You write a lot, and for good reason. You're experiencing many of the same issues as most beginning players who haven't really yet figured the whole poker thing out. I could write for a while, but the short version is this:
Read this thread: http://www.cardschat.com/f11/5-rules...t-make-155326/
Secondly, multi-table tournaments aren't a good thing to start with, especially when you're not playing very many hands. You think you're an awesome tournament player, but you really haven't played enough to know for sure. You need a game that has less variance, and gives you feedback faster that you're doing well/poorly.
I'd suggest switching to single table SnG's (or cash games), mixing in some of the juicy multi-table tournaments (when they have overlay, or are especially soft, like a $20 FTOPS event, or a satty to a big tourney). The SnG's will give you quicker feedback on your skills because it won't take 500 MTT's to give you a good sample size.
I'm not really a tournament player, but FWIW, you don't talk about situations like your game is super strong. Post some hands in the hand analysis forum that you thought were tricky, and I'm betting the people who post there should be able to find some leaks in your game.
Don't worry about the coaching sites or tracking software that you have to pay for yet. You're likely not at the point where you would get that much out of it that you couldn't get from this forum for free.