This is a discussion on How to combat this? within the online poker forums, in the Learning Poker section; You always hear about the fact that to get better is not just about playing. One needs to have friends with whom to work ideas
You always hear about the fact that to get better is not just about playing. One needs to have friends with whom to work ideas through- need to have different viewpoints- then you need to spend time by yourself going over your hands (I've even seen 1 hour for every 3 hours played)
I am 41 years old (gainfully employed - thank god) and my (poker playing) friends don't think about poker anywhere close to what I do
I have 2 kids who need my attention and need to get to soccer and theater
I have a wife who needs to talk and is worried when I spend to much time playing poker
College kid- super smart- probably doesn't need to go to class
No kids or wife (maybe a super cool girlfriend who is OK with you playing poker)
Supersmart friends who love to sit around and discuss poker while drinking beers or smoking pot
So how do I combat this. There is just so much $ to be made online
16th October 2008, 8:27 PM
Online Poker at: PokerStars
That is what Cardschat if for, you can discuss hands with the super smart college kids without having to commit too much time. I don't include myself in that by the way but I try to contribute where I can.
There are a few very successful members here who fit your profile - maybe they will see this and let you know how they are able to balance it all.
Don't sacrifice too much time with the wife and kids - but try to find a way to make time for your poker and help them understand that it is something you really want to try to do. Especially the wife - if you can get her buy in and understanding it will help a lot. Just make sure you save some time for her and that you are sharing the responsibilities of the kids.
As for the friends - this is your place. There are loads of people here who love to talk poker - that's what the forum is all about. Feel free to jump in the threads and join in our events with us.
At some point when there are a lot of responses - show this thread to your wife. I think it would mean something to her that your 3 priorities are listed above - your job, your wife and your kids. You are posting this because you want to be able to play poker without disrupting those 3 important areas of your life.
You could always do what my husband did and hook her up with playing too. (he might regret that now lol)
16th October 2008, 8:47 PM
Online Poker at: Full Tilt
The way I get through to the wife is by being as open and honest about my results as possible. She doesn't like to hear about the day-to-day or session-by-session swings but I'd say once a week she'll ask how I'm doing and we'll pull up PT3 for a little graph time. Once she understood that I wasn't going to "lose all our savings" and that I may actually make a few $$, she was fine with me playing, as long as it doesn't interfere with the rest of my life.
16th October 2008, 9:31 PM
Poker at: poker stars
Game: omaha hi/lo
re: Poker & How to combat this?
im a girl and I love playing poker my b/f taught me to play maybe you should teach your wife and you could play together ...just an idea its something we enjoy greatly both
16th October 2008, 9:51 PM
Online Poker at: fulltilt
I occasionaly play with my girlfiend. I find it a bonding opportunity also the other opinion helps out. I just wish the breaks were a little longer.