Poker for money ruins friendship?

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Chaskyweed05

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Do you think you can play with friends for money without damaging your friendship? I read them, good smoke community!
 
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it all depends on the friend,,,,money would never come between me and someone i care about,it just would't,,, :cool:
 
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I think it is a good idea to keep the stakes lower and play for the enjoyment with friends.
 
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Do you think you can play with friends for money without damaging your friendship? I read them, good smoke community!
Yes, it's only a game, if people get shitty over a game then they probably aren't worth being your friend.

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My friends and I started playing poker together I high school for pennies and quarters. It only made our friendships grow closer. We eventually graduated to $100-$200 buy-ins. The raised stakes did not damage our friendship at all. We are all very competitive but we all understood that whatever money we bought in was our own choosing and risk. No matter how heated our games got, in the end we all appreciated our competitive nature and no one was ever a sore loser.
 
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I think it shall not harm the real friendship at all.

However I have my own principles on that and do never play poker for real money with my family members or close friends. None of them are experienced players and I know, that poker is a game of skill. And I really can't playing poker worse, than I usually do. So I just feel it's not right to play for money with them.

But it's me... I don't see anything wrong, if friends would play for money sometimes, as it will be a great time spent together!
 
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well i believe that if the friendship is not true it can ruin the friendship in the most what i believe that most can happen frequently is envy.
 
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Lol I play poker with my friends from 10+ years and everything is good between us
 
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If a person is really a "good friend" I doubt taking his or her money in a poker game would damage the friendship. I know when I get together with friends to play poker we have limited the buy in to $200.00 with no rebuys so no one gets hurts that bad but yet one can win a nice amount of fun money :))))))))

Good luck All -- :D
 
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I think it depends on how you deal with the game. I play for years with my friends and we never had any fights in our poker games. We play with real money, but the fun is always the most important thing.

Yes, this is how it is for many friends. It depends on the "friend" and the atmosphere/personalities. Poker is clearly an emotional game with many ups and downs (as anyone who has played for any decent length of time can attest) and some people can't handle the variance as well as others (no one said it was easy of course - exponentially harder at higher stakes).

If your friend is the kind of player to redirect their anger at others, or the kind of person to get too heated in the moment: then perhaps it is best to not play poker with them. However, there are many friends who love playing (win or lose) and the game doesn't impact the friendship. I think most friends won't be broken up by a card game, but it really depends on the person - plus the friendlier the atmosphere, then the better chance they will all enjoy themselves and keep coming back.
 
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Also, here is a resource from cardschat that may interest you if you haven't seen it already

https://www.cardschat.com/organize-home-game.php

Sometimes the little things like offering food or drinks is the thing that lightens the atmosphere enough to keep everyone coming back; it is more than just a game: as a host, you are creating an atmosphere and an experience for them all as well :)
 
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Yes, if the money goes between friends, their behavior changes and reaches the end of friendship. Advice Do not play poker with friends with big money.
 
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I believe that if the poker playing with money with friends ruins your friendship, I can say that the people in the situation are not friends. It will be very stupid to ruin your friendship with someone because of money - never mind it is in poker or something else.

I usually play poker with my best friends and every time we are playing with money , because without nothing, the adrenaline is too slow and the emotions are not on the highest level. :D We are playing 5 people and the winner is taking all of the prize. And we all know that this is for fun and the person who will take the first place will celebrate half of the award with us, because we are his best friends. It is simple:),
 
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Real friendship could not destroied by poker
But sometimes it's better to play not with friends.
For me and my friends it's ok cause we play since
15 years and we play for fun but about real money...
 
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many players play among themselves and are not necessarily friends. on the contrary, poker can bring people together. they play for fun.
 
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My friends and I used to have a day when we got together just to play, drink and have a barbecue together ... we never had any problems, but I believe we all know that you only take what you can lose .... nobody will play thinking winning another's house .... hahaha
Now we haven't done it for months because of the pandemic...
 
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Do you think you can play with friends for money without damaging your friendship? I read them, good smoke community!


It depends how much money and if you have fun together. But I guess I would not play against a friend.
 
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Played in a home game every Sunday for three years before I eventually moved away. We all had a good time but there was always one guy there who honestly felt that the game was for a wsop bracelet. He would criticize every single thing that a person did even if they made a good call or whatever. He would get excited when he made the money (usually only paid top three) and eventually lost enough where he berated us all and never came back.
 
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I don't think playing for money is a problem. Most of my friends that I have played poker with have not gotten upset because of it. I've even made friends through playing. One of the people I have played the most with, my step-brother (and the inspiration for my signature), is a better friend because of our poker play than if we didn't play.

It's a game, and most mature friendships can handle that. Yes, there is money involved, but that is just for keeping score. And, no one should be playing with an amount you can't lose.

With all that said, poker did strain my relationship with my brother-in-law for a little while. He wasn't supposed to be playing for money, but he decided to play anyway with money he couldn't afford to lose. My son proceeded to stack him 3-4 times in as many rounds on the table. Then my son, being 8 at the time, got bored and wandered off, leaving all the money just sitting there on the table. My brother-in-law got a little heated about that. But, I told him that no one has to play longer than they wish and if he had won all the money my son had, I wouldn't ask him to give it back. It started a pretty big fight between him and my sister, because he was unable to make back his losses. But, that's not the fault of poker. That's his own choices.
 
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I Never had problems with that, but we play for small amounts.
We had problems only once, with a guy who was a guest of one friend. I was in the heads-up of a small tournament with him and caught him hiding an ace behind his leg. He, of course, denied the fact, and said it was an accident, the card just fell there. Well, I was ahead, and just to avoid an argument, proposed the end of the game and a a deal, 50/50. He, obviously, agreed.
Anyways it costed him a lot. He was in a negotiation with the friend who brought him to invest in a bar. He told me later he gave up on the investment because he couldn't have as partner someone who cheats in a home game. What is absolutely true.
 
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Another thing, I think that in the perfect home game between friends you should have more money in beer and snacks than on the table. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
 
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Another thing, I think that in the perfect home game between friends you should have more money in beer and snacks than on the table. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
I was thinking the same thing, and if you do win, take your friends out for a few drinks afterwards, share some of your winnings with them, after all they are your friends.

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You need to play for the money that friends can lose without damaging the family budget, and play only small bets.
 
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If you play poker for fun, with small buy ins, it will never ruin good friendships, but if it does, maybe it’s not a friendship at all.
 
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