Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

#1 June 7th, 2019, 2:21 AM

Well then that makes 2 of us!!! Lol

Post any advice you have. Unless it includes not playing poker anymore lol.

#2 June 7th, 2019, 2:36 AM

Originally Posted by witfighter

Well then that makes 2 of us!!! Lol

Post any advice you have. Unless it includes not playing poker anymore lol.

All I can say is you're not alone... Its Not just Poker... Many Partners don't like many things the other half actually do... That's Life and That's Poker...

#3 June 7th, 2019, 3:12 AM

Dial it back abit,,,, show her that she's first,,,(nobody likes being second),,, and when you win,share it with her. Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

#4 June 7th, 2019, 4:54 PM

Play poker when she is enjoying her favourite tv show or reading a book not when she wants to go for a walk or whatever it is she likes to do.

If you are winning or just playin micro/freerolls, you are potentially being paid to do something you enjoy. Not many people get paid to enjoy themselves. Most hobbies are expensive and or time consuming. Poker can be neither of these things and you dont have to leave the house!

If she wants you to watch � Greys Anatomy � with het just talk alot, ask alot of questions about the characters. Hopefully she will tire of these annoyances and tell you to go play poker. Worked for me!

#5 June 7th, 2019, 4:59 PM

yes to be blessed with a partner that is supportive of poker is a dream ,, luckily I have this and just recently setup her up on acr lol Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

. good times for poker

#6 June 7th, 2019, 5:03 PM

just make a room for her in ur life.. the poker don't die but the relationships can do it.. try to understand that the poker isn't important or not too much important like to put in risk everything.. some people never find the love so..

#7 June 7th, 2019, 5:17 PM

Hello
Your better half is for life.

So your partner comes first.

You need to balance both together.
Its doable.

There has to be time for your partner, thats of utmost importance.

Play poker at other times. Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

#8 June 7th, 2019, 5:20 PM

Simple - make yourself the priority. She clearly does not value or appreciate you if she is demanding you change your behaviour and issue ultimatums.

Put yourself and your career first. Don't keep a "significant other" for the sake of checking that box. If poker is your bread and butter, that is.

#9 June 7th, 2019, 5:31 PM

My wife is supporting me in playing poker because she knows I'm a tough person and has confidence in me that I will not be able to lose large amounts of family budget, and knows how much I like this game. If it were not so I would play when she's gone to work Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

#10 June 9th, 2019, 1:44 PM

It's kind of hard to help without knowing more about you.

Are you a winning player? What are your goals in poker? Do you play live or online poker? How much time daily do you spend on poker? How much time do you spend studying poker? Do you neglect your SO's needs while you play poker? Do you neglect house chores in order to play poker? When asking yourself all these questions, you might even notice that poker isn't really the problem. Maybe your SO doesn't believe that poker is a game of skill and if so, educate him/her.

I find that the key to every relationship is trust and communication. Everything can be sorted out, just talk to your partner. Be honest about yourself, about your goals and dreams when you talk and I'm sure you guys can work it out. After all, you picked your partner for a reason, you've decided on your SO because you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her.

Most importantly, be honest to yourself when you are evaluating your poker skills. Don't think you can be playing poker for a living, when you had 2 great months of running good and suddenly you think you can become a real crusher, so you neglect studying and improving your game.

I've had loads of talks with my girlfriend about poker and she understands now, she even supports it. I've had to explain myself in detail, we've made some compromises regarding chores and how we spend time together and now she's completely fine with it.

Sometimes, she still doesn't give me enough time or space to do poker, no interruptions while playing is the key, but it's a work in progress. It got much better than it was at the start and I'm sure it can get better with you too.

#11 June 9th, 2019, 3:43 PM

For me poker is a hobby. Therefore, I play only for my pleasure. I believe that any obsession or dependence on gambling is very dangerous. Therefore, if you feel that you can not control your emotional state, you should do a long break and think good about everything.

#12 February 24th, 2020, 5:40 AM

Lol i love how everyone is just like "your not alone bro" Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

#13 February 25th, 2020, 2:01 PM

You should have balance between family duties and hobbies (poker including). If you use every free time to play poker she is normal to be mad. At the same time if you play occasionally using only hobby money and do your family duties i do not find it normal your partner to be mad. Try to explain her that you play for fun and following strict bankroll management. If needed show her your profile and transactions to convince her. If you win something big buying her present with part of the money will show her that poker can also be good thing. If nothing of that helps - well the choice is your but i personally will not trust partner who do not respect your right to have some hobbies and free time.

