Dealing with tilt
EVERYTHING we do in life is a conscience decision. Apart from your autonomic nervous system, you are in control of EVERY action you make.
We tend to give off active decision making to subconscious reactions.
For instance; When you walk down the street, you're concentrating on your destination. Your brain has properly learned how to step off, and on curbs for you and you need not think of it. This is symbiotic. We can do stuff as complicated as fly a plane in three dimension while letting our subconscious take certain tasks over for you as you navigate.
In many aspects of our life this is a useful behavior. But it seems that many people have assigned their anger to their subconscious. Even though this is a thing that should remain firmly within your conscious decision making process, they allow it to go away... hidden. This is where it becomes a big problem.
If a big fat slob, the guy you hate most in the world, spits in your face, calls you a sissy, and laughs a big belly laugh, you can still walk away. But only if you understand that getting angry is a decision. This may seem like a great time to get angry. But it's still your choice. And as long as it's your choice, you can CHOOSE when to get angry.
A reaction is nothing more than a decision which has been left to the subconscious to handle. BY YOU. You put it there. Or something forced it there. You need decide what decisions should be there and which should not.
"I'm really sorry sweety, but I lost all our money because my mommy taught me that an angry front is a safe front."
To explain it any further would mean that you have insight as to the ego, superego and the id. And I may chose to use Transactional Analysis to further explain this if the conversation goes that way. It's a deep subject with real simple answers.
The bottom line. You decide to tilt. If you can't find the decision, then it's hidden in your reactionary conscious. The worst place for it to be. In the end, you can get it back, and you must.