Originally Posted by kurthead
Which is obviously why I'm seeking help. Describing the type of losing player I am doesn't mean I think I'm a winning player. I describe my skill set and my weaknesses to get tips, instead I just keep being told that I'm a losing player. I'M AWARE OF THIS. (I wouldn't need to be asking questions on here if I were a winning player.) My problem requires specificity to be solved, does it not? I can't just get on here and say "I lose my money while playing, now how do I fix this?" Now anyone please let me know how to fix the problems I've listed.
I know there is know universal cure, that's why I'm asking for "tips/advice" not magic. I also know that it will take time and practice and work and patience to achieve discipline, but I'm sure there are things that could help me with that process, if anyone has ideas. I want to know how to fix these problems. How to be able to view myself from the outside rather than just going through the motions. Learn how to terminate my playing when I've been playing too long or start messing up.
Maybe there are people who went through this problem for a while and found ways to deal with it, and intend to offer more than expressed superiority.
It seems odd to say you wouldn't ask questions if you were a winning player. It implies your desire to improve would somehow vanish once you do improve enough to become a winning player.
I'd guess that you wrote this because you really didn't think beyond the moment. To me this looks like it could reflect how you are at the poker table. You start losing, you get the urge to play higher to try to win it back, and you follow said urge without thinking beyond the moment.
You also say you want to be able to view yourself from the outside, but when I offer my external view, you dismiss it as an expression of superiority, probably because you simply don't like what I said. If you're only willing to accept feedback that you like, you make it a lot harder to improve.
And since it appears you didn't understand that I was offering advice, I'll try to state it more clearly. What I think you really need to work on is basic self-discipline. Unless you improve in that regard, tips aren't likely to control the problem, not very well anyway.
For example, I can say "Since you start losing after 4 hours, don't play sessions that are any longer." But how much would that help? It seems safe to assume you already thought of this. If so, it means you ignore it, which comes back to self-discipline.
I could also say "Set a timer for 4 hours when you start playing." There's some chance you didn't think of that. But if you don't improve your self-discipline, how often will a little beep or ding be enough for you to stop playing? Probably more than never, but still less than always. So it will help, but it won't solve the problem.
I've had and continue to have self-discipline issues in my play, although not this particular one. Each one I've managed to get reasonably under control took time. I've tried bunches of tips. Various ones helped, but none was even close to being a cure. The vast majority of my improvement came from within. It was and still is hard and slow because we're talking about learning to control urges and emotions, which none of us likes to do.
So, the heart of my advice is to understand and accept that real change has to come from within. There's no road map, so start drawing your own.