I understand what you mean, as I had the same trouble. I no longer have this, in certain cases. If I have AA-JJ I am raising an amount that fits to my table dynamics and position as well as any calling prior to my raise. And this is gonna be changing according to your table. If the table is real loose (and stupidly loose as well, happens a lot in small stakes, big raises getting called with Q 7 os and so on) I will raise 4-5 BB and more with limpers. If there is a raiser already, it depends on how I view him, his position, his raise and relative stack sizes. If he is big stacked, and has his stack from only playing premium hands aggressively, what I do is depending on blinds and my stack. With JJ and a decent stack, I may call here and be ready to leave the hand if overcards appear. If my stack is dwindling and his raise makes the pot 25%+ my stack I may push back all in. There are few limits to things you must consider before making your move and no standard answer can be given without considering table dynamics, blinds, stacks and so on. But I digress as I think your question pertains to post flop play.
However, table dynamics and position and stacks are just as pertinent post flop. But simply put. say I have QQ and the flop comes Q 9 7 d. I raise the pot and get called. That sends big red flags up for me and I must consider who is calling and why. A calling station and obvious weak player, or someone who has shown good poker playing? Cause I am gonna have a tough decision if another diamond falls. In low stakes, I am probably going the limit with my set. However, if the flop came K 9 7 d and my raise was called, I am almost out of this hand, and certainly done putting money in if another diamond falls.
But I am really saying a lot without saying anything at all, cause it will always be situational. I see people with AA-QQ going out cause they cannot lay down when it is pretty obvious they are well behind. But sometimes you are up against an idiot where he can have a monster or crap, he plays em all. You have to observe and pay attention, and know your opponent. The factors I mentioned above will be what helps you decide. Stacks, position, blind level, players left and others. I am a STT and MTT player, so my answer is directly about these games.
But it is hard to give any kind of a generic answer, best thing is you post some hands and dont reveal the outcome, and that will be the easiest way for all here to comment on if you should lay down or push (back).