#14 February 26th, 2020, 12:03 AM

Hello.
I have no obsession. I play poker for fun. But sometimes my girlfriend gets offended when I play for too long, so I have to find a compromise.
Good luck.

#15 August 13th, 2020, 5:06 PM

Originally Posted by mrgupta

It's kind of hard to help without knowing more about you.

Are you a winning player? What are your goals in poker? Do you play live or online poker? How much time daily do you spend on poker? How much time do you spend studying poker? Do you neglect your SO's needs while you play poker? Do you neglect house chores in order to play poker? When asking yourself all these questions, you might even notice that poker isn't really the problem. Maybe your SO doesn't believe that poker is a game of skill and if so, educate him/her.

I find that the key to every relationship is trust and communication. Everything can be sorted out, just talk to your partner. Be honest about yourself, about your goals and dreams when you talk and I'm sure you guys can work it out. After all, you picked your partner for a reason, you've decided on your SO because you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her.

Most importantly, be honest to yourself when you are evaluating your poker skills. Don't think you can be playing poker for a living, when you had 2 great months of running good and suddenly you think you can become a real crusher, so you neglect studying and improving your game.

I've had loads of talks with my girlfriend about poker and she understands now, she even supports it. I've had to explain myself in detail, we've made some compromises regarding chores and how we spend time together and now she's completely fine with it.

Sometimes, she still doesn't give me enough time or space to do poker, no interruptions while playing is the key, but it's a work in progress. It got much better than it was at the start and I'm sure it can get better with you too.

thats like the best answer Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

its good to see some interest Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

#16 August 16th, 2020, 4:01 PM

Learn to multitask during buy period is my advice if you are a MTT player. Try and get all the chores done between hands while you can still rebuy. Feed everybody, run an errand or 2, tidy up and anything else you can squeeze into that time. Hopefully when buys end you will have bought yourself some peace to bust heads and handle your business. This helped my situation a lot.

#17 August 16th, 2020, 4:54 PM

In my experience, as long as you don't punt away your collective money and stay on top of your relationship and your life, your SO should accept poker as a hobby of yours and should learn to live with it like they learn to live with your other personal traits. My GF does things I don't like, and I do things she doesn't like (like poker), but that doesn't mean we're not right for each other; you're never going to find someone that's perfectly happy with EVERY single aspect of your life and you with theirs. These are natural compromises that arise in every relationship, and if it's seriously seriously a problem for your SO, maybe you guys could work out an agreement to take a break from playing or only play 1 time a week or something. Good luck friend!

#18 August 16th, 2020, 4:55 PM

I feel you bro. Same here. I think unless you can earn a lot of money from poker. You should keep your poker time less and think about your SO.

#19 August 16th, 2020, 5:26 PM

Do what you do, why listen to someone's advice. This is your life, poker is fun, if it makes life happy, then you shouldn't listen to others, those who are not happy with it.

#20 August 17th, 2020, 7:40 PM

I join your question, I only have to play less and share more with the family, they have to take both things at the same time without fanaticism.

#21 August 17th, 2020, 7:44 PM

What to do? Just keep doing what you love, we will never be able to please everyone, but we are who we are, no matter how we pretend, let them accept us as such. Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

#22 August 17th, 2020, 7:57 PM

i just don't advertise my passion for poker

#23 August 17th, 2020, 8:10 PM

Play at the lowest possible limits, so that the game of poker does not bring you financial damage.

#24 August 18th, 2020, 12:32 AM

my girlfriend fully supports me playing poker and encourages me to play. sometimes when I lack the motivation after a series of bad beats or self doubt my girlfriend is encouraging me saying you dont realise what your capable of and saying you need to play poker today. you need to be on this.

she says things like i have seen you play your really good she often watches and cheers me on and calls for the cards i need if i get all in eg ak vs 99 she will be going come on ace ace etc.

#25 August 18th, 2020, 12:41 AM

Obsession in any business is not a good thing (everything must be done in moderation)! But if the wife does not compromise either, think if this is your man!

#26 August 18th, 2020, 12:58 AM

Originally Posted by witfighter

Well then that makes 2 of us!!! Lol

Post any advice you have. Unless it includes not playing poker anymore lol.

