How do you maintain your lifestyle now while playing poker?

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I just noticed that i dont spend quality time to my family, girlfriend and friends, and also for myself.. Before i used to go out with my friends atleast twice a week, go to the beach or bar hopping.. I can wake up early in the morning to assist my mother in our family businesses.. I can visit my hog farm everyday..

I see poker as my hobby then later on i invest more time reading lessons and playing freerolls.. The best time to play freeroll is 11pm to 3am means additional 2 to 3 hours if i play good and thats 11am to 6pm in Uk time.. so my sleeping time is daytime..

Ive made a new world in my life that im the only one who understand it.. My mood is so different, we argue all the time with my girlfriend and i will defend myself with all the best excuses that i think to win the situation because my time is not available or limited only.. But i still give time to my hogfarm even if i slept only 2 to 3hours if its really important..

I just dont accept the fact that im the one who has a problem here.. what i want is to manage my time and how can i manage it properly.. i have to plan it carefully and this is for my own good because i dont want to lose all the people who cares for me especially my family..

Thank you for your time for reading and i will give you an update of whats the result of my time management..

Thank you CC community members and more power..
 
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Uhh family > poker.

I have a wife and two kids. My wife will slap some sense into me (not literally :D ) when I start letting poker time take over family time. You just gotta find that balance between family/friends and poker.

I mainly try and play at times when everyone else is asleep or I'm home alone to play for a bit. It is all about compromising. You could try teaching your GF how to play poker that way you can play together :D
 
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Live at nights, sleep all day long, evening for my wife is morning for me )))
 
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Uhh family > poker.

I have a wife and two kids. My wife will slap some sense into me (not literally :D ) when I start letting poker time take over family time. You just gotta find that balance between family/friends and poker.

I mainly try and play at times when everyone else is asleep or I'm home alone to play for a bit. It is all about compromising. You could try teaching your GF how to play poker that way you can play together :D


thanks but i Cant teach her because she has a regular day job at drugstrore as an assistant pharamacist and shes not interested in poker..
 
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If poker is more important to you than your girlfriend maybe the problems go deeper than poker and you are using it to escape from your reality or maybe you are just addicted to poker and the adrenelin rush that comes with winning.
In time the thrill of winning will virtually disappear whereas the love of a good woman will remain.
Think about what is important in your life.
The likelihood and odds of anyone striking it rich are remarkably low.
 
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If poker is more important to you than your girlfriend maybe the problems go deeper than poker and you are using it to escape from your reality or maybe you are just addicted to poker and the adrenelin rush that comes with winning.
In time the thrill of winning will virtually disappear whereas the love of a good woman will remain.
Think about what is important in your life.
The likelihood and odds of anyone striking it rich are remarkably low.

I love to play poker but of course family first.. were going to 4mos. In our relationship so means we are just new and i met poker 2010 i guess..

but you know what, ive got you point.. maybe i need to think whats is important in my life now.. maybe thats easy to say but its hard to do.. but i will do my best and make a move slowly to reach my goal in my life.. thank you..
 
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Playing poker is not my 1st priority.
I would see it as a problem if it was (for myself). Though I enjoy it a lot, I set myself to choose for social events with friends family. If I have a tournament overlapping social events I don't play it.
Tried once to combine it, but that was (almost) not possible. So I have to choose. And my priority goes to friends/family.
 
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I have quit my job to take care of my girl friend who was hitted by a Cerebrovascular accident....
For now my girl-friend cannot be alone at home...
Why pay someone esle to take care of her when I can leave my job to do it ?
I was tired to play wii as hobby so I decided to begin again playing poker..

Some time my girlfriend blames for me for speaking just about poker...
It is true then I takes more with her, but she is satisfied that I have find a pastime, she knows well that it is hard for me too to be always at home for her ....
 
