My anger at poker

Emotions make the rational part stop working almost completely, therefore if you feel that you cannot control it at that moment, it is best to end the session, since what we want is to make money, right?
Luckily every day I work on it a little more and I think that the time will come when I do not have to resort to this, since I do not stop trying to understand how my mind works more and more, In the end you have to be honest with one And I think that what I take the worst is to lose many hands in the same day against a fish, since when I win one with a better hand and play it the right way, it doesn't bother me at all. What makes my GOD LEVEL ego activate is what I consider injustices, especially those that are associated with recreational ones. So what's up? Well, the cause of my anger is in certain beliefs, wrong beliefs and that is the root of the problem.
Beliefs are shown as value judgments about the other person or about something that they do that I do not consent to. The idea about that person and what he does is an assumption of mine, and also a personal assessment that most likely is not true, which does not matter because the important thing is only to realize my way of thinking, and how not to I tolerate what I see. And I don't tolerate it because I just think it's wrong, and that's the only problem, mistakenly considering something to be wrong without really knowing what totally acceptable motive drives each person to do what they do. It is any value judgment that has to be disintegrated.

It is the opinion of a quasi fish beginner trying to stop being one.

Thank you for always being there.

Kind regards from Buenos Aires.

It is a tricky and never-ending process to even get close to mastering.

I allow myself to get angry in the moment (after all I am on-line in private) but then let go of that flash or anger as fast as possible, and keep a broad perspective. The concept I attempt to bring to mind is that of focusing on the process rather than the outcome (a business term often used in poker as focusing on decision rather than result)

If your decision was sound but the play failed (particularly when against wild play) then be content with the play/decision and understand variance will get the better of you with some regularity.

I find myself, little by little, more relaxed about bad outcomes. Today I played three tourneys and in the first my KK was beaten by 66 very close to the bubble and I was out. I was angry for a brief period but then refocused on the other tourney (more difficult and exclusive) and cashed, then cashed in the final tourney I played.

This is where a balanced perspective is so vital. The correct play early in the session fails and I am briefly annoyed (but I would not play the hand any other way). However, by the time the day/session is done everything is right in my world and I am content.

And that is the feeling to grab and bear in mind at the next bad flashpoint - it is just a momentary set back and over the longer arc, your good decisions will reward you.

Let's say you're playing a game of dice against an opponent. In this game, you both bet $10 and if the opponent rolls a 1-5, you win. If the opponent rolls a 6, they win. So, in this game, you're an 80% favorite.

If we take a look at your EV in this game:

• EV = [$20*.80] - [$10*.20]
• EV = $16 - $2
• EV = +$14

So, on average, you're profiting $14 dollars per game in the long run. Out of 100 games, you can expect to be up +$1400.

So, if your opponent rolls a 6, how mad would you get? Would you feel like quitting the game because they happened to hit their 1/6 chance to beat you? Would you think the game is rigged or it's unjust when you don't hold as an 80% favorite? Honestly, you probably don't get angry at all because you know the odds of your opponent rolling a 1-5 is much greater and you're winning more money in the long run.

And that's how poker is. You get your money in good as an 80% favorite, 65% favorite, 97% favorite, whatever, and you're getting paid off more often than you're losing in the long run. Why would losing as an 80% favorite in poker be worse than losing as an 80% favorite in a dice roll? It's exactly the same odds.

So, who cares about what hands bad players play? Who cares if they sometimes catch as an underdog to beat? Who cares about their reasoning? You aren't there to justify how someone wants to play. You're there to get your money in good and profit off of it. Don't worry about those random (mostly) 20-35% underdogs that get there sometimes.

And, on top of that, sometimes you're going to get in behind as well. You might not play bad hands like J5o preflop, but you'll run KK into AA, AQ into AK, etc. You're going to get into spots where you'll sometimes be the underdog, but you're going to win some of the time in these spots. You might not be risking J5o vs KK (~15/85 pre), but you might run KQs v KK (~15/85 pre). So, you'll find yourself in spots as an underdog, just less frequently. So, don't think it's unfair when a hand like J5o beats you aren't putting yourself in the same situation as the bad players are. In the long run, playing J5o is a losing play, no matter if they win, say, 40% of the time.

my anger I think is that of every poker player who is losing a hand where you have 93% to win it and on the river the villain's card beats whether it's a three, a straight or even two pair this makes anyone crazy life.

If you are involved in a lot of hands where you are a 93% favorite going to the river & you are focusing on those rare hands where you lose, my guess is your one of those folks who just like to whine. Enjoy.

I like the breakdown here, it makes sense. However, in poker you have to be able to put your opponent on a range, correct? Those hopefully one-off plays they make to steal your monies with a dog of a hand... it's easy to understand why someone would get mad. However, I think you could argue you want to know more about your opponent before jumping into a big hand with them.

Anyway, this was a good read. Thanks.

I’ve tried to learn that the game can be extremely frustrating sometimes when you get ridiculous bad beats. It’s just part of the game mechanics.

everybody talks about variance, but why do we see the same faces at the final tables? after all, these are people who are not robots ,,, how they manage to show a good game ,,,,

It seems I go thru streaks, bad beats for months then out of the blue I start getting some really good hands, I just laugh it off, its fun, try again, course I dont jeopardize my hard earn money, so its all in fun, There some people that really take it serious,

if you're involved in a lot of hands where you are the 93% favorite to the river, my guess is you're a pretty good player!

True that.

I'd suggest... "take a couple of weeks off... then quit the game"

I don't think so... at least not in tournament play.
"If you're not getting it in bad, you're not getting it in enough!"

Not sure what you mean by "getting it in bad"? Seems that strategy relies on luck more than anything else. That's oaky if you're lucky, I guess.

The odds are there for a reason. I should win 93% of the time if I'm 93% favored to win. If I start throwing my stack in the middle every time I'm 40% favored to win, I 'should lose the tournament, unless I'm pretty sure my opponent can be pushed off his better hand. Most can't.