Poker in a conservative family

[Sulfuros001]

Hey guys,
I've grown up in a muslim conservative family that considers Poker playing as a strictly forbidden game. My best friend suffers the same since he is still living with the family.
Living away from my family made feel comfortable playing poker, but my dream is to be a well known professional poker player and make my family proud of me, maybe also travel with me and support me , how can i achieve this goal when it's a no go to my parents? How can i convince them? Any taughts? Someone with the same background?
Thank you

 

[Gamer4455]

Hi Sulfuros001. I can understand your situation with your family. But believe me, you are not alone just because you are from a muslim family. Mine even looked down on me for playing so much, and having dreams I wanted to talk about, but they didn't want to hear them. Here is what I've been told and I have told others the same thing. You have nothing to prove to anyone except yourself. Your actions and success will talk for themselves. So just keep this stuff to yourself in order to keep from having hard feelings within your family. I want to say this and I will come to the end. That is a really big goal you have, which is hard to reach, so a good thing to do is set some smaller goals you can reach, then set more. And everyone you reach gets you a little closer to the big one. GL

 

[ToNy70929]

I think if you are successful in poker and your finances are profitable, this will be the best argument for conservative family members.

 

[besplatnee]

Before talking to your family, you need to understand yourself first. Are you really a professional poker player? Does this bring you a stable and significant income? Are you ready to earn it for us in the coming years? Only positive answers to all of these questions should be the first step to talking with your family.

 

[sharipov8090]

First of all, it is necessary to honor the traditions.If faith does not allow you to play, then you should think about it.what do we live for?What is sacred to us?Find yourself in something else that does not prevent you from breaking the laws.And you will see that you can become a professional in another direction.Not always our preferences bring good luck.So think about it.

 

[milka1605]

Your problem is very serious. The religious dogmas of our parents are hard to overcome. I'm afraid you won't be able to persuade your parents, in which case your big poker wins might be the best addition to the persuasion. Facts always contribute to persuasion. Find professional players of your faith and use them as examples.My relatives (not related to religion) were all against it when they found out that I was playing poker. But when I began to make a profit and buy things for myself with this money, then they fell silent.

 

[vnnby]

You are the master of your life, you must live in harmony with yourself. If you have a hobby, it brings pleasure, then why not?

 

[Cooking]

My parents don’t like the game, but they don’t consider a forbidden game, so, it’s easier. I think you can try to explain to them how poker works, that luck plays only a small role and that you need to study and have discipline to have success.

 

[Datdude1]

Yours is a very challenging situation. I have had someone close to me not want me to play because it takes up a lot of time but we compromised. I hope that you can change your family's views on poker. Good luck.

 

[Roller]

Hey guys,
I've grown up in a muslim conservative family that considers Poker playing as a strictly forbidden game.

This statement alone should tell you that there is nearly no chance of your dream coming true. Giving ones respect to a family's religious beliefs is about as important as it gets, your simply not and probably should not even try to explain your love for the game of poker.

 

[aviatorsam]

Communication

I think communication can solve all problems! Especially in this case.

 

[neptun1914]

If it is just conservative society you can try to explain and show your results and your bankroll to convince people that you know what you are doing. When religion is involved though it is much harder. You can attempt to explain difference between gambling and poker and hope that they will understand. Good luck.

 

[GARCIA PABLO DANIEL]

hello

!You are of legal age and you can make your own decisions, achieve your goals and if your family does not accept it, it is their problem. Do what makes you happy as long as you don't hurt anyone. You propose it, you will achieve it !!! Greetings, a big hug !!

 

[NWPatriot]

Good dialog.

If we are to play poker, we have to deal with the 2 core issues that it entails.

1) A gambling addiction, just like any negative addiction, can be a very serious, detrimental and life altering problem, that can affect those around us as much as it can affect ourselves. Winning does not solve the addiction problem, so relying on success is a bit of a problem. Most addicts will likely have a period of success and lean on that success and convince themselves that it is bound to happen again. We need the objective support of our friends and family to help us see these things that we may be blind to.

2) The other issue is that the nature of poker is to exploit or take advantage of another human being. When we choose a career or hobby that requires others to fail in order for us to succeed, we really need to get our head around this. For me, I have convinced myself that this is just a game, and that I am hopeful that the players I am playing with are also just playing a game. This helps me rationalize it, but it doesn't solve the problem. I will absolutely not play against a person that appears to be in the "addict/degernerate" category. I will not destroy another human being in this way. Most pros that use proper bankroll management do not fit in this category, but we never really know, do we?

These are tough questions. We need to live with ourselves and our decisions.

Good luck and God Bless

 

[MishkaZL]

Without a doubt, family is the most important thing in our lives. Try to find a compromise, it is always a real way out of difficult situations.

 

[June4Spades]

Not at all your background, but maybe it would help if you convince them that poker resembles rather a sport then a gam / gambling, if done prefssionally. You have to train, you struggle, you can be helped by coaches, you need stamina.

 

[Pokerpoet2]

My Wife is my total opposite in all things when it comes to gambling, she has seen it every day in her working life as a Manager in a slot machine Arcade, people losing money they cannot afford to lose, sometimes as much as a weeks wage packet in one sitting. Gambling is addictive and when you chase losses, it becomes harder to control.
When I showed an interest in On-line Poker, she was dead against it, worrying that I might lose everything we had worked hard for, so I made her a promise, that "I would never make a deposit" and I have kept that promise for over 20 years.
I don't want to make a small fortune, playing On-line Poker, I just want to play a game I enjoy, and doing it all for free! Is Awesome! Sure I have bought into Live games in Pubs, Clubs and casinos, but she knows I have total control over how much I am willing to lose, whether it is on Poker, slots or even Horse Racing and that is very important.
Gambling is fun, but only if you are in control, losing that control can be exspensive, not just for yourself but loved ones around you, That is what most Family members Worry about, not so much the money, as that can be replaced, but your self control, which can lead to depression and even suicide, I have seen it happen to some people, so has my Wife and that is what she was worried most about.

When the fun Stops, STOP!
(words to live by)

 

[ChubbySin]

Hey guys,
I've grown up in a muslim conservative family that considers Poker playing as a strictly forbidden game. My best friend suffers the same since he is still living with the family.
Living away from my family made feel comfortable playing poker, but my dream is to be a well known professional poker player and make my family proud of me, maybe also travel with me and support me , how can i achieve this goal when it's a no go to my parents? How can i convince them? Any taughts? Someone with the same background?
Thank you

Well, my opinion ok?

Lets break it in topics:

1 - Results, massive results, can convince anyone, no matter how conservative they are.

2 - While you don´t have massive results, you don´t need to argue with them, you can simply play whether they like or not, and unfortunately you will have to deal with it.

3 - My family is conservative as well, last week I bought a stove to my conservative mother, she was happy with the gift, I told her it was possible due Poker, the stove came from poker game money.

If your parents/relatives loves you they will respect your choice.

Regards

 

[emejota23]

Well, the truth is, my family is very conservative, my mom never supported me, with poker, she says it's a gambling game, and she doesn't like gambling, but I keep learning day by day...