Hand #2 I raise from mid position with j9 suited button calls everyone else folds ( I opened). Flop comes 8910. I raise 2/3 pot he re raise to 2.5x my raise now I put him on a10 which i think I'm correct in saying I'm a coin flip against... I ship it for 3x his raise and he calls with a10. I have 13 outs like which means I'm a coin flip. He wins...
I think you played this correctly but you thought it all wrong.
If the flop is 89T with a flush draw, why did you put him on AT with that raise? Why not 88, 99, TT, QJ, 98s, T9s, 76s, overpairs and any broadway with a T? You put him on a hand that was convinient for you because it was "just" TPTK.
You don't have 13 outs. You have a FD (not obvious but I think I read it right), a OESD, a overcard and a pair that can give you trips but all those can hit your opponent range also.
Any suit gives you a flush (9 cards)
Any Q gives you a straight (3 cards excluding the suit)
Any 7 gives you a straight (3 cards excluding the suit)
Any J gives you two pair (3 cards)
Any 9 gives you trips (2 cards)
That's 20 outs!
PokerStove kindly told me that against the range I wrote above, you are almost a 3:2... not that bad.
The other two hands are plain weird... but I think you are putting yourself in a lot of marginal spots.