OP:
I replied to several of your emails, sorry if I missed one. In the end I'm not sure how much quick replies in pms matter, because the sum of your questions adds up to: "How do I play poker?"
There are layers upon layers of learning needed to succeed in this game, and learning comes from playing lots of hands, studying, discussing hands, reading books. You need to learn how to learn, which includes things like: what certain stats mean; how to present hand histories in a way that will yield good responses; what kind of information you need to each decision.
There are certain things you've said on here that clearly aren't true and reveal a distinct lack of understanding very fundamental concepts. That's OK, because none of us were born with innate poker knowledge. Most concepts you will only learn through losing and frustration. Let me address a few of them:
1. I can't bet my big hands big because everyone just folds.
All of us know that this simply isn't true. Everyone at NL2 is terrible, and terrible players aren't terrible because they fold too much. You may be going through a very short stretch where you have a big hand and don't get any action, and spots where you try to
bluff and you get called down light. That happens. But we've already seen a hand you've posted where you limped a marginal hand, flopped the nuts, slowplayed it till the river and then you wonder why you didn't get value.
2. TAGs play something like 19/11. You don't really understand what playing TAG means. You're not too loose, which is a great start, and you seem to want to play TAG, which is also a good idea. But you aren't doing it.
Playing TAG means folding hands facing a raise that you would have raised yourself if it had folded to you. It means folding countless hands that are decent that you would have won with had you played. It means rarely ever flatting a raise preflop. It means folding hands in the SB when it's limped to you. It means driving the action on most streets.
What it doesn't mean is 3-betting J9s vs. an EP raise. It doesn't mean raising in spots with hands you should play without knowing what you will do facing a reraise.
I'd recommend playing even tighter than you are. Play pocket pairs and AQ, AK only. If it folds to you on the button (fat chance), then expand your range to a few more hands: AJs, KQ. With smaller pairs, open if it folds to you, call if someone raises. If you flop top pair, an overpair, a set or nut flush draw with overs, bet until someone shows extreme aggression or the board gives you a reason not to -- then re-examine your holdings vs. your opponent's likely holdings. This is amazingly, ridiculously tight, but you will make money playing this tight at NL2. This will have you playing less than 9% of hands but will give you experience in playing pots with a huge equity advantage or with hands that will be very easy to play postflop (i.e. if you have 22 and flop a 2, you go with it, if you don't flop a set you just give up).
3. As noted in 2, you don't really understand what stats mean. To you, someone playing 35/10 or 40/9 is wild and loose. These are actually the stats of very standard passive fish. You don't know what an aggressive player looks like because you probably haven't encountered many.
Download Poker Stove and plug in some hands, plug in ranges, plug in ranges on certain board textures, and look at what the equity calculations say.
Search this forum for beginner's tips, John A's thread, and read the Golden Archives.
Read the following books: Theory of Poker, Harrington on Cash Games, Baluga Whale Easy Game Vols. 1-3.