This is a discussion on Marriage vs. Poker within the online poker forums, in the General Poker section; If you were a poker addict and it was affecting your marriage, would you quit playing poker if it meant not losing your wife?
Seems like a pretty easy answer for me to answer with I would pick marriage over poker IF poker would cost me my marriage. Poker is a game and marriage and that relationship and commitment made far out weighs Poker.
If you are only playing for fun, then the answer is obvious. Stick to your wife and play once in a while. But if your life depends on poker, then she should've known about it before saying "yes". In that case, you are probably playing on a set schedule that she has to respect.
I think it depends on the individuals in the relationship. Just because you were playing poker once a week could upset the other individual in the relationship because they don't like poker or are maybe against gambling (even if it is not for money).
I think most people are okay with it unless it is digging into savings and it becomes serious enough to where your good relationship is turning into a bad beat on the river. At that point, something would have to change but that is why we're here to learn from others and to practice bankroll management. I like those who have said that their partner plays more than them! Haha
I think it's an obvious answer if you are a person that is not addicted to poker, because family is always more important. But if the person has a gambling addiction everything get more complicated, we don't know how their mind works and sometimes they ended up choosing the game instead of their family
I was offered money not to play poker would you?
I thought it was funny I'm retired an have family here an only on certain tourneys I like to play on, an tourney start at 1:00 well with respect I work before an after meals preparing, I was offered 1.00 not to play, its not the money, its the fun an game to win, or skill, Its not interfering like its not my fault they didnt start the grill early lol like I asked them to, There the ones that sat around watching tv.
I don't think your choice of spouse is lower than in any game, including poker. When choosing a spouse, you focused on living with that person for at least several decades. And poker is just a game that doesn't make you much money. But if you got married when you were a wealthy and successful poker player, and this is a part of your life that your wife knew about, and this is a way to make money for the necessities of life, then that is your business.
Basically, a good wife will support her husband in everything. Since this is her conscious choice of such a husband, and she realized what to expect from him.
Family should always be the most important thing. No matter what role poker plays in your life. There are things you can't step over. This does not mean that you can not calmly discuss problems and try to find a compromise, but unlike the family, poker will not be with you throughout your life. And at any moment, poker can just throw you on the sidelines of life.
If you were a poker addict and it was affecting your marriage, would you quit playing poker if it meant not losing your wife?
I can't even imagine it.
I am married and have two children. My wife takes care of their upbringing and household chores. I earn money, I work 5-6 days a week. Poker for me is a hobby, a good opportunity to have fun and be distracted. My wife respects me and never contradicts me.
I think that there is no sport or hobby more important than that of a family, the ideal is to talk with your partner and that they know how to understand that you like or do a specific activity well as long as the time is not excessive, that's why first of all a chat with the family is the ideal
I have a girlfriend that loves playing poker and when I do marry her then I won't be facing the marriage vs poker situation as it will be absolutely perfect to me to continue playing for fun and with her. I do understand if i was married to a wife that is against poker then i rather quit poker altogether, love her and spend my full time with her.
I'd quit anything to save my marriage if it was in trouble (if the request was reasonable). If you are addicted to poker ...then you have a problem and it's not out of line to ask you to cut back or cut it out at all. Would be the same with any addiction. If it is your job then it wouldn't be reasonable to ask you to quit unless you were just bad at your job .
As usual, "it depends"...)
You should understand, what is poker for you, and why your partner wouldn't see poker in your family life. Probably you addicted by poker\gambling\games? Or your bride or groom will not allow you to have any hobby if it will poker or not? There is a lot of possible situations, and different variants to solve it, but...
In any case I think that you shouldn't marry if you have such disagreements, before it will be solved in compromise way.
Otherwise you have a huge change to have serious problems in you future life and matrimony. In any case - first few month and, probably, years of your family life - will not solve all your conflicts and problems easy, this month and years will show you and your spouse all of this conflicts and you will get burden to solve it)
In short terms - I would prefer to get timeout, get consensus and after that also get few month timeout, to determine and solve other potential conflicts) Only if you 100% sure that you will be able to solve all this problems together - than you ready to marriage.
i think the best way is to keep your game healthy and not let it affect your marriage more than any other hobby would. Maybe you can even share some passion with your mate.
If however it come to a qzestion of chosing you should be aware of why you a re forced to do that. If the answer is an addiction there is much more wrong with your life that you should get in charge of to save more than just your marriage.
If it s just because your mate doesnt like gambling you should play wizh open cards, tell her about it, make rules about the time and money you spend so she/he feels included and respected with the situation always beeing under control.
well, it brings a lot of problems with the marriage when you start, study and play a thousand hours without profit, I hope, I suppose and I understand that later it does not generate more than enjoyment if you win big prizes nobody cares