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I remember the feeling of not being able to stop thinking about playing poker when I could not get to a computer. And I remember not being able to get away from the computer when I could play, and that was at least 12 hours a day, and sleep most of the other 12. And all during that time I lost plenty of money, which I did not have to deposit. And these days, looks like I would play 12 hours a day, since I don't have much other to do, but I hardly play 4 hours a day. I have a few friends around here, and we get together and play spades, drink a beer, and have some laughs. Also, I have always loved to read, so I read every day. And you know what? I can sit back for those few hours and have some fun, and I win more these days than I ever have. You are the one who has to make a change. It's not easy, but you can do it.
 
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It may just be better to deposit a couple hundred dollars and make sure to stick to good BRM so you don't go broke and play with that. The reason for this is in order to play the games you currently can (The free rolls) you have to sleep all day which cuts into time you can spend with family, friends, and etc since this is probably when they are awake (As most people sleep at night).

Of course this will only solve a part of the problem... You need to prioritize what's truly important to you. Your family and GF should hopefully be ahead of Poker in which case they should be getting first priority over poker.

If all you do is poker before you know it all you will have is poker.

Talk about what your girl is into instead of talking poker with her. As suggested above maybe try getting her into poker a little bit. Watch Lucky you, Rounders, or something with her. Tell her if she watches Rounders you'll watch The Notebook :eek:
 
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Poker is very exciting and makes stop doing things we liked to dedidcarle before more time and to improve and play a long time to learn.
 
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I have quit my job to take care of my girl friend who was hitted by a Cerebrovascular accident....
For now my girl-friend cannot be alone at home...
Why pay someone esle to take care of her when I can leave my job to do it ?
I was tired to play wii as hobby so I decided to begin again playing poker..

Some time my girlfriend blames for me for speaking just about poker...
It is true then I takes more with her, but she is satisfied that I have find a pastime, she knows well that it is hard for me too to be always at home for her ....



Wow.. thats very nice and i know thats a tough decision .. you just proved to her that how much you love her even in ups and downs.. well goodluck to both of you and godbless..

It may just be better to deposit a couple hundred dollars and make sure to stick to good BRM so you don't go broke and play with that. The reason for this is in order to play the games you currently can (The free rolls) you have to sleep all day which cuts into time you can spend with family, friends, and etc since this is probably when they are awake (As most people sleep at night).

Of course this will only solve a part of the problem... You need to prioritize what's truly important to you. Your family and GF should hopefully be ahead of Poker in which case they should be getting first priority over poker.

If all you do is poker before you know it all you will have is poker.

Talk about what your girl is into instead of talking poker with her. As suggested above maybe try getting her into poker a little bit. Watch Lucky you, Rounders, or something with her. Tell her if she watches Rounders you'll watch The Notebook :eek:


ive already made a deposit before.. 5times $ 20 but it only last for 45 days and my card is depleted.. before that ive already have $150 dollars and i thought cashing out is easy.. ive already buy their card waiting for 2weeks then when the card arrive only $50 was left.. maybe i need to learn more about cash games.. now im planning again but im jiat waiting for the right time if im ready..

as of now its the only thing i can keeps my self busy.. i cant stay in my hog farm because theres no room for to stay .. and i have a caretaker there.. after my mom the finish paying the car loan in june 2016, we will start to build a new hog farm and my target in starting is 50 heads of sow, now i have 11 heads of sow and my farm is to small to renovate again..

Thank you for the advice and soon i will know whats really important to me at this time and of course the family will come first..

I remember the feeling of not being able to stop thinking about playing poker when I could not get to a computer. And I remember not being able to get away from the computer when I could play, and that was at least 12 hours a day, and sleep most of the other 12. And all during that time I lost plenty of money, which I did not have to deposit. And these days, looks like I would play 12 hours a day, since I don't have much other to do, but I hardly play 4 hours a day. I have a few friends around here, and we get together and play spades, drink a beer, and have some laughs. Also, I have always loved to read, so I read every day. And you know what? I can sit back for those few hours and have some fun, and I win more these days than I ever have. You are the one who has to make a change. It's not easy, but you can do it.

