If by "you", you mean me?!?
Um, I only see one problem with your scenarios....I NEVER SUCKOUT. Well, at least it seems that way.
Just for fun, I decided to play one day where I chased every flush when I flopped a draw. I was tired of seeing others suckout a flush on me...so I thought I'd give it a try. I believe I hit one out of a dozen (I only counted hands where I was confident I was beat). A couple days ago I counted five hands in one day where I was beat by a 3-outer when we were both allin on the flop. I only won one of the hands in the same situation that day.
So, if by "you", you mean me? Nah, I ain't gonna hit my suckout fer nuttin'. But I can relate to how you feel.