Family and Your Poker Game

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How should we manage these two factors without ever putting one above another, what is the best way to practice your game, without your wife or children,speak that you are becoming an inveterateI always managed to separate one thing from the other without major problems, but I have friends who have reached the breaking point with their relatives
One of these days my wife said, why do you like to spend so much time in front of a computer to playing poker?
 
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Well, you probably do want to put your family above your poker game.

I use poker to make money. I find that's generally once I can explain that to people they understand my obsession with it a little better.
 
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Maybe make a point to set aside specific quality time for your family and specific poker time. Since poker is important to you and if it is a huge part of your income, then dividing your time wisely between both and your other responsibilities would help a lot. Maybe a schedule of sorts, so when it's poker time they know it's your time and when it's family time make sure you give them undivided attention.
 
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If you mean family as in given family (the sibling parents cousins etc) then for me I only consider my immediate family and grandparents above poker as poker is my career and I'm not gonna just quit it to help them nonstop.

If you mean family as in spouse and your own children, they have no right to stop you playing poker but if you gamble all your money away don't blame your wife and children for leaving. The world may appear more feminist but in reality our DNA hasn't changed. If you can't provide for your wife and children and keep going into debt, you have a gambling issue not a gambling career and your wife will seek a man who really can provide whether or not she calls herself a feminist or not.
 
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Balance of priorities to maintain a happy home life could be like walking a tight rope. One wrong step and you hope who ever set up the safety net has done there job.

Lot was to learn or improve your game without being in front of the computer. Happy wife, happy life as they say. Balance between is when all are happy, including you.
 
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If you mean family as in given family (the sibling parents cousins etc) then for me I only consider my immediate family and grandparents above poker as poker is my career and I'm not gonna just quit it to help them nonstop.

If you mean family as in spouse and your own children, they have no right to stop you playing poker but if you gamble all your money away don't blame your wife and children for leaving. The world may appear more feminist but in reality our DNA hasn't changed. If you can't provide for your wife and children and keep going into debt, you have a gambling issue not a gambling career and your wife will seek a man who really can provide whether or not she calls herself a feminist or not.

Very well placed my friend, I am very stable in my financial life, what I put in poker could never put my capital at risk, because they are minimal amounts in relation to my position, I always separate as much support as possible to my family (wife and children) in 28 years of marriage so far, nothing had to discourage my conduct as a provider of my family.
We know that there are certainly people who let themselves, go through vice and end up losing everything, money, dignity, wife and children
 
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Balance of priorities to maintain a happy home life could be like walking a tight rope. One wrong step and you hope who ever set up the safety net has done there job.

Lot was to learn or improve your game without being in front of the computer. Happy wife, happy life as they say. Balance between is when all are happy, including you.

Another very interesting point is that we have a good place for our games, here in my house I always have people talking to me while I'm playing poker, and I realize that this also gets my concentration minus, one of these days I was reading reports of players who prefer to be alone in a place in silence so as to maintain more concentration and certainly have a good return,
What do you think of this statement, am I correct?:confused::confused:
 
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family is the most important thing in the life of every person. the family will be near you in joy and in sorrow. try to devote more time to your family: parents, your second half, children. because life is short, and lost time can not be brought back. if poker is important in your life, then play a limited time.
 
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Another very interesting point is that we have a good place for our games, here in my house I always have people talking to me while I'm playing poker, and I realize that this also gets my concentration minus, one of these days I was reading reports of players who prefer to be alone in a place in silence so as to maintain more concentration and certainly have a good return,
What do you think of this statement, am I correct?:confused::confused:
I agree that talking is bad but not that sound is bad.

I play music that makes me feel good in the background so that when I tilt I can listen to it to calm down but also so that no matter how many noises go on around me, I just listen to my headphones and ignore the distractions.

Using a distraction that doesn't interrupt thinking is a smart way to prevent distractions that do interrupt thinking (like conversation instead of just 'pleasant noise' like music.
 
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the family is the most important and more when there are children in between, we must have a balance of how to lead the life of a poker players, and the most important thing is that you play poker, whether it is for fun, for work or simply as a profession,
in life there is time for everything but you have to dedicate more time to the family,

but with responsibility and knowing why we play this ......we will have time for everything and even for the friends in this community
 
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On the one hand, finding a balance between the family and poker is quite difficult, but on the other hand it's easy.
 
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well poker has been my online income for many years so since i work from home have alot of family time lol
 
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I do not have a quarrel with my family, I give my family a normal time, and when I have free time I play poker, but I want to spend more time on poker, but the family is in the first place and I do not want the wife with the child to leave me, and do not want a lot of quarrels because of the game of poker, my wife and family are used to the fact that I play poker in my spare time, my wife sits nearby and supports me
 
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When I'm serious, I isolate myself in a room and warn everyone at home not to disturb me.
But when they are simple tournaments, without much importance I do not mind to stay with my children in the lap so that they attend.
My wife does not bother me while I'm playing, she thinks it's better for me to be in front of a computer playing, than for the bars drinking beers.
 
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It's very difficult, it's not a choice, I use poker more as a diversion for me because I do not play very well.
 
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The family is always the main factor in everything. And I need to talk about my game with my family.
 
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I find it very easy to make time for family and for poker as I tend to spend time with them while waiting for tournaments to start. For cash games you can always sit out for a bit, walk around, stretch talk to the family for a little while and then back to the game. This could help with your game as talking with family could help you to relax a bit, maybe even relieve a bit of the stress that may have been building up as you were playing.
 
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Option only 2: 1) if you earn in poker, not a little money and spend it on a family - then your wife is unlikely to ask questions. 2) If you do not belong to option # 1, then why are you playing poker? - Get out of poker and spend time in class, which will improve the material condition of your family.
 
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