To be able to give more precise responses, I think it would help if you posted a complete hand history as an example of each of the specific scenarios you mentioned. The optimal move in a particular case depends not just on your hand and the board texture, but on numerous other factors as well (e.g. your opponents' tendencies, the players' positions, and the pre-flop action). But I can work a bit with what I've got--
jimmyd1953 said:
if i see 2 cards suited or connected i bet pot, unless someelse made abig raise preflop then ill check if im before him.
You've got the right idea with charging potential drawing
hands big to continue on a wet board. I'd probably bet a bit less than pot-size; somewhere around 2/3-3/4 pot. You've also got the right idea with checking to the pre-flop raiser and letting him continuation-bet, in which case you may want to check-raise.
jimmyd1953 said:
lets say flop is 2,5 ,10 rainbow , ill bet minimum with a set, then push pot on turn . is this wrong?
It depends on the turn card and what I put my opponent on (was the turn likely to have hit him?). Just in a vacuum, though, I'd rarely min-bet the flop. You want your bets to either extract value from your opponents' worse hands or get them to lay down better hands; min-betting, for the most part, achieves neither. In NLHE, my flop c-bet sizing is generally between 1/2-3/4 pot.
jimmyd1953 said:
if flop is 8 6 and 3 all suited and i have a set of 8s , i will check and call hoping to pair the board.
Depending on how many players are in the hand on the flop, you can't just assume someone has a made flush (especially if you're HU). It's generally better to take initiative and lead out with such a strong (and potentially best) hand, price out players drawing to a flush, be able to represent a flush yourself, etc. than to passively check/call and leave deciding if your hand is good to guesswork. But this is really situation-dependent, so again, a full hand history would help.
jimmyd1953 said:
i have 6500 in chips. i get pocket 6s. a player raises big into me ( 800 i think) and i call with the intent of folding if i miss my set. flop is 2 6 and 8, i know he has a big pair probably aces. i shove allin and he calls with pocket aces. he has 2 outs and hits an ace on the river. was this bad luck or did i play this wrong?
Your pre-flop play is questionable (hard to tell definitively without knowing the size of the blinds, but it seems as though you didn't quite have the implied
odds to set mine). But as played, you again had the right idea trying to get your stack in with the second nuts on the flop. It seems like you donk-jammed into the pre-flop raiser, though; it would have been better to check-raise him instead. The fact that you happened to lose the hand is bad luck, but irrelevant to whether you played it well or not. I would be happy to get it in on the flop every time in this spot, and be completely indifferent to getting drawn out on.