This is a discussion on Do you Apologize in Poker? within the online poker forums, in the General Poker section; I often see some players do it and never got it until recently. They say "sorry man' or "I was lucky - you played well,
I often see some players do it and never got it until recently. They say "sorry man' or "I was lucky - you played well, I'm sorry."
I am beginning to know more and more what it feels like to be on the receiving end of a bad beat. I would definitely like to hear an apology sometimes!
Imagine; you put someone on a hand and you bet in an effort to get them to fold a draw and hand over the chips that are "rightfully yours". After all, you have waited so long to get the cards and make some chips - and BOOM.
Why do some persons hold out for that miracle card?!
I felt bad for this player after winning the hand. He really tried to get me to fold, probably dreading a flush or straight draw.
It's usually a sorry, not sorry situation. You're sorry to put a bad beat on them, but you have more chips. I think anytime I have apologized it's out of the sense of knowing what it feels like, and usually in a bad beat scenario (in my defense though I try not to be in a situation that I can put a bad beat on someone, I try to get it in good )
When I first started playing for real money back in '07 I would apologize from time to time. As I would feel bad to be the donk to suck out on the 'pro'
Then I started thinking about it a little more... it's the donks that the pros want at their table. Because those are the most profitable, and when a donk sucks out, it reinforces his bad habits, which is exactly what a pro wants. So I thought, I'm gicing him what he wants, why apologize?
As I became more proficient I started to realize that I'm going to get sucked out on. It's going to happen. There's nothing that can be done. Conversely, I will continue to suck out on other people. It's a part of the game. So why apologize for part of the game.
Yes I can agree a little consolation is nice from time to time, but I've made nice money after sucking out on someone and then them going on tilt because of it. Tilting hard against me. They were going to 'get their money back!' So I'd tighten up, play ABC, maybe even slow play a little, and boom, they give me everything they have.
So, long answer short. I used to apologize. I don't anymore.
Is folding JKo UTG+1 too nitty?
I don't see any reason to apologize and I don't .. the same beats happen to you .. and sometimes the odds they catch aren't as bad as what might be imagined, and if they played the hand there may be more reasons than that ie. position, sacks size, stage of play in a tournament etc. ... mehh it is what it is .. and I don't believe someone else's apology is sincere in the first place and if it's not I don't want theirs any more than I feel I should give mine ....
" Chance favors only the prepared mind " ~ Louis Pasteur
Our job is to take people's chips, if we suck out, so be it. We want to win chips by any means possible, why would we say sorry for this, vill isn't sorry for taking your chips, so don't be sorry for taking theirs!!
I would rather play right and lose than to play wrong and win
RoW Champ 2014.
And the truth is that it is a good topic, I do not usually apologize when I play online, because I usually play 4 tables continuously. Playing live would be different because you have the person face to face. We all know that in poker it is a round trip, you win a hand that seems impossible and you feel sorry for the other, otherwise you lose one hand that is impossible to lose and the other may feel sorry for you. In poker this is so. It would be great to be able to apologize, but this is poker. You lose and win continuously.
I usually say nothing nor I expect something said to me, luck is a factor in this game, and bad beats are part of it, it is better, in my experience, to stay in a more neutral state of mind when playing and just take these things in stride, no hard feelings on both ends. Good luck on the tables!
Guys I believe that you cant apologize in gambling! You take a decision for some reason, you may feel strong, you may want gamble or anything, but you made an action in order to win or save money. So dont apologize for anything and dont wait an apologise from your enemy!!
no excuse, we don't play poker in matches ... sorry will not say to the neighbor, or friend, brother... there are no friends at the table, because if you look constantly to save someone, you will definitely be bad in the end ...
I never apologized for my game or for the bad beat that happened I don’t see the point. After all, this happens often at the poker table, and if this happened to me, I do not expect the rival foreman to apologize. After all, poker is just a game and if you lose, you must be able to accept defeat and failure and not wait for an apology.
When I think that the opponent played well and I only won, luckily I usually write sorry, I do not regret the fact of winning of course but I show him respect for having lost when he should have won. It's not hypocrisy, it's respect
In my experience with poker chat, it does not tend to go down well. I think it is best just to say nothing. The problem with online textual messages is that people tend to just put their own anger and resentment into whatever people say.
I believe a lot of people translate "sorry" as: "Ha ha sucker *chuckle*!"
Hello the play is not so serious. I would say that is standard would think before Allin pay. with that hand. on the apologies I think in some cases worth. I was never me have asked. I do not think it obligatory to do so but if a player wants to do it do not look bad
Yes,i do sometimes. After bad beats or suckouts for example, but it depends on the tournament. I would never apologize on a Spin & Go. But on tournaments you are playing for hours with the same opponents. Sometimes it's needed. Most of the time not, because nobody cares, if you apologize or not. The chips are gone and it's not possbile to make it undone.
No, I don 't apologize and I don 't need an apology from my opponents, and even if they fight and write crap, I may not pay my attention to it. At all I try not to pay attention to chat during the game.