when you often lose , are you trying to forget or are you still angry?
Personally, If I understand why I lost I am not bothered at all. As a matter of fact I am positive and upbeat about the whole situation. Giving the respect to the player that either, made the draw they were looking for or out played me in the hand. Either way, I will tap the table and say Nice hand (if live), or say NH (online).
If I get beat and the hand doesn't make sense, I usually want a reasoning as to why they made the call, or did whatever they did that didn't make sense. It is never to tell the player they are bad, made a bad play or berate them in any way. I just want to learn. Players that are struggling in their poker journey tend to blame other factors on why they lost the hand, where as I embrace what happened and now, want to understand the situation and learn from it.
So even after suffering an extremely bad beat, I will spend my emotion and effort figuring out what I could have done differently to not have that happen. If the answer is nothing, then I am happy I played the hand as perfectly as I could.