Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???
Inequitas
Legend
Silver Level
All I can say is you're not alone... Its Not just Poker... Many Partners don't like many things the other half actually do... That's Life and That's Poker...
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Nomahoners
Rock Star
Silver Level
Play poker when she is enjoying her favourite tv show or reading a book not when she wants to go for a walk or whatever it is she likes to do.
If you are winning or just playin micro/freerolls, you are potentially being paid to do something you enjoy. Not many people get paid to enjoy themselves. Most hobbies are expensive and or time consuming. Poker can be neither of these things and you dont have to leave the house!
If she wants you to watch ‘ Greys Anatomy ‘ with het just talk alot, ask alot of questions about the characters. Hopefully she will tire of these annoyances and tell you to go play poker. Worked for me!
If you are winning or just playin micro/freerolls, you are potentially being paid to do something you enjoy. Not many people get paid to enjoy themselves. Most hobbies are expensive and or time consuming. Poker can be neither of these things and you dont have to leave the house!
If she wants you to watch ‘ Greys Anatomy ‘ with het just talk alot, ask alot of questions about the characters. Hopefully she will tire of these annoyances and tell you to go play poker. Worked for me!
dragunovich
Rock Star
Silver Level
just make a room for her in ur life.. the poker don't die but the relationships can do it.. try to understand that the poker isn't important or not too much important like to put in risk everything.. some people never find the love so..
guineasqueak
Rock Star
Silver Level
Simple - make yourself the priority. She clearly does not value or appreciate you if she is demanding you change your behaviour and issue ultimatums.
Put yourself and your career first. Don't keep a "significant other" for the sake of checking that box. If poker is your bread and butter, that is.
Put yourself and your career first. Don't keep a "significant other" for the sake of checking that box. If poker is your bread and butter, that is.
COMIRRR
Legend
Bronze Level
My wife is supporting me in playing poker because she knows I'm a tough person and has confidence in me that I will not be able to lose large amounts of family budget, and knows how much I like this game. If it were not so I would play when she's gone to work 
mrgupta
Enthusiast
Silver Level
It's kind of hard to help without knowing more about you.
Are you a winning player? What are your goals in poker? Do you play live or online poker? How much time daily do you spend on poker? How much time do you spend studying poker? Do you neglect your SO's needs while you play poker? Do you neglect house chores in order to play poker? When asking yourself all these questions, you might even notice that poker isn't really the problem. Maybe your SO doesn't believe that poker is a game of skill and if so, educate him/her.
I find that the key to every relationship is trust and communication. Everything can be sorted out, just talk to your partner. Be honest about yourself, about your goals and dreams when you talk and I'm sure you guys can work it out. After all, you picked your partner for a reason, you've decided on your SO because you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her.
Most importantly, be honest to yourself when you are evaluating your poker skills. Don't think you can be playing poker for a living, when you had 2 great months of running good and suddenly you think you can become a real crusher, so you neglect studying and improving your game.
I've had loads of talks with my girlfriend about poker and she understands now, she even supports it. I've had to explain myself in detail, we've made some compromises regarding chores and how we spend time together and now she's completely fine with it.
Sometimes, she still doesn't give me enough time or space to do poker, no interruptions while playing is the key, but it's a work in progress. It got much better than it was at the start and I'm sure it can get better with you too.
Are you a winning player? What are your goals in poker? Do you play live or online poker? How much time daily do you spend on poker? How much time do you spend studying poker? Do you neglect your SO's needs while you play poker? Do you neglect house chores in order to play poker? When asking yourself all these questions, you might even notice that poker isn't really the problem. Maybe your SO doesn't believe that poker is a game of skill and if so, educate him/her.
I find that the key to every relationship is trust and communication. Everything can be sorted out, just talk to your partner. Be honest about yourself, about your goals and dreams when you talk and I'm sure you guys can work it out. After all, you picked your partner for a reason, you've decided on your SO because you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her.
Most importantly, be honest to yourself when you are evaluating your poker skills. Don't think you can be playing poker for a living, when you had 2 great months of running good and suddenly you think you can become a real crusher, so you neglect studying and improving your game.
I've had loads of talks with my girlfriend about poker and she understands now, she even supports it. I've had to explain myself in detail, we've made some compromises regarding chores and how we spend time together and now she's completely fine with it.
Sometimes, she still doesn't give me enough time or space to do poker, no interruptions while playing is the key, but it's a work in progress. It got much better than it was at the start and I'm sure it can get better with you too.
MishkaZL
Legend
Platinum Level
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neptun1914
Legend
Silver Level
You should have balance between family duties and hobbies (poker including). If you use every free time to play poker she is normal to be mad. At the same time if you play occasionally using only hobby money and do your family duties i do not find it normal your partner to be mad. Try to explain her that you play for fun and following strict bankroll management. If needed show her your profile and transactions to convince her. If you win something big buying her present with part of the money will show her that poker can also be good thing. If nothing of that helps - well the choice is your but i personally will not trust partner who do not respect your right to have some hobbies and free time.
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Maggio_A
Rock Star
Silver Level
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TongueLashin
Rock Star
Silver Level
I was having the same problem
Learn to multitask during buy period is my advice if you are a MTT player. Try and get all the chores done between hands while you can still rebuy. Feed everybody, run an errand or 2, tidy up and anything else you can squeeze into that time. Hopefully when buys end you will have bought yourself some peace to bust heads and handle your business. This helped my situation a lot.
Learn to multitask during buy period is my advice if you are a MTT player. Try and get all the chores done between hands while you can still rebuy. Feed everybody, run an errand or 2, tidy up and anything else you can squeeze into that time. Hopefully when buys end you will have bought yourself some peace to bust heads and handle your business. This helped my situation a lot.
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mike1113
Enthusiast
Silver Level
Same here
In my experience, as long as you don't punt away your collective money and stay on top of your relationship and your life, your SO should accept poker as a hobby of yours and should learn to live with it like they learn to live with your other personal traits. My GF does things I don't like, and I do things she doesn't like (like poker), but that doesn't mean we're not right for each other; you're never going to find someone that's perfectly happy with EVERY single aspect of your life and you with theirs. These are natural compromises that arise in every relationship, and if it's seriously seriously a problem for your SO, maybe you guys could work out an agreement to take a break from playing or only play 1 time a week or something. Good luck friend!
In my experience, as long as you don't punt away your collective money and stay on top of your relationship and your life, your SO should accept poker as a hobby of yours and should learn to live with it like they learn to live with your other personal traits. My GF does things I don't like, and I do things she doesn't like (like poker), but that doesn't mean we're not right for each other; you're never going to find someone that's perfectly happy with EVERY single aspect of your life and you with theirs. These are natural compromises that arise in every relationship, and if it's seriously seriously a problem for your SO, maybe you guys could work out an agreement to take a break from playing or only play 1 time a week or something. Good luck friend!
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LukeSilver
Rock Star
Silver Level
my girlfriend fully supports me playing poker and encourages me to play. sometimes when I lack the motivation after a series of bad beats or self doubt my girlfriend is encouraging me saying you dont realise what your capable of and saying you need to play poker today. you need to be on this.
she says things like i have seen you play your really good she often watches and cheers me on and calls for the cards i need if i get all in eg ak vs 99 she will be going come on ace ace etc.
she says things like i have seen you play your really good she often watches and cheers me on and calls for the cards i need if i get all in eg ak vs 99 she will be going come on ace ace etc.
