Can Poker Ruin a Friendship/Relationship?

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Playing with a friend often at the table in poker, there is such a thing. It when we play at the same table, constantly loses chips. When I'm not at the table, or I'm not playing, he's fine, he's in the "plus". And this situation is repeated more than once. This led to the fact that he came out of the game when I sat down at the table. Then even further , he began to avoid a General poker game with me! maybe I need to slow down a little and lose some hands? Very often when I play with him, my winnings only occur because of simple luck. Yes, it's just what the strip not luck he had with the game personally with me! A reasonable explanation for this no, his older hands lose on the river my even trash hands!
Question - for the sake of friendship sometimes we must lose in poker?
 
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Don't feel bad that you keep winning against him, even if luck is helping you win. Only play trash cards if you are getting priced in, at least then you can say well I had the odds to continue. Remember when you are playing that he is NOT your friend, its a ruthless game and at the end of the day, we want to accumilate chips, and if you take his, so be it, it's poker and that's the game. If he can't take a badbeat, tell him he shouldn't be playing, because he will face more bad beats against all kinds of different players in the future.
 
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If the only thing you guys do together is play poker together you aren't friends, you are competitors even if friendly competitors. If you want to stay friends then do something else besides play poker. Your friend is being smart avoiding unlucky situations.
 
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Doesn't really sound like a friendship at all to me. Just sounds like two guys with the same hobby arguing
 
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If it is for money, there's no such thing as "friend" in poker.

I in general don't like playing live poker with friends for any meaningful money.
 
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In an extreme case, if the game is at the same table may "kill" your friendship (maybe it's not friendship, eh?) - You can agree on mutual return after the game or return him his money. But again - it is not friendship!
 
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I have a friend who is absolutely terrible at cards, but believes that he is God's gift. Fortunately we don't play together for money (just socially), so I don't mind intentionally losing, which, YES, I make a point of doing on a regular basis just to keep the game going.
 
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If he is a real friend of yours he should't be taking it so hard
 
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I do not think that poker can ruin a friendship, because if this happens, we would face another kind of relationship, and not against friendship relationship ... I am of people who consider eternal friends.
 
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He did the right thing, that does not play with you when he knows he will lose. In the future, when the troubles-bit is useful to him. Do not play with your friends for money
 
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Tell your friend to sack up and to quite being a whiny bitch. That will help. :)

Kidding of course... ya, I know it's weird, and guys hate to do this, but maybe talk to him about it, and ask him if it's a problem for him. I know... super weird... talking. At least this way it shows that you're acknowledging there's a problem, and you care enough to see if there's something you can do. That will score friend points.
 
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I would avoid playing at the same table, if this is damaging your friendship
 
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No friends on the poker table at all, my own father taught me that lesson lol.
 
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I think so ... from the start all the money (in my opinion)
 
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A real friendship never could be ruined by poker nor for any other sport or anything else! Otherwise it was not a real friendship!

By the way I think poker creates new friendships mainly among funny and good persons.
 
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Everything is possible everywhere where there are money, there is a risk of a very serious offense. As they say, take friends as much money as do not mind to give.
 
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At casinos I won't sit at the same table with friends. Don't like the way it affects my game. I actually went up to the club with a friend for some tournaments. He would always make a point of sitting next to me, the house didn't seat, and then start BSing, even commenting on my bets. Not for me. In home games, I seriously take it easy, fun and friendship is more important to me in that environment.
 
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Playing with a friend often at the table in poker, there is such a thing. It when we play at the same table, constantly loses chips. When I'm not at the table, or I'm not playing, he's fine, he's in the "plus". And this situation is repeated more than once. This led to the fact that he came out of the game when I sat down at the table. Then even further , he began to avoid a General poker game with me! maybe I need to slow down a little and lose some hands? Very often when I play with him, my winnings only occur because of simple luck. Yes, it's just what the strip not luck he had with the game personally with me! A reasonable explanation for this no, his older hands lose on the river my even trash hands!
Question - for the sake of friendship sometimes we must lose in poker?

There are no friends at the poker table, when I sit down at a poker table I have 1 objective, WIN!!! I don't care if my wife is at my table I still try my hardest to win!!! If we head out for a beer after the game then I'll make friends.:D :D
 
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I got 3 friends and we play 2 times on table game. That was fun becouse we now each other and we know our play styles. i loose 2 times:(. We still friends:D
 
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I think that all depends on the person, how much he depends on the game. If a person, active gamers, it will greatly affect the friendship, if you play at the same table. And it is better not to play with your friends.:)
 
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Sometimes, depending on the buy in level, you may have to donate a pot or two to keep the game going but if the friend is a serious poker player they will understand bad run outs happen no matter who is on the right side of it.
 
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Seen a lot less ruin friendship than poker.
 
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I ussualy play with friends for small money so its not big deal if someone lose.
 
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To ruin a friendship I think not. But finding new friends is possible.
 
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Seems it's not a friendship at all if it can be ruined with poker game.
 
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