You remind me of my father and i really miss him.. i just remember telling him can i drive your pickup and he tells me its also the son as what you drives in other cars and then one day he let me drive in the hospital bec. Hes not telling to us that he is sick and need a heart operation but he dicide not to bec. All of the earnings will go to the bills and maintenance of his life suport and he dont want that to happen..
I miss our bar playing music, beers and girls without poker.. :)

thank you for the advice and i have a great plan in my life and just figuring out how where and when to start.. 😊
 
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ive already made a deposit before.. 5times $ 20 but it only last for 45 days and my card is depleted.. before that ive already have $150 dollars and i thought cashing out is easy.. ive already buy their card waiting for 2weeks then when the card arrive only $50 was left.. maybe i need to learn more about cash games.. now im planning again but im jiat waiting for the right time if im ready..

as of now its the only thing i can keeps my self busy.. i cant stay in my hog farm because theres no room for to stay .. and i have a caretaker there.. after my mom the finish paying the car loan in june 2016, we will start to build a new hog farm and my target in starting is 50 heads of sow, now i have 11 heads of sow and my farm is to small to renovate again..

Thank you for the advice and soon i will know whats really important to me at this time and of course the family will come first..

It may be better to deposit $100 then to deposit $20 5 times. Why did you go broke? Are you following bank roll management? Obviously this won't make it so it's impossible to go broke if you aren't a winning player but it should slow down the process of going broke or stop it from happening.
 
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Yeah I don't know how you can go broke with $20 playing the micros unless you run bad or are just... bad.

I know on Carbon/Merge Network it's pretty easy to go broke though. Their SnGs are at a minimum $1.35 each and their lowest cash game table starts at 10 NL. LOL... talk about newbie friendly
 
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Yeah I don't know how you can go broke with $20 playing the micros unless you run bad or are just... bad.

I know on Carbon/Merge Network it's pretty easy to go broke though. Their SnGs are at a minimum $1.35 each and their lowest cash game table starts at 10 NL. LOL... talk about newbie friendly

Because of lack of skills,thats why i stop using my card or i did not put any money in my savings to stop my losing..
some pokersite is hard to play unlike in ps and ft i feel comfortable.. :)
 
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I am trying to play poker while I live my life normally, it can't go with both in the same time fully. I choose life.
 
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there a fine line between addiction and playing gambling does tear apart familys so if you want to be pro it takes all of you at the start so no family or no time with them
 
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How do I maintain my lifestyle after moderate success in poker? Well, I still play in my underpants, but now they're clean! :p


Cheers!
 
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I walk with friends, plump, I hang out at night .uchus the university and help my parents, and in his spare time - playing poker) in general - Poker should not distract from everyday life. It's just a game, so you need to have fun and fun to live. Whatever could recall rasskazyat all sorts of interesting stories for children)
 
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I would like to mount a another important fakt.Chelovek who took up the job from the point of unspecified or approach a professional dolzhin treated with responsibility and respect primarily to sebe.Togda and hands warm and a pocket in the bubble and the society will be respected.
 
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really do not understand the question I do not think that poker will change the lifestyle .. I think people change their lifestyle if he wins a lot of money playing poker ... it may be that poker will change daily habits if becomes an obsession ... as always stressed that whatever is in excess ques everything is bad .. poker is a wonderful thing but it can become an addiction
 
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I exercise regular, eat healthy, when I know I am going to have a long day of poker I usually clear my sch. so nothing gets in the way.
 
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Here is my honest advice, don't revolve your life around poker. You will play bad poker. Sort your life and your grudges with those around you, be happy, then introduce poker. I was a losing player when I used to try so hard to win to prove my family wrong, and kept losing. Then I sorted my life out, and played a little poker for enjoyment, and all of a sudden I was winning.
This is important honest advice. If you are unhappy your poker will suffer. You will tilt. Good luck.
 
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I live my life and in my freetime sometimes play poker:)
 
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