritates her.
Ask, don't demand, if you can play a limited amount of poker, that gives her some input, control; she is as important as ;poker.
You are asking her for input, looking for a solution, a third way.
Try not to make it binary: in or out, 0 or 1, etc.
Be open to suggestions, in poker terms, give her a lot of outs,possibilities

wonderful answer , you should be a politician

Originally Posted by Arthur ZM

I would have divorced my wife and found one that likes poker.)))

that's what i told him to do

He would try to agree and find a way to do it without disturbing either of them.

Choose a day or two of the week and at certain times.

Choose which live tournaments you can play and which does not take so many days.

she hates me just sitting around playing poker, so i try to get her involved

Well ... at the moment I don't have that problem since I'm not married ... but if I decide to marry or live with someone the first thing I will do is tell her about my poker game ...!

Id get another wife..

I try win freerolls and show her that it could be profitable and I don’t need to spend our money. It’s like I never use our money playing poker so I can play how much as I want cause all the money I won from poker I spend back on it .

If she hates poker I will respect her wishes, but she will also have to respect my desire to play. There must be a consensus.

If a wife loves her husband, then she should be condescending to him. Without this consent, they will not exist in their common life.

My "ex" wife and I used to play all kinds of different card games, with friends and relatives. Used to be pretty fun, although she is not only a sore loser, but also a sore winner. lol Always rubbed it in everyone's face when she won.
I started playing poker online and tried to get her interested. She hated poker all of a sudden for some reason, she also would be like that movie "The Cooler" whenever she would come into the room, bam I would lose the hand, even if I didn't she her coming. lol
My brother thought I was nuts, until she came over to his house a few times and it happened right away to him.
I ended up finding out that what she really hated was me and our children. I have been a single dad for a long time now, and we all are very happy.

Divorce ! Poker is more important ! kkkkkkkkkkkkkkk
Its a joke, but talk with her and explains that in your time, you will play poker and the her time, he makes what he want. Can her have fear because its a sport that involves money, but with you have a great head... you will show to her that dont have problems.

Originally Posted by Roger1960

My "ex" wife and I used to play all kinds of different card games, with friends and relatives. Used to be pretty fun, although she is not only a sore loser, but also a sore winner. lol Always rubbed it in everyone's face when she won.
I started playing poker online and tried to get her interested. She hated poker all of a sudden for some reason, she also would be like that movie "The Cooler" whenever she would come into the room, bam I would lose the hand, even if I didn't she her coming. lol
My brother thought I was nuts, until she came over to his house a few times and it happened right away to him.
I ended up finding out that what she really hated was me and our children. I have been a single dad for a long time now, and we all are very happy.

I can't imagine how to hate own children Having two (one infant) and they are so much lovable. Hugs to you, good that your children have at least a wonderfull father

Talk with her,,,,listen to what she has to say,then explain to her that Poker is important to me and makes me a happier person to be with,and i want her to do things that make her happy,,,so she's a happier person too,,,,,

Originally Posted by danydidi

a friend of mine wife's hate poker and don't let him play ,he plays without telling her, its like cheating with another girl . do you think its the right decision ? what will you do if you were him ?

hi hi dany!!!

you do realize that there also some girls play poker?

this sorta a sexist question?

The girl doesn't like not Poker itself, she doesn't like something else...
The time without her boyfriend (but I think it's far to selfish), or the idea he will lose a lot of money, for example.

He is a man, so he 1) can do whatever he wants and fills free 2) has some (!) respect for his woman.
But there should be limits, always)

P.S. I'm a girl)

Originally Posted by KristaK

hi hi dany!!!

you do realize that there also some girls play poker?

this sorta a sexist question?

Oupssss. I know but the majority are men. Anyway i had a dream that my wife will someday love poker, but after 10 years of marriage its still a dream

Hi. I wouldn't hide, I'd talk about it until I understood. and I would make him understand that it is my favorite hobby

He must not hide his love to poker. He must talk to her and make her understand, and even make her a poker player too!

Complicated this situation, but if she doesn't like it, I think it would be better to tell her that she plays and try to convince her than to play hidden, as this can aggravate their relationship. I don't think it's right for her to try to ban him too, since although each couple does what they want in life as long as they don't disrespect another, then you can't deprive a person of what she likes to do just because you don't like it.

That there is the door open in case you want to go

I doubt that he can maintain his concentration when playing with this pressure, problems like this only cause discomfort at the tables the best poker played is the one with pleasure

My wife didn't like to play poker but I teach her to play and she likes to play with me now!

Become a billionaire and buy another woman.

My girlfriend also disapproves of my poker game. She certainly understands that I play when she is not around, so that can’t be called treason!

Do like I have done. Make an agreement with her.
But if you lose bunch of money maybe she is right.

Originally Posted by danydidi

a friend of my wife's hate poker and don't let him play ,he plays without telling her, it's like cheating with another girl . do you think its the right decision?
what will you do if you were him ?

if he's losing a lot of money id plan where I'm going to be living

Hiding things from your/his wife is never a good idea as she WILL find out
and she WILL remember it for yearrrrrssss and every fecking argument you have you WILL be reminded about it .

But she also should not be able to tell him what to do or how to do it unless he's a gambling addict or losing more than they can afford or he's spending her money ..

Originally Posted by Jack Reacher

Become a billionaire and buy another woman.

So how far you are from becoming a billionaire

Originally Posted by danydidi

a friend of mine wife's hate poker and don't let him play ,he plays without telling her, its like cheating with another girl . do you think its the right decision ?
what will you do if you were him ?

They have a problem in their relationship that..

A) She doesn't want him to do something that he wants to do
B) He is doing it behind her back

This is not a good recipe for a happiness.

Originally Posted by Poker_Mike

They have a problem in their relationship that..

A) She doesn't want him to do something that he wants to do
B) He is doing it behind her back

This is not a good recipe for a happiness.

Yes of corse but hes loosing some money and...... Thats why he cant tell her

What nonsense. Of course you don’t need to completely kill your time with the game, but still. I don’t think it’s so malicious.

I know I have already seen this answer. Get a new wife !!! Seriously though. might be true.

Really I expect any partner would find it unacceptable if they were playing all the time and not doing other activities together at all, but then perhaps his interest in poker happened, because they were not doing anything together anyway.

I would say, that I expect, that she would like it more if he won the Sunday Million and spent some of the money on her. No doubt. Perhaps the problem is not the playing poker, perhaps the problems run a bit deeper than that................

I expect there is some of this involved too............

Hi.
Sometimes my girlfriend takes offense at me, but I always try to find a compromise that will suit both of us.
Good luck.