Hi! I play poker for a lot of different reasons sometimes besides winning money (social, the "rush", passing time). So, to get more serious about my game (after spending many hours playing and having lots of fun but not really a lot to show for it) ... this is what I started doing ... It may or may not work well for you or interest you ... I think everyone has to find their own way that works them, but it works for me.
I have a bunch of money on Lock (which doesn't pay out). Unless I'm a complete idiot, I will never lose it all. I have lots of friends there and there are a lot of laid back people there - so if I want to socialize or try an initial test of a new strategy ... I do it there.
My other sites I have my own plan for how much I will allow myself to invest in a game based upon my bank. I track my bank and my games on paper as I play them along with notes about why I think the outcome of the game was what it was. It is not "fun" at all to write it down, but it makes me far less apt to tilt because at the beginning of the game I'm facing the end goal consciously and at the end of the game - I'm tracking my progress towards it.
Also, I would recommend looking at each loss (in a serious game) as a learning opportunity vs. a failure. If you lost was it due to natural odds
(no one can win all the time, right?), lack of self-control (you know you shouldn't have but you did it anyway), or because you were outplayed? If it's the first. Welcome to poker. If it's the second, you shoulda played on the other site where you don't care about the money, think about what your outlook was at the start of the game and why you really started to play that particular game to begin with - if you gotta - start writing your mood down when you start as part f your game log!! If it's the third then figure out what to do different/study/try the next time when the exact same situation comes up and try to make your game even better!!
Whenever I play live I have no issue because I'm 100% into the game and as long as I don't choke -- it's my best play. Maybe because I haven't played that much live and it takes like ALL of my concentration (and then some).
There's nothing wrong with playing poker for most any reason. There's nothing wrong with losing money either. But if you go after different "goals" at the same time, and the outcome is different for each of them you aren't going to get anywhere. It's like sitting at two opposite ends of your canoe at once and paddling in different directions .