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TheseNutsWin

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I think i got some anger issues... lol and poker brings them out even more.. I hate it... Lately every hand i lose after having a bad run i tend to explode... I either yell something or i want to punch the shit out of my screen and trust me if i wouldn't have this nice 24" imac in front of me but my old laptop i probably would have.. I was always a sore loser and tend to get angry about "unlucky" things.. and In poker there is plenty of unlucky "right moves" . You can make all the correct decisions and still lose and that just boils the water inside of me.. I hate it.. After a great run in January , my best i ever had, this month i`m just stuck.. I have won and lost and won and lost and somehow end up at the same level i have started this month.. my bankroll has not moved anyway.. I play the same way.. I even think i play better then last month.. I try to control my limping in and calling OOPS with questionable hands( i guess it took me a whole 1 year of playing 10-20 hours a week to stop doing it) but i`m still not winning, better yet i`m winning less... This just screws with me even more.. I read 2 new books this month.. Killer poker and the Poker Mindset ( conicidentaly telling me how dangerous tilt is i should be doing better but i`m doing worse, mentally). I play a lot of poker for a full time employee... after work, sometimes even during work ( :p i`m so bad...), live games twice a week with friends, from time to time Atlantic City, i`m reading forums, articles, listen to pokerroad radio, watch every wsop, WPT and HIGH STAKES CASH GAMES that are on TV thanks to DVR. I think i`m a bit too much obsessed with it to tell you the truth... I dont want to quit but this anger that is in me is just killing me... I cant see anymore bad beats or i`ll explode.. lol Should i relax and forget about poker for few weeks? I dont want to because i feel like i`ll get worse since poker is a game of constant improvement if i lay if off for some time it will take me some extra time to come back to where i am now... I need a way to stop stressing out as much.... Maybe i`m just not the type of person to be a good poker player.. I`m not a gambler , i actually hate to gamble... even in real life i need every move to be analyzed and make sure i`m making the right choice... lol I`m just a perfectionist... This is not a good trait to have trust me.... Well.. anyway I hope some of you can give me some input and tell me if you've been where i`m here and how you overcame this episode... maybe its not an episode.. anyway.. I think i`m genetically built this way... I stress too much.. My father stressed so much about everything he died of heart problems..... I guess its genetic...
 
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Take a break (if you can) - see whether it helps. Did for me! :)
 
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i know how u feel. last yr i went thru the same thing, except my anger showed it's true colors when i threw my bottled water threw the wall. u should have seen the look on my face when i saw a bottle sticking out of my wall. lol i quickly learned how to resolve my anger issues resulting from poker by taking a break;)
 
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Think you'll do better to shut off the computer, have a drink, and chill for a day or two. Then come back fresh and recover anything you lost with a clear head.
 
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Next time you take a bad beat and get super pissed, just think about how small of a sample that hand actually was over the long scheme of things, it means so little it'll actually make you laugh. :p
If that don't work, beer.
 
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Im current reading Zen poker which is all about attitude more than mindsets in my opinion (although that is in there too).

I think I may have the same problem you have in that maybe sometimes you can play too much poker ( I rarely have anger when I play ).

My dog is getting plenty of walks lately, which gives me fresh air and time away from poker.

Luckily I also have a site with a small amount of cash in as a back up which I will play a game at if I am suffering at stars, this gives me a totally different feeling when I play for some reason, less stress and more freedom to play other games and try different things without too much worry. Stress then playing just causes more stress which isnt good at all maybe something totally different for a hr or two will change your mood. For example Im watching family guy in between my games sometimes just chills me out makes me happy etc.
 
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Get a human sized punching bag and stencil DONKS!!! on it and then whail away. Who knows you could be Golden Gloves material in a few months :D
 
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I used to get angry after losing to a suckout, but I've since convinced myself that the only thing that matters is how I played.

Now I only get really mad when I play badly. If I can stop that, my poker life should be stress free. :D
 
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Sometimes it's better to give yourself a break and try looking at problem from another angle. Why do you get mad? If it makes you mad why do you play it?
 
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The worst thing you can do is keep playing, almost guaranteed to lose playing like that
 
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Thanks guys, problem is i live on poker.. lol i`m so much into it and its such a big part of my daily routine that for me to lay it of for a week or 2 is like laying of a cocaine habit or some other drug.. lol I just feel like i`m loosing on more experience and potentially even money... Well.. I`m gonna try to give my mind a break for 2-3 days.. I`ll try to forget about poker.. Dont watch anything, dont read anything.. dont come to cardschat.. lol.. dont mention poker.. maybe if i get it of my mind for few days i`ll be able to come back and concentrate more in the games.. So starting tomorrow untill friday night i dont want to see, hear anything about poker.. its hard to because my coworkers are also playing it like i do so each day at work we talk about last nights hands and stuff.. so i gotta tell my coworkers. HEY! no poker for few day!! will see how it goes.. :)
 
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Hey, I feel your pain!!

It's hard to do well in poker without a bit of a gambling attitude. I noticed that you said you have stress issues and sound like you're a bit of a control junkie? That's going to eat you up in this game! You're gonna have to realize that those bad beats that you are taking again the "donks" you are probably also dishing out to people with strong hands. It all comes around to you if you wait it out long enough. For me, I found that the best way to improve my game was to find the tables where I have an edge. If there is a monster(s) at your table, you should probably get out and look for some weaker place. Hell, even a "fish" can win if he's the Big fish in a small pond, lol!!

And I totally agree with the other cats on this thread. Kick your feet up for a couple of days and grab a beer or two (not while you're playing ;-) ), and come back to the game with a fresh attitude. Everyone needs a break from a mind game like poker!

Good luck!!
 
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after being on a downswing to a point of no bankroll i took the same advice,took a break.i went back to my old way,if im not having fun why do it.after all its not a job for me.all good points in this thread for sure. by the way i actually have some br now too.
 
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There is a much deeper cause to your anger than poker, sounds to me like you have some real problems with frustration and poker is just one way to vent or express it... rather than blame the game I would look further to see where all this anger is coming from, I'm sure it also expresses in yr daily life...
 
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stop playing at take a refresh because ur gone take bad desitions
 
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