Story of my life. I met my current wife when I was playing poker for a living. She decided to become a dealer so that she could see me more often, but she got tired of that after a while. I quit playing for a while, went to law school and built a law practice, while playing poker here and there along the way. Now, I play a little more frequently when I have the chance, and we have been able to negotiate a happy medium. I think the important thing is to find things that she likes to do and when she is doing that, you play poker. That seems to work for us.

#27 August 18th, 2020, 1:52 AM

Ha Ha Ha... well my hubby doesn't hate it, but sometimes he complains I'm playing all the time. Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

LOL not true, I say, compared to people who really play all the time. I agree the important thing is your partner has stuff they like to do while you are playing poker and they don't depend on you for attention 24/7. I'm actually very lucky cause hubby likes to play the guitar, so he plays that and I play poker.

#28 August 18th, 2020, 6:02 PM

Playing poker live was a big part our relationship early on. I started playing online when she was in grad school. She plays an occasional DON every few months. I enjoy SNG and MTT's so I like to play minimum three hour sessions. I typically schedule those when my wife has evening meetings. But I need to be flexible. Sometimes those meetings get cancelled.

#29 August 18th, 2020, 6:15 PM

After winning some tournaments, my wife got a lot better at being ok with my playing poker.

#30 August 18th, 2020, 8:25 PM

If the other half hates poker, then there must be a reason. A person can't hate something for no reason. Try talking to her. Your obsession may interfere with your relationship. Maybe your favorite is simply not enough attention and she is jealous of you for poker. Obsession is a bad thing. Try to distribute Your time equally.

#31 August 18th, 2020, 9:00 PM

People who are obsessed don't listen to any advice other than their own, so what are you going to do?

#32 August 18th, 2020, 9:01 PM

What I would recommend is that you try to improve on what is really the basis of the question, I don't think it's just because you play poker. Many times it can be due to the time spent ... The best thing is that you create a routine! That is my humble advice, I do not know what your case is but maybe it can be of help! Regards!

#33 August 18th, 2020, 10:35 PM

When I spend a lot of time playing, my wife is uncomfortable.
I try to organize my schedules well so that my game does not interfere with any commitment.
This way, well organized, I decrease the chances of other people being dissatisfied with my hours playing poker.

#34 August 18th, 2020, 10:55 PM

Originally Posted by fletchdad

After winning some tournaments, my wife got a lot better at being ok with my playing poker.

I need to correct this post.

After cashing (not winning)

#35 August 18th, 2020, 11:06 PM

My tastes are my tastes, if others do not like it, it is not my problem Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

#36 August 18th, 2020, 11:39 PM

fold pre. did you get into poker after meeting them? if not, seems like a thing to iron out first...

#37 August 19th, 2020, 12:11 AM

Originally Posted by Kenzie 96

People who are obsessed don't listen to any advice other than their own, so what are you going to do?

Looks like he lost the obsession Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

Last seen Dec.2019 (this thread is from June 2019)

#38 August 19th, 2020, 8:13 PM

The answer is pretty simple...

#39 August 19th, 2020, 8:17 PM

Originally Posted by witfighter

Well then that makes 2 of us!!! Lol

Post any advice you have. Unless it includes not playing poker anymore lol.

maybe try and play less. Me too my girlfriend thinks i play too much. i reduced my playing. we'll see

#40 August 28th, 2020, 1:29 AM

Originally Posted by fletchdad

I need to correct this post.

After cashing (not winning)

Don't forget to mention this small correction to the better half. Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

#41 August 28th, 2020, 1:38 AM

Originally Posted by witfighter

Well then that makes 2 of us!!! Lol

Post any advice you have. Unless it includes not playing poker anymore lol.

Trade the partner in for a new model.

Significant other hates your poker obsession and you don't know what to do???

#42 August 28th, 2020, 2:14 AM

Avoid spending more than you can afford and don't tell her lol.

#43 August 28th, 2020, 5:58 AM

Originally Posted by witfighter

Well then that makes 2 of us!!! Lol

Post any advice you have. Unless it includes not playing poker anymore lol.

Try to attach to poker, if it does not work then break up.
If your other half does not share your interests, then it is not your other half, it is obvious, everything is logical and simple.

#44 August 29th, 2020, 2:23 AM

You need a balance between playing poker and family if you are not a professional poker player.No one shares my interest in poker in my family either. I try to play in my free time, or to combine household chores at the same time as playing.

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