I don't see a problem calling with you pocket 5's, if you trust your read of the guy that he's got a high pocket pair then your looking to out flop him as cheaply as possible.
Now you got your set, unfortuantely 2 high cards came with it, now you have to figure out if he's hit his set. Hes first to act and bets 35 bucks and you're not quite sure if it's a continuation bet or if he actually hit.
If you think he hit, you fold, if you're not sure then your raise to 85 should be a probing bet for information, NOT a raise for value.
Ok you say he's tight and a good player, you think his original raise was with a high pocket pair. He comes over the top of your raise with an all-in re-raise. TELL TELL TELL That is a huge TELL. FOLD FOLD FOLD!
You have 140.00 left, you should pretty much know your beat. He hasn't been bullying people with his chips, he hasn't been bluffing
at pots, he's been tight and agressive, if he's tight and agressive here your flat out beat.
If he's been loose, bluffing at pots, making donk plays out of position and you have a good read on him and you think he's on a bluff or A/K then I'd call. if he's been tight and solid, agressive allways showing the best hand at showdown you have to fold that set and look for a better hand to challenge the table with.
Now please believe I'm not criticizing your play negatively, I've made that same call under simular circumstances many times. I've learned to SLOW down and THINK through may hands.
Especially when my whole bankroll on the table is at stake, to me at this point in my game, after the probing bet with his all in, I'm not gambling my bankroll with a solid, TAG player whos been winning his showdowns.
For me this is an easy lay down after his all-in to my probing bet. Make that fairly easy LOL... because I know exactly, the human emotion of I've got a set and can double up with the all-in! The I can double up is so much more in front of your mind than I can lose this to his higher set. I've learned to slow down, think it through and lay down a hand that might suck out my entire bankroll on the table. On the other hand I'm not allways that perfect either, sometimes I still call this kind of hand and berate myself later, but truthfully I'm getting better at laying that hand down.
Great post ... everyone has to go through this kind of hand somewhere in thier poker career. Beware of the saying; "Sometines you just have to pay them off." Truth is sometimes you do but don't let it become an excuse for losing your bankroll when you know better.