Telling family about my successful playing?

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Hey players! :) Glad to join the forum!

The past year I have been making a good amount of money from gambling, nothing else. I'm a 20 year old student trying to get my grades after being severly sick for years.
I'm not sure if I should tell my family about my financial success or not.
My mom comes from a state of fear, I understand that. She doesn't understand poker, trading, online marketing, any of that stuff and she worries about money a lot. A LOT!
But I am good with my money.
I want to have a real job in the future and owning a business for example interests me. But if I can, easily, make a good sum of money to support me and mom, would it still be wrong to do it this way?
I'm really interested in the game and like to study it a lot.
I'm not a gambling addict and I take responsibility for any losses.
Thank you for reading, please comment with your own experiences.
 
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Welcome MelEricsson and good luck ! Can you tell me how much you won?
 
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Although none of us like to keep secrets from our mothers, wives or girlfriends the question to ask yourself is will this info make their life better or worse and if the answer is worst then there is no reason to tell them.
P>S> This also applies if you are having an affair. :) :) :)
 
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I don't see why I would feel the need to tell anyone at all?

I wouldn't tell them how much I was making at my job... I wouldn't tell them how much I chose to spend on recreation or any of my expenses &/or bills either (unless I was sharing my finances with them & my decisions had an impact on their life).
 
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Hi MelEricsson and welcome to Cardschat. I don't see anything wrong with making an income from playing poker. But if I had my chose, I would get the job and play poker for fun. What stakes do you play? And you say you are 20 years old and been playing for a year? Poker takes a lot of experience. I been playing for 13 years and have learned a lot from right here, but I can't make a good income from it. At least not from my level. Anyway, GL to you and let us know some more about yourself, and about your game. Maybe you can help some of us better our game.
 
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I think you should talk with her about your new income and explain to her what you posted here. Tell her that you want have another job than poker that will give you more financial security and show her your poker winnings control. This will help her understand that you are not an addict.
 
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I don't see why I would feel the need to tell anyone at all?

I wouldn't tell them how much I was making at my job... I wouldn't tell them how much I chose to spend on recreation or any of my expenses &/or bills either (unless I was sharing my finances with them & my decisions had an impact on their life).

You have a job? :) JK. :)
 
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Since you are not doing anything wrong, there is no need to get it 'off your chest'. And since your Mom is a big worrier, especially about money, why give the poor woman yet another thing to worry about? It's not like you are holding out on something she is really entitled to know about. (If she is giving you money for school, and you are living at home in her house, then yes, I believe she IS entitled to know.)

Go to college or plumber school or anywhere you feel you can learn to make a steady living, even if poker is outlawed in the US altogether. (A very unlikely scenario.) Then you can have the best of both worlds. At your age, you have plenty of time to do both, lucky you!
 
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Since you are not doing anything wrong, there is no need to get it 'off your chest'. And since your Mom is a big worrier, especially about money, why give the poor woman yet another thing to worry about? It's not like you are holding out on something she is really entitled to know about. (If she is giving you money for school, and you are living at home in her house, then yes, I believe she IS entitled to know.)

Go to college or plumber school or anywhere you feel you can learn to make a steady living, even if poker is outlawed in the US altogether. (A very unlikely scenario.) Then you can have the best of both worlds. At your age, you have plenty of time to do both, lucky you!

This says it all. 20 years old and you have your whole life ahead of you. Unless you can sit down with a $1000 in front of you or play in the big buyin tournments, it's very hard to make a good living from poker. This year even Ivey is down. So go to college like duecesdown said. Pick some high paying jobs and go for it, and play poker for fun and pick up a little money along the way. GL to you
 
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talk to your mother would be ideal and explain your situation, and that would play more relaxed manner and profits would be even better than before
 
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I don't see why I would feel the need to tell anyone at all?

I wouldn't tell them how much I was making at my job... I wouldn't tell them how much I chose to spend on recreation or any of my expenses &/or bills either (unless I was sharing my finances with them & my decisions had an impact on their life).
EXACTLY THIS - As usual, Colin is 'right on target' - good advice mate.
Understand that 'a persons perspective is their reality' and only they can change that perspective - your mom's is considerable different than yours with regard to poker/gambling. However, ALWAYS BE RESPECTFUL to your mom and others who have a different perspective.
Good luck on the felt.
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If it is going fine as it is, then there is no real need to divulge? You are not lying about it, just not saying anything.

We need some figures though on what you have won?
 
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Well MelEricson,

When I was a student I used to play poker as well to earn some cash and pay for my expanses (and a lot of partying) . It wasn't much, probably 350 a month extra in cash but I felt like a king. My family and girlfriend we're okay with it as long as i didn't spend to much money on it (they didn't believe i started freerolling). After 13 months of doing it I got too greedy and ruined my whole bankroll, needed to find a proper job to cover my expanses.

That is my story and my family and friends understood what I was doing (I think) and never heard anything negative from them. Only thing i can recommend is not to hide these things from you girlfriend or close family, there is no taboo on it and hiding the truth is always worse in my opinion. Honesty is one of the most important qualities :) . Maybe even introduce them to what you are doing, let them watch for a little time so they know your responsible in what you are doing.

Good luck with your poker earnings and read up on bankrolls so you don't make the same mistakes I did 6 years ago :) .


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This year even Ivey is down.

Isn;t that because of the lawsuits some casinos had against him and he lost?
 
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OP needs to ask himself why he wants to divulge this information, is it so he can brag about how well he is doing.


I don't see why I would feel the need to tell anyone at all

I wouldn't tell them how much I was making at my job... I wouldn't tell them how much I chose to spend on recreation or any of my expenses &/or bills either (unless I was sharing my finances with them & my decisions had an impact on their life).

Like Bullish said, this advice is spot on.


If it is going fine as it is, then there is no real need to divulge? You are not lying about it, just not saying anything.

We need some figures though on what you have won?

Just like poker orifice replied to Esanu, Why?

Are you comfortable telling strangers what your BR is.

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i wont tell they thinl its gambling :D
 
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OP needs to ask himself why he wants to divulge this information, is it so he can brag about how well he is doing.




Like Bullish said, this advice is spot on.




Just like poker orifice replied to Esanu, Why?

Are you comfortable telling strangers what your BR is.

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To strangers on the internet? I couldn't care less mate
 
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I kinda keep all info to myself I won a nice chunk of change on bovada one time and told family about it then the next thing i knew everyone wanted money from me so i keep to myself my wins and losses
 
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Poker has massive swings and that is something that people tend to forget when they are running good. The people who are consistently profitable make up an extremely small percentage of total players. If you are thinking about playing professionally keep in mind that running bad can make you more cautious when you play and ultimately lower your profitability.
Finish school, get a decent job that has stability in what it is paying you and then think about playing poker. There are a lot of hard luck stories in poker from people who were once on top, don't allow yourself to be one of them!
 
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Wait to tell her until you can buy her a house. This way you can show her and not just talk about it.
LM
 
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well to start off congrats to become a member at cc, and what you make is your business not anyone else , but now in my cass i tell Gina always what i win we don't keep any secrets from each other she always say i`m glad for you honey
 
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If you are at risk of losing money, the best thing is to tell and explain.
With the support of the family you'll certainly play better.
 
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